Who’s Yo Daddy???

I think we’ve all watched an episode of “The Maury Povich Show” where he reveals the results of a paternity test…  I mean it’s kinda funny watching as the father sits there denying he’s the father while the mother jumps up and down shouting “Look at him/her, they have the same nose and eyes”…  As the show progresses, one of the most disheartening moments is when Maury says “The test results shows you are NOT the father”…  The mother was certain it was his child by the resemblance she thought the man and child shared, but unfortunately the two don’t share the same DNA…

So where am I going with this???  Well glad you asked…  Just use your spiritual minds for a second…  If God was a guest on “The Maury Povich Show” and a paternity test was taken to reveal whether or not he was your spiritual paternal father, some of you would be disappointed in the results…  For the world you put on facades to make you look like him, however the two of you don’t share the same spiritual DNA…  You see some of you profess to be Christians, yet you act nothing like the one you call your Father and Brother… Now this is not a sanctimonious blog, however I’m so over those of you who profess to be Christ and God like, yet you present God in a manner no one would want to serve or love…

So what am I talking about???  Well glad you asked this too…  Some of you are the most judgmental people God ever created and sadly to say, you claim to judge because of your so-called connection with God… You judge people on the way in which he/she looks, acts, dress, places they go, and places they’ve been…  You’re the first to cast people to hell for the sins in which you are not committing or those in which you are struggling with…  Sadly to say, this is not how the one you call Father or Brother works…  You see they (Click HERE to read more)

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Roses Really Smells Like Boo Boo…

 

Would you agree to an open relationship?  A relationship where your mate can freely date and sleep with someone other than yourself?  Yeah I already know your answer, HELL NAW, right???  If he/she can’t only be with you, then you want nothing to do with them, right???  But this is what you say before the emotional connection, good sex, cohabitation, and the wedding vows…  This is what many of you say before the lifestyle you’ve grown accustomed to; before the fear of starting over kicked in…  It’s funny how the very thing we say we would never do, many of us find ourselves doing it…

Some of you today are in an “open relationship”…  You haven’t officially acknowledged this, but you’re with someone who you’re aware is entertaining, sleeping with, and emotionally connected to someone else…  No judgment here, just keeping it 100….  You’re currently in a situation you know damn well isn’t going anywhere.  You don’t trust them and they know it, but they also know you’re not going anywhere.  You’ve weighed out your options and you’ve convinced yourself into believing “Being with someone is better than being alone”, “Everyone has faults, no one is perfect”, “I can’t make it on my own”…  Or how about “He’s just being a man”????  You know that ish you tell (Click HERE to read more)

There Are Bigger Fish, Why Fry Sardines???

 

So I watch lots of TV…  I mean from “My 600lb Life” all the way to “Tom & Jerry”, there’s nothing I won’t watch at least once… But one of my favorite networks is the Food Network, because I love to cook, I love getting different recipes and concepts from the many gifted Chefs featured on the channel…  One show I absolutely love is “Chopped”…  It’s amazing how these people think so quickly on their feet using outrageous ingredients to come up with some amazing meals…  Out of all the shows I’ve watched, there is one ingredient most Chefs struggle with, Sardines… Because of their size, delicacy and saltiness, many of these Chefs fail at their attempt… I’ve seen them sliced up and served raw, baked, but one way in which most fail is frying…

Because Sardines are pretty small in size, most Chefs either overcook them or the Sardines completely fall apart when the choice is made to fry them…  So where am I going with this?  Well many of you are trying to fry sardines in your lives…  You’re blinded by the small fish (things) when so many other people and sometimes even you have much bigger fish (problems) in your pantries to fry…  Now in no way am I trying to negate your problems, because those are your problems and I respect that…  But some of you are bent out of shape over things in the grand scheme of things aren’t really important…  You know like your relationship status, a few (Click HERE to read more)

She’s An “Alpha Dog”…

 

So yesterday I couldn’t help overhearing a conversation two women were having at the table next to where I was sitting…  From what I could tell, one of the women (single) were having some relationship issues, so the other woman (married) was giving her opinion on the situation… To be honest, I really think the married woman wanted me to join in on the conversation by the volume in which she chose to give her response, but I digressed and kept it moving…

As I sat there, I couldn’t help but hearing “Girl, you have to be an Alpha Dog, but know when to be obedient”..,  WTF???, and the “F” ain’t for “Fudge”…  Now if a man told a woman to be “obedient”, not only would all hell break loose, but her weave would met from the heat of hell breaking loose …  Now I get the whole “Alpha Dog” thing, but no one, whether you are male or female should ever take on the mindset of being “obedient”…  YOU ARE NOT A CHILD OR A DOG!!!!

Now one thing that gets me fired up about women and especially married women is they think they know what a man wants and has the best advice on how to get a man…  The single woman in this situation I know personally…  She’s beautiful, super smart, a fashionista and at her core  (Click HERE to read more)

Expectations…

 

Most people know I’m a “Jeans and T” kind of guy…  As much as I love fashion and even love how I look when I get all dressed up, if I could throw on a pair of jeans, a T-Shirt and a pair of Converse, I would be in hog heaven…  Here recently I was promoted at work…  The position is more demanding, requires me to be in multiple meetings a week, and it is one that is more visible to people who aren’t in our department…  Just this morning I began to notice how in some regards I’ve stepped up my appearance…  Not that I look bad before, but I’m taking somewhat more time in the morning thinking through what I’m going to wear…  Everyone around has remained the same, but I’ve changed…

Being honest with not only myself, but you…  Subconsciously I convinced myself into believing this is what is either required or expected of me… I convinced myself that I’m expected to wear slacks, either a polo or button down shirt and some days, even a blazer or sports coat…  No one told me this, it’s just an added pressure I believe I’ve placed on myself…  I’m the only overdressed guy on the team every day… Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with dressing up, but if it goes against the core of who you are, then there may be an issue there… As stated earlier, I’m a jeans guy… I’m laid back and I work in a laid back environment, but as soon as I received the promotion, I changed to fit in to a perception of what I thought I should be…

Now where am I going with this you’re wondering…  Well many of you have changed because of the expectations you believe has been placed on you.  It’s funny how when we get into relationships, we feel as though we can’t do the things we did when we were single, so we deprive ourselves…  How when we accept Jesus as our personal Lord and Savior, we feel we can no longer go to places we enjoyed, so we stop and later secretly resent ever committing to Christ because we feel we’re missing out on life…  How about when people get married, they believe it’s a requirement or expectation they can no longer deal with their single friends, so they cut them off (Click HERE to read more)

Pieces Of “The Perfect One”…

 

So yesterday I was chatting with a buddy of mine and he shared some things going on in his life…  Outside of the normal hustle and bustle, I thought this guy had somewhat of a normal life, but boy was I surprised…  He has an amazing job, he’s super intelligent; has a wife, kiddos, and a girlfriend…  YUP, A GIRLFRIEND…  Now he caught me off guard with this one, but hey no judgment here…  As we continued to talk and he continued to share his journey, he said something that really stuck with me…  “One person can never be your everything, so why make them your only?” Now whether or not I completely agree with this is irrelevant, that’s his truth and I appreciate the fact he’s found and living it…  He believes what his wife lacks, his girlfriend packs…  For him, he’s taking the best of them to make the person woman in his life…  It’s almost like a puzzle, he’s combining pieces to make the masterpiece…

As ludicrous as this may sound, I believe the reason this stuck with me is because there is some truth to it… So let me ask those of you who are either married or currently in a relationship…  Does the one you’re with check off everything on your list???  Be honest with yourself… Is there anything you would tweak about him/her??? Anything you want him/her to possess that they don’t???  Well I know there are some of you who believe your mate has everything you want, but does he/she view you the same???  PROBABLY NOT!!!!  No matter (Click HERE to read more)

“Love” Looks Like Your Past…

 

Sometimes love is beautiful, but there are times in which love is ugly…  It isn’t a “feel good all the time” type of feeling…  Sometimes it causes us to cry, lose sleep, worry, stress and sometimes causes us to do things we would have never imagined… Love has been known to blind us to the flaws, imperfections, and errors of the one we choose to gift it to…  It has also been known to open our eyes to things we don’t want to see or hear when we gift it to ourselves… Love can feel like a punishment from time to time because it floods our hearts and drown our thoughts, but only you know what love looks like to you…

Love has taken the fall for telling, as well as accepting lies…  It has been used as the reason some choose to stay in situations in which they currently hate…  Love (Click HERE to read more)