Show Interest, Don’t Chase…

What I’ve chosen to write about today, many of you struggle in this area… You go on a date, enjoy the encounter, but someway somehow you screw things up… The date ended well and you left with hopes of her/him contacting you soon, but as time passes without hearing from them, you begin to panic…. You struggle with the thought of texting or calling, or if whether or not you should allow him/her to make the first move… After much back and forth, you decide to take the plunge and send a text… Anxiously awaiting a response, you become impatient and when he/she finally responds, you over analyze it…  You sent “Good Morning”, they replied “Good Morning”, but that wasn’t enough for you…  You wanted “Good Morning, how are you?  Enjoyed last night, thanks for an amazing time…” to validate your existence and the impact in which you had on their life… 

So let me get to my point…  As written in “How to Win the Dating Game” (Get your copy by clicking HERE), the biggest game both men and women play when dating is “The Waiting Game”…  We’ve all played it, so no judgement here, but playing this game only proves you are a loser…  Some (Click HERE to read more)

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Women Were Born With Running Shoes On…

 

Fellas, what do you think would happen if you told a woman up front, “I’m a hoe”????  “I’ve been known to tell a few lies in my past”???  “My last relationship ended because I cheated”???  “I’m married, not separated, MARRIED”???   Do you think she would run???  Say “Check please”???  Stop accepting your calls and answering your text???  If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, more than likely you’ve been working harder than you should and to be honest, you’ve probably waited longer to get a taste of the cookies than needed…  Honesty is always the best policy and it will always get you more…

Throughout history it has been proven, women love “Bad Boys”…  They love the chase that comes with men who have a dark side…  It’s like women want to be the shining light that helps him see the woman he should turn over a new leaf for…  Now of course it’s 2016…  A time in which everyone, both male and female withhold tid bits of information in the very beginning…  No one on the first date or even the first couple of dates share all of their past dealings, but when you feel the time is right, she’s able to handle the truth, and she’s someone you want to keep around for a minute…  You should go for it…  Don’t withhold the truth, she’s not going NOWHERE…  Now don’t fall into the trap many knuckle heads of the pass have fallen into…  Be a man and tell her before she finds out, this will only prevent you telling lies… This is how the foolishness of “All Men Are Dogs” all got started, let’s change tradition…

Now as ludicrous as this may sound, it’s truth…  Women love the chase and sometimes it seems (Click HERE to read more)

GROW UP!!!

 

Fellas, don’t you just hate when women play games???  Games like giving you a gift to get a reaction out of you???  Acting a certain way to get a reaction out of you???  Saying things to get a reaction out of you???  Using your grind, passion, and dreams as a way into your life???  Sex as a weapon???  Your children as a distraction???  And games like ending the relationship to find out if you truly care or care at all???  Instead of being the “Real Woman” they say they are and approaching the “Real Man” they have, they choose to act like an immature @$$ girl and take the low road…  So for you ladies that are reading today, “Good Men” are reaching a point of no return and some of them are “Straight Outta F..ks” to give…

Over the weekend, I had brunch with a buddy and lunch with a homegirl who doesn’t know each other, but they are the “other” person in each others relationship…  So here’s what I mean…  He’s a great guy who dated this chic who didn’t realize he was a great catch when they were dating, but now she’s doing everything possible to gain him back….   My homegirl on the other hand is the chic who dated a great guy, but didn’t realize what she had at the time and now doing everything to get him back with no success…  So I got both sides and I want to share something with you women who are reading and guilty of doing some of the things I’ve listed above…  If you know in your heart you’ve done or currently doing any of the above, GROW THE HELL UP…  YOU’RE TOO OLD FOR THAT ISH…  If you have a “Good Man”, stop playing games seeking validation of where you stand in his life…  If your self-esteem is low or you are insecure in yourself, knowing where you stand in his life isn’t going to fix the problem…  Fix the real problem (YOU), and you’ll see your relationship fix itself…

So you’re wondering why I always write about “Good Men”, well it’s because you have Steve Harvey, Rickey Smiley and all these other kats to talk about the men who won’t commit; men who are cheating and telling lies; and you have them (Click HERE to read more)

We Just Kickin’ It…

 

“We just kickin’ it” is the reason some of your windows have been busted out your car, your tires were slit, and the reason those “Sexting” pictures were plastered all over Social Media…  It’s the reason you were cursed out, nearly punched/slapped, and the reason many of you are living with a butt load of regrets…  Whether it was you who spoke the words or you who received the words, today you wish you would have never laid eyes on him/her….

So exactly what does “we just kickin’ it” actually means?   Well according to the “I’ve Been Played” Dictionary it means there isn’t a commitment; both parties are in agreement with a “no strings attached” type of situation, both parties are free to date multiple people at once…  As liberating and freeing as this type of situation appears to be, it has left many of you chained to hurt, feelings of being used, and hate for someone who may or may not be guilty…

So when and where does “we just kickin’ it” go wrong?  Well it goes wrong when one of the two people offers; freely gives, or responds to a request without clearly (Click HERE to read more)

“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

Thoughts of suicide run through my mind, hurt fills my heart and pain is now my best friend. I’ve been hurting for so long until now I’m numb to everything. Drowning in pain I find myself trapped in a world of misery, I hold the key to the cell, but the hurt keeps me sitting in a corner like a helpless child. I’ve prayed for help, a breakthrough and deliverance, but nothing seems to be happening. The world I’ve worked so hard to build is crumbling right before my eyes, but no one seems to see I’m crumbling right along with it.

Right now I’m hanging on by a thread and the only thing getting me through the day is my faith in the fact God is going to turn this around for my good. I’m on an emotional roller coaster, broken, hurting and I’m ready to give up. Every morning I dread going through the day. Life has become so draining and I’m tired of having to live my life as though nothing is going wrong.

I’m tired of doing the right thing; tired of treating those who purposely and maliciously set out to harm me(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )