Have A TRUMPtastic Day!!!

 

Exactly one week ago today America unknowingly was about to experience the biggest political upset since President George W. Bush and Vice President Al Gore…  Now let me put this out here…  Neither Trump nor Clinton has been invited to my home for dinner, neither are my friend, nor do I expect to receive a birthday call from either of them….  So with that said, this post is not “For” or “Against” either Candidate….  I was prepared to continue living my life the same regardless to which candidate won, however for many of you, this isn’t the case…

Some of you are “fearful” of Trump and what he is capable of doing….  So as I’ve watched the news, read numerous articles, and I’ve had countless conversations about this subject, I believe I’ve figured out why so many of you are afraid…   Well, we live in a world where “racial slurs” are laughed at…  Where the word “Nigga”, “Nigger”, “Chink”, “Cracker”, “Wetback”, “Coon”, and so many other slurs are plastered all over individuals newsfeed and pages…  A world where threats of shipping someone back to their (Click HERE to read more)

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When They’ve Asked You To Let Go…

 

The problem many of you are facing is you’re holding onto a person who has asked you to set them free…  Whether it’s through their actions or words, they’ve asked to be let go of, yet you’re holding on…  Did you know holding onto someone who wants to be free is more painful than letting them go???  That as long as they’re unhappy with you, you’re going to be unhappy with them???  Well it’s true…  Holding on to someone who has either moved on physically, emotionally or mentally is only keeping you chained to unhappiness and misery…

So you ask, “John, how do I let them go?” and that’s a pretty darn good question…  Well first you ask yourself, “Who and what’s more important???”  So many times we confuse love with fear…  Many of you if you were to be completely honest with yourselves, you’ve fallen out of love with him/her…  You no (Click HERE to read more)

The Power Of A Secret…

 

Some of you are prisoners to a secret…  You’ve allowed the darkness of your actions to enclose you in a room built with walls of fear…  At one point in your life something you did could possibly change the view and perceptions others have of you, so today you’re chained to and have given your power to a secret….  A secret you shouldn’t have told… A secret you’ve buried in the deepest parts of your mind…  A secret of something you shouldn’t have done…  A secret you enjoy privately, but publicly ashamed of…  You’re living in fear of the world finding out and as a result of this, you’re holding yourself back because you fear if your light shine too bright someone will dim it by exposing your secret…

Maybe it’s a secret you’re keeping from your spouse/mate…  A secret in which happened way before the two of you ever met, but you fear if he/she finds out, the relationship is over…  Your secret could be multiple sexual partners individually or multiple all together…  It could be in your past relationship you were an abuser…  You have a child you’ve never claimed, acknowledged, or even taken the time to visit…  It could be the reason you lack a sexual appetite Is because during sex you’re reminded of when you were molested as a young boy or girl…  Whatever your secret is, it has power over you and impacting your relationship…

 

Maybe your secret is one you don’t want the church to know…  A secret in which happened way before or even still today…  Your secret could be you’re struggling with (Click HERE to read more)

We Had A Deal…

I received an email from a reader that was filled with questions about what her next move should be….  Currently she’s in a situation in which the man made it known from day one it would be nothing more than sex….  She states out of the four years she’s been involved with him they’ve never been a couple, never gone out on a date, she’s never met his family or friends, nor has she ever been to his house…  Sex is what he wanted, what she gave, and what the two of them enjoyed.   On the surface it would seem as though he’s possibly married and she’s possibly a fool, but like many of you reading, she’s just a woman who wants a man…  She continues to say “I can’t even be disappointed and point blame at him in this, because since the beginning he has remained constant in everything he said and did.  It was me whose expectations changed.”  It’s funny how “sex” changes everything…  How we believe we’re cool with just “kicking it” and how we feel we can handle a “no strings attached” arrangement.  They had a deal, one in which she thought she could maintain, but now she has desires to change the terms of agreement…

So she asked, “How do you move on from a person, who you still want, but they don’t want you?”  Now on the surface this seems like a no brainer, but when (Click HERE to read more)

What Took You So Long???

Many times walking away from what we know as our lives can be very difficult…  Because we are creatures of habit, change sometimes seems impossible…  We find ourselves days, weeks, months and sometimes even years in situations which aren’t beneficial to our future…  Holding on, afraid, and doubting whether or not we can make it without the very thing we should let go…

We’ve all heard “We attract who we are”, and many of you have disputed this…  You believe the people you’ve attracted aren’t always a good representation of the person you know yourself to be… So let me clear this up…  The quote isn’t talking about those who approach us in the grocery store, club, church, or gym…  It’s not speaking of the people who finds us physically attractive and gussies up the nerves to make it known hoping for a mutual feeling…  This quote references the people who we attract and later find ourselves in relationships with, whether it was a month, year or years…  What was it about the “core” of you that called for the “core” of them???  What was it about the “core” of who they were that caused the “core” of who you were to stay in a situation you now know wasn’t any good for you???  Only you can answer these questions, but I do want to know…  Why did you stay???  What took you so long to realize this wasn’t something you needed in your life?

Recently I’ve had conversations with two beautiful women who I love dearly…  One is recently single, while the other struggles in a relationship she knows will eventually end…  I asked one “Why did you stay?” and the other I asked, “Why are you still there?”…  Like many of you, one stayed because she was tired of starting over…  She’s at an age where she wants (Click HERE to read more)

The Fear Of A Single Woman…

For some of you ladies, going your entire life never being married, having kids, and dying alone is your greatest fear.   You’re afraid all the time and energy you’ve put into your appearance; time and money you’ve used towards your education; prayer and fasting you’ve submitted, will all be in vain.   You’re afraid you’ll always be the “Bridesmaid” and never the “Bride”; forever be the third wheel, and eventually you’re going to be the “Old Maid”.  You’re afraid of the wrinkles; sagging and drooping; aching and popping occurring and possibly eliminating you from walking down the aisle in the dressed you’ve dreamed of for years…  You’re afraid of forever being single…

The church says wait and let him find you, but no matter how hard you try to be the damsel in distress, Boaz never arrives to save you…   You’ve dated men in the church, told them “No, I want to wait until I get married” and after waiting for you to break, eventually they left you for another woman in the same church with a “Yes”…  You’ve followed all the rules in the “Good Book”; paid your tithes, but that tall, dark and handsome blessing still hasn’t fallen out of the windows of heaven…  “God created me to be married” is what you used to say, but now as time is passing, you’re beginning to fear God has forgotten all about the desires of your heart…

The world says you have to look this way; be this size; act like this and even after you’ve followed all their rules, Prince Charming never rode in on that beautiful white horse to whisk you away.  You’ve tried clubbing, no success…  You’ve tried going to church, no success…   You’ve even tried hitting the gym, still no success… You’ve shredded the fat, had liposuction, tummy tuck, booty lift, Botox,  (Click HERE to read more)

When “Enough Is Enough”

Some of you reading this post are currently in a situation you know you shouldn’t be in, but for whatever reason, you’re there.  Your family and friends have advised you to leave, your head is telling you to walk away, but for whatever reason, you’re still there.   A valuable lesson I had to learn for myself is no matter how bad others want you to walk away from a situation, until you’re ready, there’s nothing anyone can do or say that will convince you otherwise.   You see the signs just like they do…  Recognize the person or it is no good for you just like they do…  And deep down inside you know you should walk away just like they do…  BUTTTT, you’re still there…

Many of you are still in situations because you haven’t reached the point of “enough is enough”…  You know that point when there’s nothing they can say or do to keep you there…  The point when you’ll continue to pay your half of the rent at their place where your name is on the lease and play full rent at your new place to be rid of them…  You haven’t reached that point where you don’t care what others are going to say about your failed marriage, failed relationship, or your failures in general…  Currently (Click HERE to read more)