The Two Women He Needs…

So this past Saturday I had lunch with a buddy who’s currently in the final stages of his divorce… For the past 13 years he’s been married to what he considered the “Love Of His Life”… 13 years, 3 kids, and countless arguments later, they’ve decided to call it a quits… Over the past year, they’ve placed themselves on an emotional roller coaster filled with love; hate; can’t stand you; can’t live without your moments… I mean 13 years is a long time, but when it’s over, IT’S OVER!!!

So as we talked I asked what his next steps was… He was kinda afraid to get back out there, but to be honest I think it’s exactly what he needs… So I advised him to keep two women in his pockets. Before you jump off the deep and think I’m encouraging him to be a “Playa”, let me explain… He needs a woman he dates, but he also needs a woman he f..ks… Let me break it down…

Woman He Dates:

This woman serves a mental and emotional building for him… Because he’s been in a marriage for 13 years, he’s feeling the residue of the toxic. He’s unsure of himself; doesn’t feel good in his skin; neither can he see just how good looking of a guy he is, or how amazing of a man he is. His soon to be ex-wife did (Click HERE to read more)

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Pieces Of “The Perfect One”…

 

So yesterday I was chatting with a buddy of mine and he shared some things going on in his life…  Outside of the normal hustle and bustle, I thought this guy had somewhat of a normal life, but boy was I surprised…  He has an amazing job, he’s super intelligent; has a wife, kiddos, and a girlfriend…  YUP, A GIRLFRIEND…  Now he caught me off guard with this one, but hey no judgment here…  As we continued to talk and he continued to share his journey, he said something that really stuck with me…  “One person can never be your everything, so why make them your only?” Now whether or not I completely agree with this is irrelevant, that’s his truth and I appreciate the fact he’s found and living it…  He believes what his wife lacks, his girlfriend packs…  For him, he’s taking the best of them to make the person woman in his life…  It’s almost like a puzzle, he’s combining pieces to make the masterpiece…

As ludicrous as this may sound, I believe the reason this stuck with me is because there is some truth to it… So let me ask those of you who are either married or currently in a relationship…  Does the one you’re with check off everything on your list???  Be honest with yourself… Is there anything you would tweak about him/her??? Anything you want him/her to possess that they don’t???  Well I know there are some of you who believe your mate has everything you want, but does he/she view you the same???  PROBABLY NOT!!!!  No matter (Click HERE to read more)

“Love” Looks Like Your Past…

 

Sometimes love is beautiful, but there are times in which love is ugly…  It isn’t a “feel good all the time” type of feeling…  Sometimes it causes us to cry, lose sleep, worry, stress and sometimes causes us to do things we would have never imagined… Love has been known to blind us to the flaws, imperfections, and errors of the one we choose to gift it to…  It has also been known to open our eyes to things we don’t want to see or hear when we gift it to ourselves… Love can feel like a punishment from time to time because it floods our hearts and drown our thoughts, but only you know what love looks like to you…

Love has taken the fall for telling, as well as accepting lies…  It has been used as the reason some choose to stay in situations in which they currently hate…  Love (Click HERE to read more)

You Ain’t Tired Yet…

 

People always ask me, “John, when do I know?”  and my response is, “You’ll know when you’re tired of it”… 

One of my biggest mistakes in my past is NOT enjoying where I was at that particular moment… Just like many of you I’ve been in relationships, worked jobs, attended churches and have been a part of some pretty crappy stuff…  The entire time I was a part of it, just like many of you, I complained about it…  I complained about not being happy, nothing going in the direction I wanted, and about how things could be so much better…   I knew I should have walked away, but I stayed and not only did I stay, I constantly reminded myself just how miserable I was…  You see, I should have made the best of the situation seeing that I wasn’t going anywhere…  I should have found the light at the end of the tunnel, saw the glass as half full opposed to half empty, but just like many of you reading, I allowed myself to drown in a pool of unhappiness in which I was filling myself… 

Looking back in hindsight, I now see I was responsible for my unhappiness…  Yeah I’m the one to blame for staying in situations that added no value to my life…  I could have easily walked away, but there were things that (Click HERE to read more)

“Love” Works That Way…

 

 

Whether you’re male/female, black/white, gay/straight or skinny/fat, at the core of you is the desire to be truly accepted for who you are and to be loved regardless of who you are… “Love” is something many of you are clueless to how it feels, therefore you find yourselves in situations in which “love” hurts horribly…  I’ve been in love…  I’ve been in what I thought was love…  And I’ve also dealt with situations in which there was no love…  “Love” is something we all want, but if love makes #bae lie, cheat, hit or kill, don’t love me just leave me the hell alone… 

Today I want to share with you 4 things I’ll be damn I allow love to bring into my life…

If love makes you “lie”, don’t love me, just leave me the hell alone…  What I know for sure is…  “Love” may not keep someone from lying to you, but it will keep them from holding onto the lie…  It’s something about lying to the person in which you love that makes your conscious uneasy…  Initially the other person may believe you and move on, but because of your own guilt, you just can’t live with the lie.  When you lie, your conscious eats away at you because of the love for that person…  You may have lied, but eventually you will come forth with the truth…  “Love” works that way…

If love makes you “cheat”, don’t love me, just leave me the hell alone…  What I know for sure is…  “Love” may not keep someone from looking at booty, tits, and even wondering what it would feel like to get all up in that, but it will keep them from going through with it…  It’s something about cheating on the person in which you love that makes your conscious uneasy…  Initially (Click HERE to read more)

Should A Woman Approach A Man???

Should a woman approach a man? Ask him out on a date? Does it make her look desperate or weak??? Check out my video and find out my thoughts…

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People Can Change…

 

So it’s 2:33 a.m. this morning and my phone rings…  Without looking I answered and man was I surprised…  The voice was familiar, but one I haven’t heard in years… After a long moment of silence I sit up, look at my phone to confirm who I thought it was, and respond “Yeah I’m here”…  Let’s fast forward to about twenty minutes into the conversation…

John, I’m truly sorry for anything I’ve done to cause you any hurt or pain.  You were nothing but good to me and didn’t deserve how I treated you.  A lot has changed since we were together including me.  I wanted to know if your heart was big enough to forgive me and give us a second chance…

As I listened, I smiled…  I smiled not because time has revealed what was loss, but because time has revealed what was gained…  In the six years I’ve been single, I’ve gained so much… I’ve gained a peace that many people can’t understand…  I’ve gained the power of forgiveness, self-love, and the power of knowing exactly who I am and what I deserve…  I’ve gained the comfort of knowing being single isn’t the end of the world and gained the truth a relationship can’t complete me, but should complement me…  I’ve gained so much from moving forward, so much that I’m unwilling to lose it going backwards…

People can change…  People can realize the errors of their ways and become someone new…  Some (Click HERE to read more)