Pieces Of “The Perfect One”…

 

So yesterday I was chatting with a buddy of mine and he shared some things going on in his life…  Outside of the normal hustle and bustle, I thought this guy had somewhat of a normal life, but boy was I surprised…  He has an amazing job, he’s super intelligent; has a wife, kiddos, and a girlfriend…  YUP, A GIRLFRIEND…  Now he caught me off guard with this one, but hey no judgment here…  As we continued to talk and he continued to share his journey, he said something that really stuck with me…  “One person can never be your everything, so why make them your only?” Now whether or not I completely agree with this is irrelevant, that’s his truth and I appreciate the fact he’s found and living it…  He believes what his wife lacks, his girlfriend packs…  For him, he’s taking the best of them to make the person woman in his life…  It’s almost like a puzzle, he’s combining pieces to make the masterpiece…

As ludicrous as this may sound, I believe the reason this stuck with me is because there is some truth to it… So let me ask those of you who are either married or currently in a relationship…  Does the one you’re with check off everything on your list???  Be honest with yourself… Is there anything you would tweak about him/her??? Anything you want him/her to possess that they don’t???  Well I know there are some of you who believe your mate has everything you want, but does he/she view you the same???  PROBABLY NOT!!!!  No matter (Click HERE to read more)

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It’s Just A Text…

 

So I have this buddy who today finds himself in a very difficult situation…  Long story short…  A few years ago there were a few text messages sent to another woman; wifey found out about it and still to this day, he’s paying for it…  Now to him, it was just a text message…  He didn’t sleep with her, so what’s the big deal he asks…  Per our conversation there were no inappropriate pictures or “I love you” found in the text messages, however the tone could be interpreted as inappropriate….  Now he swears nothing sexual ever transpired; there were no dates or secret meetings, but his wife still finds it hard to move on from…  He’s struggling with why she’s making it such a big deal when in his eyes, he did nothing wrong…

Now before you go off on my bud, wifey isn’t innocent herself…  In the past she’s done her share of dirt, made a few mistakes and she’s even put doubt in his mind regarding where he stands within her life…  You know how you women do…  “I can go find me another man”, “I’ve had better”, (Click HERE to read more)

Physically Married, Mentally Single…

If I had enough time I would go into great detail regarding what I’m about to share with you, but unfortunately, you’re going to have to get the abbreviated version…  At one time in my life I committed a crime in which  I regretted….  I’m not proud of it, but since committing the crime, I’ve paid for it (Karma is a beyotch…) and forgiven myself which grants me the freedom to share it with you today, so here we go…  I slept with the wife of one of my rivals… Not proud of it, but it happened and since then, I’ve freed myself of the shame…   Both she and I shared a common bond at least I thought…  I secretly knew my reasons and thought I knew hers, but boy was I wrong…  This chic was “Physically Married, but Mentally Single”…  Now don’t get me wrong this guy was a jerk and at that time, I could see why she would step out on him…  But here’s the kicker, I wasn’t the only guy she used…  Years later I found out ole girl had not only been with me, but other men and a few women too…  Dayum, I feel violated…  (Not really, just sounds like the right thing to say today…)

So where am I going with this???  Well some of you reading today are “Physically Married, but Mentally Single”…  You have a wife/husband at home, but you’re sharing their treasure with others… Trust me when I say, I get we all have our reasons and ish in which we’re dealing with, but if you’re going to be married, you need to be married…   I don’t care (Click HERE to read more)

Drop Him Like A Mic…

 

So on last night I had a phone interview with the “Let’s Face It Radio Show”…  Phenomenal Host’s, great panel, and great conversation…  However throughout this show, I realize exactly why so many of you women are struggling in your relationships or settling for men who to be quite frank are losers… Coach Ellis brought to the table an interesting point of view, some his truths I completely agree with, however there are a few I found to be very interesting… Throughout the show, he continued to say “Men this”, “Men that”, “Men don’t”,  you get the picture, and I found that somewhat a struggle of mine…  You see just like women, he categorized all men as being the same…  And this is far from the truth…

One topic discussed was commitment or being faithful…  Coach Ellis believes it is somewhat challenging or impossible for a man to be faithful because it is in the nature of men to look, venture out, stray like a dog…  His belief is it’s just the nature of a man to do these things and I believe this is why so many of you women are with men who do not respect you or your relationship…  As stated in several of my blogs, there are men who are capable of being truthful to their woman because he sees the value of her…  Every man doesn’t cheat, lie, steal or kill… Every man doesn’t find it to be a struggle staying committed to his woman because he was raised by a man who was committed to his mother (Father)…  Every man doesn’t have to use his “Johnson” to prove he’s a man, some men just are confident in their own skin to know it…  So ladies, here are five things you need to ponder if your man uses “it’s the nature of a man” as a reason to treat you or your relationship in a way that’s less deserving…

  • If your man finds it challenging or impossible to stay committed to you because “it’s the nature (Click HERE to read more)

“The “Side Piece’s” Chronicles…”

 

Social Media can sometimes be very misleading…  It’s the one place people can paint a picture of a life in which they want the world to see…  Pictures which beautifully portray a life of success and happiness, but there are those who chooses to paint pictures in which hides the truth…  Have you ever checked out someone’s page and by looking at their pictures and postings, you would never guess they were married???  Plastered all over their wall are pictures of him/her hanging out with their boys/girls; pictures showing off their muscles whether it’s topless or in a bikini, or how about the selfies and pictures taken all by themselves…  On the surface there are no traces, clues or indications waiting at home is “Bae”, “Boo”, “Wifey/Hubby”…

So many times the “Side Piece” takes the fall for a crime in which they were completely unaware they were committing…  Hoodwinked into believing the one they were sleeping with, possibly engaged to and sadly to say, possibly living with was clear, free, and able to date…   There were no indications the person was involved, married, or separated….   I know you’re thinking, “They had to know???”; “They should have picked up on the signs…  You know like unable to talk at night, always rushing off the phone, unable to hangout on the weekends….”    Because we live in a world where people text more than they talk…  A world where people travel, temporarily relocate and house in other cities, and a world where it’s not suspicious for a person to receive emails or text messages in the wee hours of the night, it’s easy to fall into the trap (Click HERE to read more)

“I’m Not Enough???”

 

If you’ve ever been cheated on, you can relate when I say, it can mess with your mind if you’re not careful…  Cheating has been known to destroy relationships/marriages, sabotage self-esteem, and crush the egos of many men and women… Depending on the person, determines the damage….

With cheating, I believe there are three sides to this story… You have the cheater’s angle, the side piece angle, and the one who’s being cheated on angle…  I think I’ve talked enough about the man’s side, so today I want to talk about the one who has been cheated on… (Make sure to stay tuned for “The Side Piece’s Chronicles”…)  When you get to the core of the question “Why do men cheat???”, I truly believe the person is asking “Am I not enough???”  When cheated on, most people tend to make the decision of the cheater about them…  They personalize it; create and accept blame for it, and they own it as if they’re the person who committed the crime.     The decisions of a cheater regardless to whether they are male or female has nothing to do with the one being cheated on… It is their choice to step outside of the relationship and regardless to whether or not you’re the best mate ever, he/she can still make the choice to cheat…

I’ve cheated and I’ve been cheated on, so I know from experience how both sides feel…  I also know (Click HERE to read more)

I Wish My Woman Said That!!!

 

So this morning at the gym I ran into a buddy of mine who has been working his butt off to end year 47 in the best shape ever…  Tomorrow is his birthday, so when seeing him I couldn’t help but notice the progress he’s made since truly committing not only his body, but his mind to transformation… He’s shredded the pounds, visually more defined, and looking pretty darn good…  So I said to him, “Bro, you’re really looking good…  All your hard work has truly paid off, you can really see the results”.  He instantly responded, “I wish my wife said that”.  Of course I just laughed it off, but my creative wheels started turning…

Today I want to talk to the women who are married, seriously dating, and to those of you who are longing to be in a relationship…  It’s sad but true, many of you believe your man doesn’t need validation from time to time…  You believe there isn’t a need or desire to hear words that validates his place in your life…  You’ve allowed the world to convince you men aren’t really into their appearance; need the support of his woman; encouraged (Click HERE to read more)