You Ain’t Tired Yet…

 

People always ask me, “John, when do I know?”  and my response is, “You’ll know when you’re tired of it”… 

One of my biggest mistakes in my past is NOT enjoying where I was at that particular moment… Just like many of you I’ve been in relationships, worked jobs, attended churches and have been a part of some pretty crappy stuff…  The entire time I was a part of it, just like many of you, I complained about it…  I complained about not being happy, nothing going in the direction I wanted, and about how things could be so much better…   I knew I should have walked away, but I stayed and not only did I stay, I constantly reminded myself just how miserable I was…  You see, I should have made the best of the situation seeing that I wasn’t going anywhere…  I should have found the light at the end of the tunnel, saw the glass as half full opposed to half empty, but just like many of you reading, I allowed myself to drown in a pool of unhappiness in which I was filling myself… 

Looking back in hindsight, I now see I was responsible for my unhappiness…  Yeah I’m the one to blame for staying in situations that added no value to my life…  I could have easily walked away, but there were things that (Click HERE to read more)

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Take Your Life Back…

 

Some of you reading are messed up all because of a dude…  A dude who called himself a man, but really he was no more than a boy… He was the one you loved, yet he’s the one who broke your heart and ever since, you’ve been unable to pick up the pieces and move on…  

You loved him, he lied to you…  You cherished him, he cheated on you… You spoke highly of him, he spoke down to you…  He was your world, but you’re left feeling as though you were no more than his “hoe”.  So why are you letting this dude do this to you?  Why are you allowing what he’s done in the past effect your future?  Isn’t your happiness worth you letting him go?  Isn’t your peace worth you moving forward?  Isn’t your future worth you freeing yourself of the things you can’t change in your past?

Why are you holding onto someone who has let you go?  Holding onto the words, actions, and deeds they’ve done?  Is it because you gave him the best years of your life?  Is it because he was your first and only?  Is it because you believe you are nothing, empty, or incomplete without him?  Why (Click HERE to read more)

Women Are Abusers Too…

 

Sadly to say, there are some women who aren’t satisfied unless there’s an argument, drama, confusion, or unless their man is all bent out of shape…  “Drama” has become their permanent address, the place in which they mentally reside and when a sign of “peace” is on the arisen, they do something to screw it up…   These women are incapable of being content with happiness and peace, therefore they push buttons to bring madness into their lives…

So maybe you remember my post “He Didn’t Make You Insecure, You Did” from a few weeks ago….  The same guy I mentioned in that post struck up a conversation with me again this morning…  New toilet, but the same ole shit….  So long story short…  The week I posted the blog she punched him in the face that weekend, the cops came and arrested her, they’re no living together and of course, today she’s sorry and wanting him to forgive her…  So where am I going with this??? Well brothers, if you’re with a woman who is not treating you well or has the audacity to slap or punch you, LEAVE HER… No argument, action or words warrant anyone putting their hands on another person…

Now sadly to say, some of you women reading are currently hitting your man…  You’re what I like to call a “Button Pusher”…  You’re testing (Click HERE to read more)

When You Have To Make Excuses For Your Mate…

 

So last night I was flipping through the channels and came across “What Happens Live” hosted by Andy Cohen…  His guest were Real Housewives of Atlanta cast member Kenya Moore and comedian Sandra Bernhard…  Now if you’ve seen the sneak preview of this season of RHOA, you know Kenya Moore has a few clips of her dealing with domestic violence… On the show last night Andy ask Kenya if her boyfriend had anger management issues (nice way of putting “Is he abusive?”) and to my surprise, Kenya says “No”…  She goes on to state he’s young, immature (probably the wrong thing to say on National TV), and hasn’t learned how to process, cope, and deal with his feelings and emotions…

Now this is a guy she has alleged kicked in the door of her hotel room, you’ve seen a clip of him vandalizing her property, checking her phone and there is probably more, but she’s too ashamed to put it out there…  Like Kenya, many of you are justifying and making excuses for the abusive, destructive, and unhealthy behaviors of your mate… Maybe he/she hasn’t punched you in your face, but they’ve punched your mental and spiritual being numerous times…  Maybe he/she hasn’t cut you with a knife, but they’ve (Click HERE to read more)

You Make Me Feel Like A…

Ladies, wouldn’t it be awesome if every time you look at your man your heart smiled because you knew he was thinking “She’s beautiful”???  Wouldn’t it be great if without a word you knew you were the most important thing in his life???  If his actions showed he has your back; you have nothing to worry about; he would protect you in your most frightening moments???  Wouldn’t it just be amazing if your man made you feel like a woman??? Like there would be a void in his life if you were missing???  But sadly to say, many of you are with men who makes you feel like …..

You’re with a man who verbally curse you; mentally abuse you, and physically violates you…  Some of you are with men you fear; men who lack respect for you and men who don’t deserve you…  You’re with men who controls and manipulates; men who can’t see your beauty because they’re blinded by the ugliness of their own souls…

Some of you are with men who hit you, has had the audacity to spit on you, and men who have even gone as far as to threaten to kill you…

Some of you are with men who talks negatively about your weight, looks, and your speech….  You’re with (Click HERE to read more)

When The “Wrong One” Is The One You Love…

 

Love can make us do some crazy stuff…  It has been known to keep us in places far longer than we should stay, and it has also been found guilty of causing us to forgive the one we should probably hate… “Love” has been known to blind us to the flaws of an individual while opening our eyes to their potential…  Because you love him/her, you see their potential, the possibility of who they can become and who the two of you can be together…  As a result of this, you overlook the fact they’re not ready for the person YOU ARE today… You’re holding on to an illusion, a dream, and a prayer of who you believe they are…  Love is so powerful it is causing some of you to miss out on the “right one” because you’re holding onto the “wrong one”…

So who is the “wrong one” you ask???  Well thank you for asking…  The wrong one is the one who’s adding no value to your life…  Unwilling to help you pursue your dreams…  The one who constantly causes drama, unnecessary trouble and every time you speak with him/her, you’re left feeling worse than (Click HERE to read more)

The Women Who Tarnish “Good Men”…

I think we’ve all heard, “Behind every good man you’ll find a good woman”, but how often do we hear “Behind every bad man in his past you’ll find a broken, bitter, and backstabbing woman”…   You know the trifflin Baby Mommas who uses their children as a weapon…  The women who uses Social Media as an outlet to slander the names of men, murder their integrity, and assassinate their character…  Women who cheat, lie, can’t be trusted, and the women who lacks respect not only for their man, but for all men…  Women who will slap a man in front of his son, curse him in front of his daughter, abuse him in front of his friends, and manipulate him in front of his family… The (Click HERE to read more)