I’m Not Ready Yet!!!

 

So I’m asked all the time, “John, why are you single?”  To be honest, at first I thought it was by choice, but in all truth it’s because I’m not ready…  You see I still deal with a few insecurities, still have a few wounds that are sore to the touch, and I even have a bit more hurt I need to resolve…  Sure over time these things will fade into the wholeness of whom I’m becoming, but is it fair to expose someone new to my “old”???? 

I’ve always been a relationship guy, I’m honestly at my best when I’m in a relationship…  The energy of “love” is something that gives my heart an orgasmic eruption in which I can’t describe…  I’m inspired by love, intrigued by love, and I’m also impressed by love and how it tends to persuade me to  do things I normally wouldn’t….  I’m a guy who loves holding hands, kissing, touching and oh year, you already know…  But every time I believe I’m ready for a relationship, something happens to let me know, “John, wayment…  You not there yet”…  So you’re wondering “What lets you know, John???”  Thanks for asking…  Well just because I’m not in a relationship, doesn’t mean I don’t date or interact…  I’ve had innumerable opportunities to take a situation to the next level, but it didn’t play out that way…   So here are few things I’m learning about myself and maybe you can relate…

  • “I’m Guarded”:  There’s nothing wrong with protecting your heart, but at some point you have to release the control to “love” and allow yourself to follow the path…   Sure there are “gamers” in the world, but everyone isn’t always guilty…  Falling in love grants the other person permission to hurt you…

  •  “Holding onto the Past”:  I’m a firm believer that our past can teach us what our future wants us to know….  However at the first resemblance of a situation of your past, you shouldn’t run from it…  Be prepared to (Click HERE to read more)

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When You Feel “The Best You” Is Gone…

 

Are you feeling like you’ve given someone the best years of your life???  You gave him/her your twenties, thirties, forties and for some of you, you gave them even your fifties???  You gave him/her your youth, fearless mindset times, and the years where your body and looks were at their very best???  But you find yourself today, feeling like you’ve wasted the best of you on someone who has left you with nothing…

You’re hoping for the lesson in this experience because there is always one, but where is it???  What’s the lesson in divorce???  A break up???  A death???  What is the lesson in now being older??? Feeling less marketable???  Being single in the latter years of your life?  What is the (Click HERE to read more)

You’re Overthinking It!!!

 

So I have this buddy who is deeply in love with a married woman…   From what he tells me, she’s everything his wife is not…  Yup, WIFE!!!  This is a pretty thick blog today…  She’s married, He’s married, but the two of them have found themselves in a situation that’s somewhat complicated…  Now in no way do I condone adultery, but like my buddy, many of you are in somewhat of a complicated situation as we speak…  Maybe it’s not being in love with a married woman/man, but you have become more of a “liability” than an “asset” to the one you want to be with…

Ladies, some of you are begging and pleading with a man to love, respect, cherish, commit to and appreciate you…  You have a long list of things he’s currently not doing and each and every day, you’re asking him for something more than likely he won’t ever give you…  To him, you’ve become (Click HERE to read more)

It Only Gets Worst!!!

 

“If Marriage is the cure, why are there so many unhappy people???”

It’s amazing how some of you believe marriage is the fix to your problems…  You believe if you were only married then loneliness would disappear; the cheating would cease; insecurity would be a thing of the past and let’s not forget about those of you who believe, marriage would be the thing that makes you completely happy… Let me be the first to tell you if it’s broke before marriage, those broken pieces are only going to continue to crack and eventually shatter into an unfix-able mess…  

I know some people who are married today, yet their unhappiness has increased far beyond what it was before…  Those who are women thought marriage was going to miraculously cure their husbands of the disease to sleep with multiple women; cure his problem with not telling the truth; fix his unwillingness to attend church; suppress his desires to be with other men and let’s not forget those who thought marriage was going to make him desire her even more…  Then there are those men I know who thought marriage would make her clean up around the house; cook; take care of the children; cure the disease known (Click HERE to read more)

Make Her Want More!!!

 

So I was chatting with a buddy of mine and he was sharing his whole perspective on dating in 2017.  Now this guys is married, has a girlfriend as well (Yup a wife and girlfriend), so I guess in some regards he does know how to finagle the whole dating thing…  Fellas, his perspective on the first date is never set the expectations too high…  Meaning, if you’re not a “flower’s type of guy”, don’t’ give her flowers…  If you’re not a “5 Star Restaurant type of guy”, don’t take her to a five star restaurant…  His mindset is be “crappy enough” she won’t expect much from you, but be “good enough” she will want to have a second date with you…

As ludicrous as this may sound, this guy is onto something… Truthfully speaking, women say they want a good man and for the most part, this is truth…  But no one wants anyone who is too “Good”; “Easy”; “Nice”…  Even though  (Click HERE to read more)

It Is What It Is…

 

“You love what you love, however we as women work with what we have and as shallow as he may seem I understand him. I would rather know what a man’s preference is in the beginning so that if I am not what it is that he is looking for, I can move on swiftly.”  Patricia Crawford

The above quote is from Author, Patricia Crawford in response to yesterday’s post “Sewn In, Grown In”.  When I read it, I knew I had to share it with you all….  Wouldn’t it be great if people just said in the very beginning what it is they liked, wanted, and desired?  You know like if women were told “I love long hair”, “I love small women”, “I’m a breast man”, “I love a woman who knows how to cook, loves taking care of her man, and a woman who has a limitless appetite for sex”???  Or how about fellas, what if women said “I love a man who is well dressed”, “I love a man with a six pack”, “I want a man who wants children within the next year”, “I want a man who wants a housewife and willing to allow her to stay home while he’s away at work”???  Wouldn’t it be great if people were just honest up front???

Let me also asked you this… Wouldn’t it be great if people were honest in the very beginning and we were honest with ourselves and said “I’m not the one for him/her”???  You know like when he/she gives their wants and desires, (Click HERE to read more)

DECLARE IT!!!

 

Last week I sat in on our Company’s Town Hall and the CEO said something I believe we’ve all heard before, but this particular day it spoke a whole new meaning to me…  As I sat there I looked around and thought “Wow, all of this came from one man…”  Billions in earnings, millions in profits, thousands of employee’s, hundreds of shows per year all from one man…  What started as a thought become a vision…  What started as a vision became a reality…  What started as a reality has become a legacy…  All because one man had a vision and he declared it would become a reality…

So let me ask you, What is it you haven’t declared???  Maybe it’s not starting a business, but maybe it’s getting out of debt; having self-esteem, self-value, self-worth; losing weight….  Maybe it’s getting a degree or getting a better job… It could be so many things, but you haven’t declared them, so why (Click HERE to read more)