With all the games, drama, and complexity that comes with dating today many of you find yourself being the “understudy” in a production that already has a “star”… Maybe you didn’t know the role of wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, bae or boo was already cast when you arrived… Maybe you didn’t know you were going to get all entangled in a situation where the other person was unavailable… Or maybe you did know, however you’ve fallen for the unfulfilled and broken promises of you being the “main squeeze” sooner than later… Whatever your story is, today you find yourself in a situation where three is a crowd and unfortunately, you’re the third wheel known by one, but not by the other…
If we’re all honest with ourselves, we all have issues and things we need to work on or work out, so this is not a judgmental post, but one to bring truth your way… If you’re the side piece, other woman, “The John”, friend with benefits, dude waiting in the cuff, YOU WILL NEVER BE NUMBER ONE… You will always be the runner up, Miss Congeniality, or the plumber who knows how to clean pipes… When finding yourself in situations in which the person is committed to someone else, truthfully (Click HERE to read more)
By now many of you have seen “Get Out”… A well-produced movie that tackles a topic many of us are uncomfortable talking about, RACISM!!! Now as you know, I’m a cancer and we are known to be very analytical people… As I watched the movie, I went deeper into how this movie can be applicable to each of our lives as well as a topic many of us are VERY COMFORTABLE talking about, RELATIONSHIPS!!! Now I won’t spoil it for those of you who haven’t seen it, but I will say the guy should have gotten out of the relationship probably within the first 15 minutes of the movie, but like many of you reading, he stayed in the craziness until his “Love Story” turned into a “Scary Movie”…
You see there were so many red flags, yet he allowed his heart to win over his head… I mean he could see the psycho behavior of the brother, the unusual behavior of the father and mother, and let’s not even mention the Cop, Maid, and Groundskeeper…. There were signs of danger ahead, deceit, and questions of whether or not he would make it out okay, but again he allowed his heart to overrule his head… Here on the sight I’ve written (Click HERE to read more)
I believe one of the hardest things for a single to do is accepting the one you want, don’t quite feel the same way as you… I mean it’s crushing to know your own beauty, but have someone who doesn’t see nor desires it… I mean you’re a great person, would be a great addition to their life, but for whatever reason they’ve decided to pass you by… It hurts and trust me when I say, I understand… I understand how it feels to want someone so badly, yet he/she doesn’t want you… I understand how it feels to go out of your way to show someone you’re really into them, yet he/she acts like you don’t exist… I understand completely how you’re feeling today because I’ve worn those shoes…
Many of you today are begging someone whom through actions have shown you either you’re not their type, they’re not interested in what you have to offer, or they’re just not into you… You’re begging them to like you just as much as you like them… You’re begging them to find you attractive, make the first move, initiate or express interest towards you, yet they do nothing… Many of you are reading thinking, “I haven’t begged anyone” and boy are you lying to yourself…. You’re begging them through your actions… Begging by buying gifts for someone (Click HERE to read more)
Hello Everyone, As many of you already know, I released my first novel, Fortune Cookie, in 2015. Fortune Cookie is just the first of a three part series that will be completed by next year. However, I just released the second installment, No Cream In The Middle, for pre-order!
The official release date for No Cream In The Middle is July 7, 2017. The special pre-sale will only last from now through June 9, 2017. There is also a special bundle price for both books if you need to catch up on the first novel before reading this one.
I am truly excited about the release of No Cream In The Middle and can’t wait to share it with you!
Also, stay tuned for details on the official book launch celebration for No Cream In The Middle on Saturday, July 8th.
No Cream In The Middle Pre-Sale
No Cream In The Middle and Fortune Cookie Bundle
I’m beginning to think I’m not “dating material”…. It’s like right now whomever I choose to date has to understand I’m passionate about my grind, I love and give my family and friends a great deal of attention, I’m a Cancer which sometimes causes me to be moody which results in me not always feeling like FaceTime, Texting or chatting on the phone and most importantly, I HAD A LIFE BEFORE THEIR APPEARANCE INTO MY WORLD must be taken into consideration… Trust me when I say, I get in the beginning of meeting someone you have to devote time and energy into building a relationship, I get this… However, I believe many times both women and men mentally move into a relationship that’s only a situationship… Yep, “situationship”… The current “situation” is two people getting to know each other, not embarking upon marriage or a relationship….
Many times expectations are placed on a casual situation… Sure maybe he shares how he enjoys spending time with you; how he’s never met someone like you before, or how about how he hopes the two of you can build something together… But none of these things mean the two of you are together… Sure maybe she gives you a kiss after the first date; invites you over for dinner with no DESSERT, or how about she sends you a nice text each and every morning… But none of these things mean the two of you are together… It’s amazing how things can be misinterpreted in dating… How one person takes everything as an indication as the other wanting to move forward into a relationship… So today let me help you not hurt you… Just (Click HERE to read more)
I’ve written numerous blogs regarding women seeking to change a man… Blogs dealing with men dominating and controlling women until they completely surrender and become the empty shell he wants, but I’ve never written about how sometimes we seek to change ourselves to fix someone else.. So today I want to talk to those of you who have been convinced by either and outside force or yourselves in order for your situation to improve, you must change who you are to fix what is broken within your situation…
Recently I heard a quote “Buying a house won’t fix a home…” and honestly I wished I came up with it, because it’s so on point… As I dived deeper into what I thought this meant, I thought of many of you… I think we’ve all been in situations with the wrong person… You know the one we want, but the one we shouldn’t have… For whatever reason, our connection is broken… Many times we seek to change the other person and after many failed attempts, we come to the conclusion it is us that’s the problem… We convince (Click HERE to read more)
Have you ever met someone who compliments you? I mean everything about him/her compliments everything about you… You’re smart, they’re smart… You’re corky, they’re corky… You’re ambitious, they’re ambitious… Everything you are, they seem to be… I mean they are perfect for you, however there’s a glitch in this program we call life… The one you want so happens to be had by someone else…
As happy as you would like to be for your friend or this person, secretly you’re somewhat disappointed… Disappointed because you’ve waited your entire life to meet someone who makes your heart smile, yet they’re unavailable… Disappointed because it seems as though God is playing tricks on your heart… Destiny introduces you to someone who seems to be the perfect match, yet it tells you “Hands Off”… Even though you’ve never expressed your true (Click HERE to read more)