3 Reasons He Played Her…

 

So yesterday I was having a conversation with a female friend of mine… Attractive woman who has one of the most loving spirits and biggest hearts I know…  Recently she met a guy who at first FaceTime her every morning….  Nonstop texts throughout the day… Phone call every evening on his way home and a late night FaceTime session right before going to bed…  Out of nowhere, everything stops… No warning, no signs, just NO COMMUNICATION…   She reaches out, he doesn’t respond… She hits him up on Facebook, he reads the message, but doesn’t respond…  DM’d on IG, but no response…  With Social Media these days it’s kinda easy to know if someone has boarded the “Glory Train”, you know have crossed over; kicked the bucket; got their wings???  But this wasn’t the case, he just chose not to communicate with her…

So this past week, guess what…  HE SURFACES…  No amnesia or death…  Of course, like a fool she was happy to hear from him…  She goes through all of the “I tried calling; texting, etc” bs and she finally gussie up the nerves to ask “What happened?  Did I do anything???”.  Of course his response was “No, it wasn’t you….  It was me”.  But here’s the kicker folks, he has the audacity to tell her“You were moving kinda fast, so I backed off…  The “Good Morning” text scared me, made me feel you were more serious than I”….  So let me get to the point here…  My friend, sadly to say was a fool in this situation…  Once his actions clearly told her he wanted nothing to do with her, she should have listened and acted accordingly….  So here are 3 reason I believe she got played…

  • Too Available…  She was available every time he called, texted, or could fit her into his schedule…  Sadly to say, “Availability” in the world today is somewhat a turnoff…  People want to chase, capture, and conquer…  I know playing games is frustrating, however most people aren’t interested in someone who is readily available at their beck and call, JUST THE TIMES WE’RE LIVING IN…  For some “Availability” represents clingy, no dreams and passion, NO LIFE…  Instead of waiting for him to call, she should have been walking into what she’s called to do…

  • Too Much… As harmless as a “Good Morning” text may be, sometimes it can be perceived as you’re moving too fast in the beginning…  You must learn who you are with before giving them all of you…  Everyone can’t (Click HERE to read more)

WAYMENT: Karma, Is That You???

 

Dear Karma,

It seems we meet again…  For whatever reason, you’ve decided to show up on my door step… Did I beckon for you, Boo?  If so, please tell me when…  Last I checked, it seems you’re dropping off everyone else’s payback and leaving it for me to deal with; go through, and suffer from…  So you’re wondering what I’m talking about, right???  Well, I’ve never cheated on my man/woman, but I’m with someone who can’t seem to stay loyal and committed to me…  I’ve never stolen anything from anyone, but my things are always taken out of my locker at the gym or my car broken into right in front of my home, or how about when my  info was used to get those credit cards that f’d up my credit…  My entire life, I’ve never tried to get anyone fired on my job, but it seems like everyone is coming for me and worried about what I’m doing or not doing at work…   So, you might want to come and get this crap, because you’ve left it for the wrong person…   Get back at me, I want to hear from ya…

The Wrong One

Hey You,

You’re right, we are meeting yet again…  Now I’m a little confused by you being (Click HERE to read more)

Naw, That Ain’t What Happened!!!

 

Wouldn’t it be easier if we just owned up to our mistakes???  You know like not blame someone else for our “screw-ups” and what has happened in our lives???  Maybe you can remember the “Jerry Springer Show” … If so, do you remember the shows that dealt with cheaters???   How the victim ran out onto the stage and instantly attack the outsider while their mate sat there untouched???  It’s like their mates were acquitted of their crime, but the “outsider” was sentenced to death…  Is it because the “outsider” should have known a “committed” individual is off limits?  Is it because the “outsider” should have had more respect for herself/himself and not interfered with what God has ordained???

Well just like these “nut jobs” on the show, many of you are attacking and blaming outside forces for your problems…  It could be a cheating spouse; parent, sibling, or friend…  It could be a dead end job or a job in which you feel you can’t seem to get ahead…  Now here’s a good one, it could be the “White Man/Woman” trying to keep the “Black Man/Woman” from getting ahead…  It could be various things, but one thing I know for sure is, when you’re determined, nothing can stop you… 

So let’s look at the “people” problems for a minute… it’s the outsider’s fault your mate had sex with them…  It’s their fault because he/she forced your mate to get undressed and step outside of your marriage…  Have you ever considered that maybe your mate is the problem?  That just maybe you’re in a relationship or married to a trifflin person???  Then there (Click HERE to read more)

Have You Asked???

 

“I can never please you” is how some of you left your home feeling this today… It seems like nothing you do is satisfactory to the one you love…You cook, clean, take care of the children, but that’s not enough…  You take out the trash, clean up behind yourself, take care of the bills, but that’s not enough…  NOTHING YOU DO IS ENOUGH!!!

It’s amazing how so many of you are in relationships and you don’t even know what it takes to please the one you’re with…  You’re giving and doing things in which they’ve never asked for…  You’ve allowed your perception of what a “Perfect Mate”  overshadow what the “Perfect Mate for Him/Her” truly is…  Some of you have forsaken your dreams, passion and purpose because of an illusion of what you think it takes to please the opposite sex…  You’re daily portraying someone you’re not and all your efforts seems to be in vain because NOTHING YOU DO IS ENOUGH!!!

So let me ask you this…  When was the last time you and your mate had a “heart-to-heart”?  You know that conversation that breaks down the walls of perceptions (Click HERE to read more)

You Are WORTH More Than You Think…

 

Life has screwed some of you up pretty bad…  Right now at this very moment, you’re feeling worthless; like your life has fallen apart and left you there to die… You’re walking around masked with a smile outwardly, yet you’re screaming as loud as you can inwardly…  Not sure why or how you’ve reached this place, but whatever has happened, it has left you feeling like crap… 

Words hurt, don’t they???  Words have crushed some of you… Not sure who spoke them, but whomever it was they were important enough to wound the core of who you truly are… Their words had so much meaning in your life until now you question your worth… You’re questioning if you’re good; thin; smart; pretty/handsome enough…   You’re questioning everything about yourself all from the words spoken by a hurt person aiming to hurt you…

Divorces hurt, don’t they???  Divorce has crushed some of you… Not sure what happened, but the residue of your marriage/spouse leaving has left you feeling as though your heart was ripped out; no one else will ever want to marry you; or that you’re washed up goods and should hide in a corner…  You’re now questioning if someone will love someone like you; want someone like you; find someone like you attractive…  You gave him/her the best of you, now you’re left feeling as though you’re left with the “worst of you”…

Getting Fired hurt, don’t it???  Getting fired has crushed some of you…  Not sure exactly why you were let go, but being fired has tarnished your ego…  You’re (Click HERE to read more)

Why Your Spouse Is Jealous Of Your Friends!!!

 
 
So what grants permission for friendships when you’re married?  Is it the “Marital Status” of the outsider? The “Security” within the marriage?  Is it whether or not the person is a “true” family member?  The “Gender” of the outsider???  What does it take for “spouses” to have friends and everything is okay?  I believe we’ve all heard “Singles shouldn’t be friends with people who are married” or how about “Men and women can’t just be friends without some type of benefits”??? To be honest, I believe both of these are a bunch of ish used to mask the insecurities of the mate who feels as though they’re the outsider…  You see it doesn’t matter what the relationship status or the gender of the outsider is, the spouse looking from the outside is either insecure within themselves or insecure with their spouse because of his/her past actions…  Let me put this out, there are some friends who are trifflin, i get this…  BUT IF YOUR MATE CHOOSES TO CONTINUE THEIR FRIENDSHIP, YOUR PROBLEM IS WITH YOUR MATE AND NOT THE LOW DOWN, DIRTY, TRIFFLIN FRIEND….
 
So why is your spouse jealous of your friends???  Well it’s because he/she wants what the two of you have…  If those who are insecure with their mates having friends were completely honest with themselves, they would come to this exact truth…  You see your friends gets the best of you…  They have the opportunities of experiencing the “you” who  (Click HERE to read more)

Shouldn’t “Love” Evolve As You Evolve???

 

It’s amazing how so many people have love “F’d” up… I mean they’ve sabotaged their lives all because they believe love asked them to do it…  So what do I mean???  Well some of you aren’t living your dreams because you believe love asked you to give them up…  There are those of you who are miserable in your own skin all because you believe love requires you to do it…  Then there are those of you who feel trapped in your “wedding day”…  You’ve evolved, but their love has remained the same…

So where am I going with this?  Well thanks for asking… Love should grow as you grow…  It should evolve as you evolve…  It should change as you change… Love is too big to fit into a box created by small minds and (Click HERE to read more)