3 Truths About An Ex…

So let’s get to it…

· Your Ex Is In Love With Who You Were: If we could only go back to the times before the lies; cheating; deceit; mishandling of money, and the betrayal. If we could only go back to when we first met and you were smiling; happy; having sex 3 or 4 times a day; when there were “Date Nights”, and when you were proud to call him/her your Man/Woman. Most times when a person is contemplating returning to the very thing they’ve run from, they’re wanting to return to the good old days, because these were the days when he/she felt love. Days when things were pure and honest (not for some of you), and the days before you uncovered the skeletons in your closet.

What I know for sure is… After a relationship is over, you’re no longer the person you once was. Some of you have taken the lessons of that relationship and used them as a syllabus for life. There are those of you who have bottled up the negative and drink a shot of its poison each day, which is preventing you from healthy future relationships. Your EX wants the person he/she first met because this is who they fell in love with you. If you’ve matured and no longer willing to accept their foolishness and games, they don’t want you… If you’ve realized your worth and value, they don’t want you. If you’re still the fool you were back then, they’re happy to have you back home…

· Your Ex Is Keeping You From Your Next: What is it about your Ex that has you wanting to go back??? Is it the sex? The way he/she treated you??? Is it fear??? Not wanting to learn someone new??? Many of you are your own worst enemy when it comes to dating. You’re trapped in the thought of making something that is doomed to fail work. Maybe your Ex was amazing, which leaves me only (Click HERE to read more)

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How Hard Did Aging Hit You???

So there’s this new Social Media challenge going on titled “How Hard Did Aging Hit You”… Normally I don’t think twice about participating in the foolery of Social Media, but I decided this time to give it a try… So I posted the above pic… As I looked at the pic, I saw so many things… The guy from 2009 lacked confidence; suffered from low self-esteem; underestimated himself; constantly found himself in toxic relationships and his thinking was horrible. He doubted himself, sought the approval of others and his heart was filled with bitterness, anger, and hatred… Boy what a difference time can make…

The guy in 2019 doesn’t take things as seriously as before. Realizes people are fickle; has the right to change their mind and not like him… He also realizes relationships whether they are intimate or platonic are a direct reflection of the man he is… He understands holding onto anger, resentment and hate only destroys his future not (Click HERE to read more)

It’s Not You, It’s Me…

Have you ever been into someone so badly and out of nowhere, “It’s Not You, It’s Me” enters the room??? It’s like you’ve finally reached the point in which you’re willing to let someone in and all he/she does is prove why you shouldn’t… Or how about, he/she leaves you questioning whether or not you did something to run the one you want away? “It’s Not You, It’s Me” has become the most used “breakup” line ever… The person in their heart does not want you to have any regrets, so this line is their way of accepting blame for letting you go… Many of you have wondered, “Well if it’s not (Click HERE to read more)

Trapped In My Own House

Dear John Patrick,

Before getting started, I must ask you and your readers not to judge me. I have been married for ten years to a man who is manipulative, controlling, and verbally abusive and sometimes he threatens physical abuse. As of today, he hasn’t hit me, but sometimes his rage frightens me. Looking back over the years, there were signs, but love blinded me. I thought maybe those signs were me holding on to the past; carrying baggage from previous relationships and me blaming him for the hurt of other men. During our marriage he has made me feel worthless and like I’m nothing without him. He blames me for the state of our marriage; repeatedly calls me names and he tells me I will fail at everything I do. I know you’re thinking, why won’t I leave this man? Why won’t I pack up my things and never look back?

Well it is complicated. There are children involved and honestly, I’m afraid. I am afraid he may be right. Right about me being worthless; me being nothing without him; me being the reason our marriage is falling apart. I am afraid of being alone; struggling and wanting to return. Before marrying him, I only dated a few men. Just like my husband, these men were abusive and to be completely transparent, what I believe of my husband in the beginning is what made me draw to him. He was (Click HERE to read more)

If They Knew…

It’s amazing how some people can’t see the value of what they have until it’s gone??? You know how they have the “best” and treat it the “worst”? So let me ask you a few a questions…
If your man not only knew, but accepted the truth you’re an amazing woman; you love him unconditionally; you’re irreplaceable; you’re strong enough to forgive him for all the foul ish he constantly puts you though; would he stop cheating, lying, and abusing your trust and value as a woman???
If your woman not only knew, but accepted the truth you’re an exceptional man; willing to walk through her problems, insecurities, and issues; you love her with the extra pounds, wrinkles and grey hair; you’re willing to overlook she’s cheated, lied, and have tarnished the trust in your relationship; realized there is none like you, would she stop talking fowl to; downgrading; placing you in a box as a man???
If your boss not only knew, but accepted your talents and gifts are rare; your commitment level is untouchable; your knowledge and experience are assets; your leadership skills can be used to further along the group, would she/he pay you what you’re worth; stop sweating you about every little thing; allow you to be free to create and inspire???
If your church not only knew, but accepted the truth your past is behind you; we’ve all sinned and yours are (Click HERE to read more)

There Has Got To Be A Way…

Some of you are at a place where you feel your back is up against the wall… You are tired of life as it is today, but you have not quite figured out how to change it… Maybe your job has you wondering if things are as good as it gets… Maybe your relationship/marriage has you feeling you have reached your lowest… Maybe your finances are constantly in the negative… You have hit rock bottom and right now it seems as though you cannot see a way out of the mess you find yourself in today… Even though you cannot see the way out, you have not lost hope…
You constantly find yourself thinking “There’s got to be a way…”. You know a way to find a better job where people appreciate your gifts and talents… A way to find an escape out of the abusive or dead relationship/marriage you are in… A way to decrease the debt and live a much financially healthy life… There’s got to be a way out of the life style, mentally toxic state you’re currently in… What I know for sure is… There is a way out (Click HERE to read more)

When People Don’t Quite Get You…

Trust me when I say I know how it feels to be the outsider… To be the person people treat differently for no other reason than the differences you bring to the table… Here recently, I’ve been challenged with this very thing… You know the whole feeling of not being asked and overlooked… Honestly, it’s almost like back when I was in high school and the popular kids excluded you from the circle because maybe you were the new kid or didn’t dress a certain way…
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized I won’t fit in every circle… I won’t be a part of the groups that seems to be cool… I won’t always be asked to lunch or asked to hang out on the weekends, and this is cool… You see I’ve come to the realization, I’m an exceptional guy surrounded by average people… It took me years to realize this because for most of my life, I made things personal… I took not being asked as a reflection of my greatness, and this is true to a certain degree… I used to take it as I wasn’t (Click HERE to read more)