So a loyal reader here on the site asked for my thoughts on “The Two Men A Woman Needs…”.
So here we go…
In no way is this post insinuating a woman is weak… But I believe after a breakup, men and women walk away with different takes. Most times a man walks away with a crushed ego, whereas a woman is emotionally wounded. Because of this, the needs are different.
In relationships women who are abusive and destructive aim to hit a man where it hurts… She attacks either his strength; ability to satisfy her emotionally; mentally, and physically, or she aim’s below the belt, and I literally mean below the belt. No man wants to hear their baby sons “Johnson” is bigger… The damage done to women is over time. Abusive and destructive men plant seeds of doubt throughout the years; they minimize her worth; value; purpose, or there are those men who verbally crucify her for the world to see. The amount of damage done to a woman most time isn’t recognize until after the relationship has ended.
So who are “The Two Men A Woman Needs”?
Well she needs a man who will listen and not prey on her vulnerability. Meeting this man is tricky and if not careful, she will find herself right back with the man she just left, just a different name and face. This man will have no motives and will walk through her ish. She shouldn’t f..k him, but trust him enough to get “naked” and not physically naked, but emotionally. This man’s purpose is to help (Click HERE to read more)
So this past Saturday I had lunch with a buddy who’s currently in the final stages of his divorce… For the past 13 years he’s been married to what he considered the “Love Of His Life”… 13 years, 3 kids, and countless arguments later, they’ve decided to call it a quits… Over the past year, they’ve placed themselves on an emotional roller coaster filled with love; hate; can’t stand you; can’t live without your moments… I mean 13 years is a long time, but when it’s over, IT’S OVER!!!
So as we talked I asked what his next steps was… He was kinda afraid to get back out there, but to be honest I think it’s exactly what he needs… So I advised him to keep two women in his pockets. Before you jump off the deep and think I’m encouraging him to be a “Playa”, let me explain… He needs a woman he dates, but he also needs a woman he f..ks… Let me break it down…
Woman He Dates:
This woman serves a mental and emotional building for him… Because he’s been in a marriage for 13 years, he’s feeling the residue of the toxic. He’s unsure of himself; doesn’t feel good in his skin; neither can he see just how good looking of a guy he is, or how amazing of a man he is. His soon to be ex-wife did (Click HERE to read more)
The most dangerous woman you’ll ever meet is the woman who is unaware or unsure of her beauty, value, and strength. This woman is uncertain of herself and constantly finds and focuses on her imperfections. She is unhappy in every relationship; insecure and questions the intents and actions of everyone. She is afraid of finding her voice because that requires her to use it… She purposely stays in the shadows of others because it’s easy. She’s dangerous because she is unstable in most of her ways and no matter the cost, this woman is willing to pay it in regards to pleasing others.
She’s dangerous because she allows men to give birth to doubt within her… The men she has loved or currently loving are undeserving of her and just like her, they fail to see her beauty, value and strength. Those (Click HERE to read more)
Have you ever felt you weren’t Black; White; Asian; Hispanic; Indian enough??? Felt you weren’t Man or Woman enough??? Masculine or Feminine enough??? How about not Saved; Holy; Committed enough??? Isn’t it funny how our surroundings; conversations; relationships can sometimes cause us to ask ourselves if we are “enough”??? Now if you noticed, I didn’t mention the normal things we question… You know like “pretty/handsome”; “skinny/fit”; “smart”… Today I want to talk about how sometimes we questions the undeniable things about ourselves…
So over the weekend I binged “Dear White People”… A smart, witty, intelligent and informative show that deal with Racial, Gender, and Sexual Preferences… It’s well produced, beautiful to watch, and it keeps you wanting more… I have to admit after watching the show I thought to myself, “I’m not black enough”… Because some of the topics and issues revealed in this show, I’ve honestly never dealt with or have ever experienced… Now this doesn’t minimize anyone’s experiences, but neither should it minimize who I am as an African American Man…
After watching the show I got to thinking about many of you readers… People who allow TV shows; the perceptions of the (Click HERE to read more)
I hate when I have to question the motives of someone’s actions… You know like friends, family, mates/spouses? People who say they love you, yet their actions causes you to question whether they do? I completely understand we all handle things differently, but when motives for actions seem questionable, I tend to pull away.
Why is it people want to know everything about you? You know things that lack the power to change the relationship between the two of you? Is it because they want to know who you are behind the mask? Is it because he/she wants to know who you were to understand better who you are? Why do people invade (Click HERE to read more)
Have you ever witnessed two people going back and forth over something that really isn’t important??? You know like how Celebrities go back and forth on Social Media instead of picking up the phone and calling the person??? I’m learning more and more each day arguing with a fool only reveals the fool in you…
Fools need an audience… They’re predators seeking attention and many times, we fall into their traps and give it to them… Constantly (Click HERE to read more)