Throw Up The Deuces!!!

So today is my last day at a company I’ve worked for almost the past 10 years… So what’s next? Not sure… Where are am I headed??? UP!!! No locked in job, but I’ve never felt better or had such great peace about a decision… Over the past year, I’ve prayed and asked God to make some moves in my life; to lead me to a better job; to open doors only He could and to be honest, there were times when I felt God was ignoring me and placed His ear on mute in regards to me… Times when I questioned His presence, His hand and times when I even asked “How much more do You want me to take???”…
 
About a month or so ago, I was driving into work and it hit me, it was time… Time for me to free myself of this job and open myself up to receive what’s next in my life… The last day in which I’m supposed to work here came to me, but what was happening next didn’t. To some I’m crazy, but to those who know me and knows my faith in God, knows I’m making the right move… You see over the years (Click HERE to read more)

We’ve All Done It…

 
So why do people lie about the mistakes they’ve made? How they’ve been played? Or how about, how they’ve played themselves??? So yesterday I had lunch with some pretty cool people and the whole topic of “sex” or “the use of it” came up…
 
I strongly believe those of us who have traded in our “Virginity Card” at one time or another used sex to what we believed at the time was our advantage… Meaning we’ve all used sex as the catalyst for a relationship or mutual attraction… Used sex as the bait to get the one we want because we believe after they’ve had a taste of what we have to offer, the deal is sealed… Like those at the dinner table on yesterday, some of you are thinking “I’ve never done that” and like I said on yesterday “I call bull…t”… And honestly speaking, that’s why many of you have more current and ex sexual partners than you do dollars in your banking account…
 
Ladies, you thought your cookies was like none other… Thought you could sail his boat in the direction of a relationship and after he reached shore, got off the boat and walked out your place, you felt played… Played because you find yourself yet again with your head looking down at your panties on the floor… Fella’s you thought you were the best pipe layer this side of the tracks… Thought you were going to bust down some walls and make it damn near impossible for her to walk away… Yet she’s been with a few other plumbers in her day and the misunderstanding she had regarding (Click HERE to read more)

2 Is A Relationship, 3 Is A Situationship…

 
Did you know when asking friends questions about your relationship or mate, you’re inviting them into a place they shouldn’t be? Into a place in which the max occupancy is 2? Well it’s true and most times when inviting them in, they’re not alone… They bring with them their Ex’s; the issues in which they’re currently experiencing in a relationship… Bags filled with past hurts, brokenness, and regrets… And let’s not forget all of the “I wouldn’t take that” or “You should walk away”… Sadly to say, all of this comes from someone who lacks the ability to keep a man/woman, insecure af in their own relationships, and someone who secretly would take your mate with all their problems in a heartbeat if they were up for grabs… Relationships are complicated with just 2 people, so imagine having 3, 4, or 5 in it…
 
Many of your relationships are suffering because you have too many voices in your head… Voices of doubt, fear of being alone, insecurities, brokenness, bitterness…. What’s sad is these voices are added on top of your own inner voice… You’re already speaking these things into your situation, why in the hell do you need someone else injecting not their truths, but their fears into your relationship??? This is when things become complicated and your relationship transforms into a “situationship”…
 
I pride myself on being a great listener… Someone who not only hears the words of your mouth, but of your heart… My goal is always (Click HERE to read more)

The Way They Make Me Feel…

Some of you are threatened in your relationship by a so called “Friend” of your mate… It’s something about the way he/she looks at her/him… Something different about your mate when he/she comes around or the smile he/she has on their face at the mention of their name… You lack proof of the any indiscretion, but there’s a gut feeling there’s more to the story than what meets the eye… Your mate takes defense when you ridicule their relationship… When you point out what can be perceived as inappropriate, your mate ignores you… Is there something really going on??? Or is it that the friend makes your mate feels a way you’ve either refuse to make them feel; don’t know how to make them feel; or because of the way in which you feel about yourself???
So let me ask you this… When was the last time you spoke positive affirmations out loud over your mate’s dreams, vision, and passion??? The last time you went out of your way to compliment your mate on their appearance, deeds, or actions??? When was the last time your body language spoke attraction for your mate??? For some of you reading, you can’t remember the last time to any of these questions… I’ve learned in many cases our mate’s platonic relationships are completely innocent… That (Click HERE to read more)

They Always Come Back…

 
Have you ever met someone you were really into, but they were full of games??? You know like… You call, they wait a day or two to return the call or shoot you a text instead… Or how about the two of you make plans to see each other and the day of, they’re nowhere to be found??? This type of behavior causes you to get caught up in your feelings and for many of you reading, you question whether or not you did something to cause their actions… But here’s the kicker, the first time you post a smoking hot picture on social media, who finds their way into your DM??? THE GAMER!!!
 
What many of you fail to realize (Click HERE to read more)