The Hand Of A Cheater…

 

So yesterday I was talking with a bud of mine who is in what appears to be a “committed relationship”…  So committed until he and she checks each other’s text messages, Social Media Inboxes, emails and voicemails…  They’re in love and he feels no shame in sharing with her what most would consider “his privacy”…  He goes on to say it makes things easier in the relationship if he grants her the freedom to check whenever she chooses…  It defuses tension and the needs for suspicion and interrogating…

As I sat there and listened, I thought to myself “Something’s missing here…”.   I’ve known this guy for years…  Aware of the problems he’s experienced in his previous relationships…  Seen what’s he’s done to past girlfriends and his Ex-Wife…  Now in no way am I limiting the power of God, He’s able to change anyone, but I guess I was doubting my bud’s ability to change…  As we continued to talk, he started laughing…  Everything he told me was true, however there was more to the story…  You see he’s still the same cheater he’s always been, just (Click HERE to read more)

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You Have Nothing To Prove…

 

Why are you trying to prove your worth to people who will never see, understand, or appreciate it?  People who see you as they see themselves?  People who appraise your value based on the measurement of their success?

Why are you hoping to prove you’re innocent to people who have already found you guilty?  Looking to prove you’re straight to people who are convinced you’re gay?

Why are you wasting time hoping to prove you’re smart to people who believe you’re stupid af?  People who have placed limits on your future and profiled you because of your past?

Why are you aiming to prove to a man you’re a good woman when he’s not even a good man?  Prove to a man you’re better woman than the woman he left you for?

Why are you stressing over proving to a woman you’re not like other men when she’s stuck in (Click HERE to read more)

The Importance Of A Name…

 

So over the weekend I binged Netflix’s “13 Reasons Why”…  An amazing show that shines light on many of the issues kids are dealing with each and every day of their lives…  Issues like Suicide, Rape, Bullying, Peer Pressure and so many other things many  feel ashamed to talk about…  As I watched the show, I thought about the people I encounter every day…  Whether it’s at the gym, work, church, or even walking through WalMart…  I thought about how many of them are visible to the eyes, yet their souls are hiding in the darkness of depression, stress, and anxiety…

I’m known at the gym as the guy who knows everyone…  Most times if someone wants to know a person’s name, I’m their “Go to Person”…  You see I never take any encounter for granted and I’ve learned over the years the greatest compliment you can give to anyone is remembering their name…  How many of you walk pass people each and every day, yet you’ve never asked them their name?  You smile, nod, may give eye contact, but you’ve never took the time to introduce yourself…  Or how many of you have been given the name of someone, yet you’ve never committed it to memory???  Every time you see him/her, you say “What’s up bro?”; “Hey girl”, hoping the conversation is short and quick so you’re not exposed…  People shouldn’t be required to be your bestie, family member, or in your close circle (Click HERE to read more)

You’ve Changed Hun…

 

I’m always blown away when seeing a phine chic and a busted dude???  Or how about a well-groomed man walking beside an un-kept woman???  I feel like It’s an unequal relationship, one get’s “Eye Candy” while the other suffers an “Eye Sore”…  Now I know with time and gravity, everything doesn’t sit where it might have used to, but is that a good reason to allow it to all just hang???

I have some buds who hit the gym pretty hard, but they’re wives/girlfriends are nowhere to be found…  When asking where she is, most times the answer is almost always the same…  “Well, she said I’m too hard on her when working out”…  Excuses, excuses, excuses…  Now these same women benefit from looking at a man in great shape, yet when it comes time for sex, “Babe, can you turn out the lights, please???”  WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF????  Darkness only blocks what the eyes can see, not what the hand can feel…  But here’s the kicker, these same women are insecure af, always charging their man up about wearing cologne, taking extra steps to keep himself looking good…  These same (Click HERE to read more)

Ask The Right Questions…

Have you ever asked your man if he feels what he has is greater than what he’s being offered??? Ever asked if you’re the one he really wants to be with???  Or how about, ever asked if he’s happy not with you, but in the relationship and with himself???  Sadly to say, many of you reading are afraid to ask or feel it’s a waste of time asking any of these questions… You’d rather ask him about every woman he talks to; where he’s been; where he’s going or how about, who he’s texting…  You’re asking all the wrong questions…

Unfortunately for some of you, today you find yourself believing your man isn’t going to get any better…  He’s a liar, cheater, and a looker…  He’s not going to change, so why go through the argument, discomfort, and awkwardness of asking him a question you already know the answer?  He’s who he is and all men cheat, lie, and do their share of dirt…  That’s what makes him a man….  Every man you know struggles with keeping his “Johnson” in his pants, so why should your man be any different???  So you find yourself thinking, why waste your time asking him a question which requires actions which proves love, when you already know he’s incapable of doing what needs to be done???

Those of you who are afraid of the truth find yourselves constantly struggling with low self-esteem; feelings of not being worth a healthy relationship, and constantly (Click HERE to read more)

Where There’s An X, There Is A Y…

“Where’s there’s an “Ex”, there’s always an “Why” right behind it”  Jessica Jones (Netflix Marvel)

There are 2 “Ex’s” in our lives…  There’s the one we hate we loss, and the one we hate we ever met…  Regardless to which “Ex” you’re thinking of at the moment, there’s a “why” behind it… Whether it’s something you’ve done or something you’re unable to forgive, they’re your “ex” and there’s nothing you SHOULD do about it…

For the “ex” you loss, you’re unable to forget how he/she made you feel…  Unable to let go of the amazing times you shared; the toe curling sex you had; the way in which he/she loved the beauty as well as the ugly inside of you…  Time has passed, yet you still wish until this day things didn’t end the (Click HERE to read more)

You Have To Work On Your Sexy…

 
Sometimes aging sucks, but it sucks even more if you’re aging horribly…  I’m realizing more each day, you gotta work on your sexy…  Now when I say sexy, I’m not only speaking of physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually as well…  Have you ever met someone who’s phine af physically, but ugly and fat mentally???  Their finances are shot, credit is shot, and they’re carrying tons of baggage and insecurities???  “Sexy” is a package deal, not a “Pick One/Two” value meal…  “Sexy” applies to all attributes of a person and whether you know it or not, the outward “sexy” is the results of the inward “sexy”…
 
So many people are luring others into traps with a tight booty, abs, big chest and arms…  They’re lying with cars, clothes and fancy dinners… Because we’ve become a world impressed by and appraised valuable because of physical and materialistic things, the importance of emotional and mental fitness is not a priority for many…  This is why so many of you reading are pissed at or bitter towards the opposite sex…  He knocked your bottom out, but mentally he was unable to give you any type of mental orgasmic feeling…  You were blinded by her booty, but now that you’re living with the residue of her stalking and approaching every woman you come in contact with, you now see that booty wasn’t worth it…
 
So where is it I’m going with this???  Well many of you aren’t “sexy”…  For several years you’ve been so focused on catching the eye, you’ve failed to work on (Click HERE to read more)