I’m Not Chasing You…

 

Wouldn’t it be great if we all acted like grown folks???  You know like if you meet someone, both of you are transparent about where you want to go with this thing???  No games, lies, secrets???  Well that would be in a perfect world and unfortunately, we don’t live in one…  We live in a world where most have been hurt, broken, and many who lack trust in dating, courting, and marriage.   There are many people who are wounded, scarred, and bruised…  There are those who are guarded, living behind walls, and those who have watched their parent’s poor example of love…  Dating has become a marathon and many of you are running behind someone you will never catch…

I have a friend who seems to always chase men… She meets, go out on a few dates and you know it, SHE FALLS…  Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with falling for a man, but does falling cost losing?  You know like losing self-restraint??  The ability to restrain from initiating text messages, conversations, and dates??? Or how about NOT letting him take the lead, but letting him participate in the fun of getting to know you???  Did you know if you’re “chasing after” someone that really means they’re running from you???  Well it’s true…  Chasing means (Click HERE to read more)

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This Is What Abuse Looks Like…

 

It’s amazing how “abuse” works…  How many times we’re in abusive relationships, but depending on our past, determines whether or not we recognize it…  Many of you are in abusive relationships today, some of you know it, but there are those of you who don’t…  Now when using the word “relationship”, I’m not just speaking of an “intimate” relationship, I’m speaking of platonic, work, church or any other type of relationship that involves someone else…

I can remember being in an abusive relationship with work…  My manager at the time was verbally and mentally abusive and so many days I can remember walking around on eggshells…  There were times when they would verbally crush me, but I stayed..  Times when they caused me to second guess my worth as an employee, my knowledge and my strengths, but I stayed…  Then there were times when they were amazing…  I was the greatest employee ever and brought so many wonderful things to the team, which made me want to stay…  But just as soon as I found myself comfortable and feeling good about myself, here comes the blow again…

Similar to my experience at work, many of you are dealing with someone whose demon is lying dormant…  They’re an abuser who lacks control over their emotions and many times you serve as their punching bag…  Some of you fail to realize you’re in abusive relationship because your jaw hasn’t been broken, but your spirit has…  Right now things are good, you’re happy because they’re happy, and it seems like the two of you are heading in the right direction…  If you’re honest with yourself, you’ve been in this exact place before…  Things were (Click HERE to read more)

When Love Is Ready, But You Are Not…

 

I’m realizing “love” is always ready and available, but the truth is most times we aren’t…  We aren’t ready for the commitment it takes, nor are we emotionally and mentally available…  Many of you say you want love, but within you lies the ingredient that poisons every opportunity of finding it….  “Love” is standing before you with its hand out hoping you will take hold of it, but because you’re holding onto things in your past, your hands are filled…  You’re single, but your heart is taken…  Maybe not by an actual individual, but taken by the residue left behind from an individual… Insecurities, trust issues, hurtful words and memories flow through its veins…  Scarred and bruised; punctured and torn; ripped and broken into pieces and to the eye of the soul, it’s unrecognizable. Never allowed to heal nor mend itself, love struggles to occupy it because hate and love can’t coexist.

“Love” stands before you, possibly packaged differently than you would like, but it’s there…  Heart Cataracts of perceptions and illusions of perfection causes you not to see it…  You’re looking for the perfect man/woman, but you’re not the perfect man/woman…  You’re looking for an “upgrade” when in actuality to the person you want, you’re a “downgrade”.   Your perception (Click HERE to read more)

2018 Dating…

 

So I have a friend, won’t mention any names for the fear of losing my life, but she tends to have somewhat of a unique thought on dating in 2018.  I’m using “unique” lightly because I truly believe it’s ludicrous…  So removing myself and focusing on her perspective, she believes as long as a man hasn’t spoken the 2 words “I do”, he’s up for grabs… It doesn’t matter if he is currently seriously dating, has a girlfriend or a fiancé, until he’s spoken those words he’s a free agent negotiating contracts, lmbo…  Now I have to give her props for speaking and living her truth because it takes a crazy or strong person to let alone believe this, but allow these words to flow from their lips…  Now those of you who are insecure within your relationship; have been cheated on in the past, or those of you who suspect your man is currently cheating, you’ve probably already called her a whore…  But it appears this mindset is somewhat of a trend in 2018 dating…

Some of you reading today are currently dating a  (Click HERE to read more)

You Don’t Want Them Problems…

 

Hey,  YEAH YOU…  You’re about to purchase a ticket for a prize you really don’t want…  Trust me when I say I understand you’ve been done wrong…  You’re feeling some kind of way about what was done to you, but let me be the first to tell you, getting revenge isn’t what you really want to do…  So how do I know this?  Well because you’re responsible for your actions, therefore you’re responsible for what comes back your way…  You see what you send out finds its way back to you…  It’s called the “Boomerang Effect”, “Karma”, “Reciprocity”, “The Golden Rule”, “Newton’s 3rd Law”…  As soon as you send out whatever you’re thinking about sending out, it’s on the way back to you…  It doesn’t matter if you’re reciprocating actions, deeds, or words… It doesn’t matter if you’re bouncing back hurt, pain, or grief…  What you send will return and sometimes it comes back with a greater force than what you sent out…

So lets look at this from a different angle…  Right now you’re thinking about how you can get even which means you’re giving time and energy to the very person who hurt you….   Never thought of it this way, huh??  Well it’s true, in order to conspire you have to invest YOU…  You’re investing (Click HERE to read more)

Here Comes…

Sadly to say, some of you are known for your troubles, problems, or drama…  When people see you approaching, instantly they think “Oh oh, here comes drama; problems; troubles; depression”…  You see, people have subconsciously categorized you by your problems…    You’re known for the issues you’ve experienced; the battles you’ve lost; the men/women who have left you; the money you’re owed….  All people know about you is the bad and why is this, well it’s because it’s all you talk about…  You’re always the victim; the one who has been done wrong; the one no one sees the good in…  You’re always the one who’s mad at someone; the one whose boss is out to get them; the one whose friends never respect them…  Every time you open your mouth you speak your problems, never your potential…

It’s sad, but some of you love throwing pity parties….  I don’t’ care what day of the week it is; what hour of the day it is, you’re going to find something wrong in your life…  Today it’s your job, tomorrow it’s your spouse, next week it’s your children, next month it’s your church, next year it’s your siblings…  BUT (Click HERE to read more)