Tell Me Something Good About Me…

 

So this morning at the gym there’s a guy by the name of Jack who is one of the most encouraging people I’ve met in a very long time… He’s a jokester, but when he’s serious he can make you feel like a million bucks…  Over the past couple of weeks I’ve found myself facing so many challenges…  Nothing I can’t handle, but because it seems as though they’ve all hit at the same time, I’ve felt overwhelmed…  So overwhelmed that many times I’ve found myself crying because it seemed to be too much to bear… I guess I was having one of those “When it rains, it pours” moments of life…  Seemed like nothing was going my way and no matter how strong I tried to be, life just kept dropping more each and every day…

As I started to get dressed, Jack was in the locker room…  For a second I almost asked him to tell me something good about me… From what I can tell, he thinks very highly of me, so I knew he would give me words that maybe right now I’m struggling believing, but words that would be pleasant to hear…  As I was getting ready to ask, I felt convicted…  Over the past 7 (Click HERE to read more)

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Forgive Them Every Day…

 

So last night I had dinner with a buddy who recently finalized his divorce…  Married ten and a half years, one amazing son, but now left with mixed feelings on how to move forward…   The divorce wasn’t his idea nor his desire, so there are days in which he finds himself angry with her…  Angry because he invested almost eleven years into something that feels she threw away in eleven hours…  Angry because their son is now split between two homes…  Angry because he still wants her, but she doesn’t want him…  So as I sat there and watched him melt, I asked “Have you forgiving her?” and he responded “For some things, Yes…  For others, No…”.  So in actuality, he hasn’t forgiven her…   You see forgiveness is a 100% thing, not a 70/30…  You’ve either forgiven or you haven’t…

Trust me when I say, some people have committed numerous crimes towards us…  Depending on how long we’ve known him/her; the depth of the relationship determines the amount of crimes committed or the depth of pain they may have caused us.  But where many of us go wrong and later question as to why we’re still chained to this person(s) is we never fully forgive…  We both forgive for the small things and hold on to the bigger things, or (Click HERE to read more)

Love Chains…

 

“Love” is currently serving as the chain keeping many of you in places and attached to things you shouldn’t be…  It could be the “love” of the people on your job that’s keeping you chained to an environment that lacks the ability of giving birth to your full potential…  It could be “love” for a spouse or mate that’s keeping you chained to a relationship that has proven to be mentally, emotionally, or physically abusive or one that is draining you of your true identity…  It could be the “love” of food that’s chaining you to overeating which has left you overweight with health problems; depressed and stressed out, or have exiled you from the world…  Whatever your situation may be, the links created by what you perceive as “love” have imprisoned you mentally, paralyzed you physically and sadly to say, left scars on your heart that may never heal….

You’ve convinced yourself “love hurts” to ease the sting of the pain it’s actually causing…  You’ve allowed “love” to hoodwink you into believing every relationship has issues; every marriage have moments you must forgive  (Click HERE to read more)

What Are You Really Asking???

I’ve been accused many times of being an extremely private guy…  To me, I really don’t see it…  Honestly, I think some people believe my life is more exciting than what it is really is, so because I’m not out constantly posting relationship pics and updates on Social Media or boasting about everything going on in my life, I’ve been placed into the “Private” box…

Over my life, I’ve learned most times people ask questions, but they’re not really asking the questions they want an answer to…  For instance…  If you’re over a certain age and single, you may be asked “Are you married?”.  Harmless question, huh??  Well most times they’re really wanting to know are you gay, on the dl, or what’s wrong with you…  In their failed attempt to facade their curiosity the low road is taken and you’re asked a question in which you’ve answered numerous times and to be quite frank, you’re sick and tired of talking about it…

So where am I going with this?  Glad you asked…  Well let me be the first to tell you that you don’t have to answer anyone’s question if you don’t want to…  Most (Click HERE to read more)

The Relationship Of Love And Hurt…

Who ever said “love doesn’t hurt”, evidently has never been in love…  Love as wonderful as it feels when it’s great, hurts like hell when it isn’t… The truth behind love is that in order to feel it you must grant permission to be hurt… You see, love doesn’t always purposely hurt you…  Sometimes you’re hurt by those you love the most who’s really trying to protect you…  Their efforts are to avoid causing you any, but many times they fail…  So if you’re trying to avoid being hurt, sadly to say my friend, you’re avoiding love…  So how do you get over this?  Well lets break love down…

  • L…  Let go of your past…  The reason many of you can’t find love is because you’re afraid of ever feeling the way you felt before, so you’re running from it…   You’re holding onto moments in which you are no longer in control of…  Hurt can help you if you allow it…  When you allow the hurt to teach you it becomes the syllabus for healing in your future…  It becomes the seed planted that makes you stronger…  You can’t avoid being hurt, but you can become aware of the signs and roads leading to hurt… Hurt is what you remember about your past, not love, so let it go…

  • O… Overcome your fear…  In order to find true love, you must let go of your past which is giving birth to the fear…  Forgive the one who hurt you, forgive yourself for allowing the hurt and prepare yourself to forgive the one you’re planning to share your heart with…  Overcoming your fear isn’t vowing to never love again, overcoming your fear is getting  (Click HERE to read more)

Fear Of Being Me…

 

Some of you reading have gone your entire life struggling…  Struggling to find out exactly where you are meant to be…  At some point in your life you were made to feel something was wrong with the person you were…  You were told boys/girls aren’t supposed to do, feel, or act in a way you felt most comfortable….  Then there are those of you who were rejected for being you and ever since, you’ve suppressed who you were to fit into a place you were never meant to be…

Like you, I struggled with this very thing…  For 38 years I struggled with trying to fit in; who I was told God expected me to be; what a man should be…  I struggled because at some point I was made to feel something I did was wrong or didn’t measure up…  Because we all hate rejection, instead of being rejected, I made the choice to dance to the music someone else created…  I went my entire life afraid of being who I was because I wanted to feel loved, accepted, and approved of… But on January 18, 2011, I (Click HERE to read more)

7 Years Ago, I Woke Up…

 

For 38 years I was sleep…  Sleep on my greatness, worth, and truth of what manhood really is…  Drugged by morals, intoxicated by expectations, and induced almost into a coma by no recognition of who I really was…  I was sleeping on real love, true potential, and limitless possibilities…  Sleeping so hard until my life was a nightmare…  A nightmare filled with pain, heartbreaks, and continuous turmoil…  A nightmare in which I allowed my past to haunt me, insecurities to control me, and regrets to overcome me…  The world saw the “Walking Dead” version of me, because I was went through the motions, but numb to the realities…  I was sleep walking, but 7 years ago this day, I woke up…

If you read yesterday’s post, “Men And The Invisible Abuser…”, you know I’ve had my share of toxic relationships.  Relationships so toxic that each and every last one left me feeling lower than the one before…  At the time I didn’t realize I was carrying the residue of words and actions…  I didn’t know I had bags filled with tons of insecurities and what I felt was inadequacies…  I couldn’t see the waste I was swimming in because it was all I knew…  I was sleeping on what healthy and healed looks like, but this very day 7 years ago, I woke up…

I woke up and saw the light of truth…  The truth being I’m an amazing man, but I had some things I needed to clean up…  I needed to see not only (Click HERE to read more)