The S In Single…

So I’ve been single almost 7 years now…  I’ve become accustomed to doing things my way and to be quite honest, I’ve become a tad bit selfish…  I’ve grown to love the freedom of doing what I want, when I want, and how I want…  I don’t have to look out for anyone but myself…  Don’t have to stress over feelings that aren’t mine, nor do I have to worry about carrying the weight of anyone else’s problems.  To some, this a dangerous place to be…  They believe it’s dangerous because I’m not getting younger…  Selfish because they believe we all need the attention and love of someone else…  So for the record, I have no problem with having a relationship, I just don’t want to be married…

So why don’t I want to be married you’re wondering, huh???  And my question to you is, why do I have to be married???  Why are you concerned with my relationship status???  Do you want to date or marry me????  The problem with the world today is “single’s” are made to feel less than if they’re not married…  Both men and women are profiled as being gay, crazy, lazy or a whore if they’re not…  Something has to be wrong with him or her if they haven’t jumped the broom…  So many singles woke up on Christmas day feeling inadequate because they’re not in a relationship and to be honest, part of this falls on him or her, but a majority of it falls on the expectations of the world…  Expectations that by a certain age you have to be married…  Expectations that by a certain age you must have kids, living in a big house, and driving a pretty car…  And sadly to say, by the worlds standards if you haven’t achieved these things, you’re a failure and invaluable….Sadly to say, not only are they getting  it from the world, but the church as well…

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Love Algorithms…

 

Maybe you’ve noticed on Instagram and Facebook how on your news feeds are old posting…  People instantly share moments, but it may take you a few hours or days to see them…  Well not sure if you know it or not, but there are algorithms behind the scene to decrease visibility with intentions of gain…  I wonder if “love” was used to create this mathematical calculation of when as well as how much to reveal… “Love” like Social Media have algorithms that decreases what we see…  Many times others can see it, but “love” decreases the visibility of the writing on the wall…  Is “love” blinding???  For some it is…  Does “love” slow down when we see the behaviors and actions of the one we’ve chosen to share it with???  For some it does…  Just like the algorithms used to decrease the visibility of pictures, advertisements, quotes and captions on Social Media, “love” decreases the reality of our situations…

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New Year/Same You…

 

So we’ve reached the time when everyone is counting down until the New Year…  If you’re on any facet of Social Media, you’ve seen the meme’s, hashtags, captions and personal declarations of what the New Year will bring from the same ole people you saw on last year…    But my question is why wait until the New Year for greater?  Why wait to think differently, be better, lose weight, live your dreams?  Why wait for the New Year to change your life when you can change it today???

Did you know if you’re messed up in 2017 and do nothing to fix it in 2017, you’re going to be messed up in 2018???  If you haven’t committed to losing weight in 2017, you’re not going to lose it in 2018???  Or how about if you  (Click HERE to read more)

Stay Woke…

Sadly to say, many of you are currently sleeping on the one you need or the one you have…  The signs are standing right before you, but your eyes are shut…  There are those of you who some people think you’ve been blinded by love, but in actuality you’ve made a conscious decision to take a nap…  A nap causes you to avoid taking action on the lies, cheating, deceit, manipulation and control…  Taking a nap is your way of not dealing with the problems, facing your fears and walking away from the things you’ve vowed so many times never to deal with…  Then there are those of you who are napping on the one who is perfect for you…  Because they’re wrapped differently than you’ve dreamed or imagined, you’re taking a nap on the one who holds the key to helping you find the best you…  Whichever category you fall in, you’re sleeping on the truth of what you need…

So why do those of you who are sleeping on the one you have fear waking up?  Well waking up causes you to be honest with yourself and admit you’re settling for less (Click HERE to read more)

Are You A “For Now” Or “Forever”???

Have you ever wondered why people treat you the way they do?  Why others tend to focus on themselves first and think about you later???  Is it because they’re selfish???  Possibly…  Is it because they’re trifflin???  Possibly…  Is it because you allow it???  Most definitely…  But when you think about it, people treat you horribly because they believe you can be replaced…

Many of you are with someone who believe they can either find better or won’t miss out if you’re gone… Your value in their life is seen only by you… As for them, you’re a means to get what they want for now…  Get where they’re headed for now…  But he/she doesn’t see you as “Forever”…  You’re a “For Now” fixture in their life that can be replaced easily with (Click HERE to read more)

Embrace This Moment…

 

One thing I love is the first encounter you have when walking into a bakery…  It’s like you’re greeted with the fresh sweet aroma of cakes, cookies and breads…  For a brief moment, it’s heaven on earth and before you know it, the moment has left you…   In what feels like a split second the scent is interrupted by body scents, conversations, music and interactions…  Because mentally you’ve been transported into other places, you’re no longer living in the sweetness floating in the air…

Just like the above scenario, many of you are mentally distracted…  You’ve allowed various things to transport you out of the moment and unfortunately, you’re missing out on the sweetness of your life…  We’ve been trained to work for the “next” and not to enjoy the “now”…  Some of you have done some extraordinary things in your life, but you never took a moment (Click HERE to read more)

 

 

5 After Break-Up Tips…

 

I hate messy break-ups…  Break-ups filled with confusion, drama, and toxic behavior…Most times breaking up becomes hard because of our own doing…  Whether it’s trying to hold on to someone who has asked to be let go of or because people have a problem with taking control not of the situation, but themselves and walking away with a sense of dignity…  Today I want to share with you 5 things that helped my most recent break-up feel like a dream…

So here we go…

CUT TIES:  Where many of us go wrong is we never cut the rope keeping us attached to the one we’re leaving…  In a perfect world, it would be wonderful if we could continue talking, texting, emailing and even dating the one we’ve broken up with, but we don’t live in a perfect world…  Whether your relationship ended happily or horribly, ties must be cut initially.  If after a few months the two of you agree to build a relationship, cool.  Initially you need time to process and accept the breakup without the interference of the one you just left.  Cutting ties is it a gift you give to you, not a punishment placed on them…

FORGIVE YOU:  Forgiving has proven to be one of the most difficult task for many people…  Many find it much easier to forgive those who have committed horrific acts rather than the one who allowed those acts to be committed.  Throughout our lives we’ve always been taught the power of forgiving others, but never the power of forgiving ourselves.  Forgiving (Click HERE to read more)