Make Her Want More!!!

 

So I was chatting with a buddy of mine and he was sharing his whole perspective on dating in 2017.  Now this guys is married, has a girlfriend as well (Yup a wife and girlfriend), so I guess in some regards he does know how to finagle the whole dating thing…  Fellas, his perspective on the first date is never set the expectations too high…  Meaning, if you’re not a “flower’s type of guy”, don’t’ give her flowers…  If you’re not a “5 Star Restaurant type of guy”, don’t take her to a five star restaurant…  His mindset is be “crappy enough” she won’t expect much from you, but be “good enough” she will want to have a second date with you…

As ludicrous as this may sound, this guy is onto something… Truthfully speaking, women say they want a good man and for the most part, this is truth…  But no one wants anyone who is too “Good”; “Easy”; “Nice”…  Even though  (Click HERE to read more)

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It Is What It Is…

 

“You love what you love, however we as women work with what we have and as shallow as he may seem I understand him. I would rather know what a man’s preference is in the beginning so that if I am not what it is that he is looking for, I can move on swiftly.”  Patricia Crawford

The above quote is from Author, Patricia Crawford in response to yesterday’s post “Sewn In, Grown In”.  When I read it, I knew I had to share it with you all….  Wouldn’t it be great if people just said in the very beginning what it is they liked, wanted, and desired?  You know like if women were told “I love long hair”, “I love small women”, “I’m a breast man”, “I love a woman who knows how to cook, loves taking care of her man, and a woman who has a limitless appetite for sex”???  Or how about fellas, what if women said “I love a man who is well dressed”, “I love a man with a six pack”, “I want a man who wants children within the next year”, “I want a man who wants a housewife and willing to allow her to stay home while he’s away at work”???  Wouldn’t it be great if people were just honest up front???

Let me also asked you this… Wouldn’t it be great if people were honest in the very beginning and we were honest with ourselves and said “I’m not the one for him/her”???  You know like when he/she gives their wants and desires, (Click HERE to read more)

DECLARE IT!!!

 

Last week I sat in on our Company’s Town Hall and the CEO said something I believe we’ve all heard before, but this particular day it spoke a whole new meaning to me…  As I sat there I looked around and thought “Wow, all of this came from one man…”  Billions in earnings, millions in profits, thousands of employee’s, hundreds of shows per year all from one man…  What started as a thought become a vision…  What started as a vision became a reality…  What started as a reality has become a legacy…  All because one man had a vision and he declared it would become a reality…

So let me ask you, What is it you haven’t declared???  Maybe it’s not starting a business, but maybe it’s getting out of debt; having self-esteem, self-value, self-worth; losing weight….  Maybe it’s getting a degree or getting a better job… It could be so many things, but you haven’t declared them, so why (Click HERE to read more)

JUST SAY IT!!!

 

One thing I hate is being underestimated…  Who gives others the right to decide what I can handle, process, or deal with???  I believe in some cases people limit us based on what they themselves can handle, process or deal with, therefore they either lie, cheat, stay in situations in which they are unhappy, or walk around on egg shells…  Today I want to talk to those of you who are currently stealing the “freedom of choice” from someone you know…

So here we go…

  • If you want to entertain, date or sleep with someone else, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  The one you’re with just may be strong enough to take it and who knows, he/she may just be open to  keeping an “Open Relationship” with you…  Don’t stay with someone if you’re completely unhappy with the thought of just being with him/her…  This only cause’s drama later when you choose to cheat, lie or when you become so miserable within the relationship, you decide to do things that disrespect it…

  • If you’re unhappy, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  Not speaking your feelings steals the opportunities for the other person to correct what is wrong…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes theirs…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes resentment…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes anger…  (Click HERE to read more)

How Do You Handle “The Truth”???

 

Do you want the truth or something beautiful?  Which group do you fall in?

  • You “Can’t Handle” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but you really can’t handle it… When truth finds its way to your feet, it’s too much for you to bear which leaves you bent out of shape or paralyzed…  Unable to move forward into resolution, therefore you float in a pool of hurt you asked for…  You overreact, overthink, and overkill the situation…   What I know for sure is… The reason many of you are lied to is because you can’t handle the truth…

  • You “Excuse” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but you don’t want to deal with it…  When truth makes its way to your feet, you find ways to excuse it…  “Maybe you saw the wrong man/woman”, “Maybe he/she really didn’t mean it that way”, “Maybe I’m feeling this way because of my past”.  You make excuses for the truth because you don’t want to accept or deal with the lies…  What I know for sure is…  The reason many of you are hurt after you finally accept the truth is because you made excuses for the truth…

  • You “Overlook” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but when it stare’s you in the face, you overlook it…  When truth finds its way to your feet, you don’t (Click HERE to read more)

5 People Who Shouldn’t Date…

 

Sometimes I truly feel sorry for those of you who are actively dating…  I mean it can be hard at times and if you’re not careful, you’ll find yourselves asking “What’s wrong with me?”…  To answer this question, NOT A DAYUM THING…  For those of you who are healthy mentally, spiritually and physically, you’re on the right track…  Unfortunately, you cannot control who finds you attractive… Many times you’re approached by people who shouldn’t even be dating, so today I want to talk to those 5 people…

You Shouldn’t Date if You’re:

  • Recently Single…  If you’re recently out of a relationship, you shouldn’t be back in the dating game…  More than likely you haven’t dealt with the breakup, what caused the break up, or the residue of the break up… You probably haven’t gotten to the core of YOU, nurtured the scars and allowed the wounds to heal…  You’re more than likely “rebounding” and you’re going to hurt whomever you encounter next…  Instead of trying to date someone else, try dating yourself and find out what it is you need at this stage of your life…  Unpack the baggage you’re carrying before moving into the mind and heart of someone else…

  • The “Complicated” One…  If you find yourself in a situation you consider “It’s Complicated”, you shouldn’t be back in the dating game…  Unfortunately if it’s complicated that means you’re currently willingly or unwillingly committed to someone…  The reason many of your situations are complicated is because you’re a coward and don’t want to make a decision…  Your happiness shouldn’t be complicated…  If you’re unhappy, do something about it…  If you’re no longer in love with the one you’re with, get out of the relationship…  If the relationship (Click HERE to read more)

Why You Shouldn’t Do What You’re About To Do!

 

Walking away isn’t always easy, at times it feels like you’re on an emotional roller coaster…  One minute you’re stronger than ever and the next, you feel you can’t live without him/her…    But here are a few things you should ponder the next time you want to pick up the phone; drive by; text; email, or wanting to find yourself in the place he/she just might be…

  • Call:  Why you shouldn’t call is because you’re moving forward…  Calling will only delay the process…  Tell me, what is it you want to hear him/her say???  “Let’s work things out”, “I miss you”, “I love you”, “You were right, I was wrong”…  Trust me when I say, it’s not going to cure the feelings inside and there’s also a chance you may get the opposite of what you’re wanting to hear…  You may also find yourself apologizing; begging someone back you should run from, or rehashing all those old feelings over again…  Keep moving forward, they’re a part of your past, let them stay there…

  • Drive By:  Why you shouldn’t drive by is because you’re moving forward…  Driving by their place will only upset them, cause him/her to say something you  (Click HERE to read more)