JUST SAY IT!!!

 

One thing I hate is being underestimated…  Who gives others the right to decide what I can handle, process, or deal with???  I believe in some cases people limit us based on what they themselves can handle, process or deal with, therefore they either lie, cheat, stay in situations in which they are unhappy, or walk around on egg shells…  Today I want to talk to those of you who are currently stealing the “freedom of choice” from someone you know…

So here we go…

  • If you want to entertain, date or sleep with someone else, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  The one you’re with just may be strong enough to take it and who knows, he/she may just be open to  keeping an “Open Relationship” with you…  Don’t stay with someone if you’re completely unhappy with the thought of just being with him/her…  This only cause’s drama later when you choose to cheat, lie or when you become so miserable within the relationship, you decide to do things that disrespect it…

  • If you’re unhappy, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  Not speaking your feelings steals the opportunities for the other person to correct what is wrong…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes theirs…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes resentment…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes anger…  (Click HERE to read more)

How Do You Handle “The Truth”???

 

Do you want the truth or something beautiful?  Which group do you fall in?

  • You “Can’t Handle” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but you really can’t handle it… When truth finds its way to your feet, it’s too much for you to bear which leaves you bent out of shape or paralyzed…  Unable to move forward into resolution, therefore you float in a pool of hurt you asked for…  You overreact, overthink, and overkill the situation…   What I know for sure is… The reason many of you are lied to is because you can’t handle the truth…

  • You “Excuse” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but you don’t want to deal with it…  When truth makes its way to your feet, you find ways to excuse it…  “Maybe you saw the wrong man/woman”, “Maybe he/she really didn’t mean it that way”, “Maybe I’m feeling this way because of my past”.  You make excuses for the truth because you don’t want to accept or deal with the lies…  What I know for sure is…  The reason many of you are hurt after you finally accept the truth is because you made excuses for the truth…

  • You “Overlook” The Truth…  You say you want the truth, but when it stare’s you in the face, you overlook it…  When truth finds its way to your feet, you don’t (Click HERE to read more)

5 People Who Shouldn’t Date…

 

Sometimes I truly feel sorry for those of you who are actively dating…  I mean it can be hard at times and if you’re not careful, you’ll find yourselves asking “What’s wrong with me?”…  To answer this question, NOT A DAYUM THING…  For those of you who are healthy mentally, spiritually and physically, you’re on the right track…  Unfortunately, you cannot control who finds you attractive… Many times you’re approached by people who shouldn’t even be dating, so today I want to talk to those 5 people…

You Shouldn’t Date if You’re:

  • Recently Single…  If you’re recently out of a relationship, you shouldn’t be back in the dating game…  More than likely you haven’t dealt with the breakup, what caused the break up, or the residue of the break up… You probably haven’t gotten to the core of YOU, nurtured the scars and allowed the wounds to heal…  You’re more than likely “rebounding” and you’re going to hurt whomever you encounter next…  Instead of trying to date someone else, try dating yourself and find out what it is you need at this stage of your life…  Unpack the baggage you’re carrying before moving into the mind and heart of someone else…

  • The “Complicated” One…  If you find yourself in a situation you consider “It’s Complicated”, you shouldn’t be back in the dating game…  Unfortunately if it’s complicated that means you’re currently willingly or unwillingly committed to someone…  The reason many of your situations are complicated is because you’re a coward and don’t want to make a decision…  Your happiness shouldn’t be complicated…  If you’re unhappy, do something about it…  If you’re no longer in love with the one you’re with, get out of the relationship…  If the relationship (Click HERE to read more)

Why You Shouldn’t Do What You’re About To Do!

 

Walking away isn’t always easy, at times it feels like you’re on an emotional roller coaster…  One minute you’re stronger than ever and the next, you feel you can’t live without him/her…    But here are a few things you should ponder the next time you want to pick up the phone; drive by; text; email, or wanting to find yourself in the place he/she just might be…

  • Call:  Why you shouldn’t call is because you’re moving forward…  Calling will only delay the process…  Tell me, what is it you want to hear him/her say???  “Let’s work things out”, “I miss you”, “I love you”, “You were right, I was wrong”…  Trust me when I say, it’s not going to cure the feelings inside and there’s also a chance you may get the opposite of what you’re wanting to hear…  You may also find yourself apologizing; begging someone back you should run from, or rehashing all those old feelings over again…  Keep moving forward, they’re a part of your past, let them stay there…

  • Drive By:  Why you shouldn’t drive by is because you’re moving forward…  Driving by their place will only upset them, cause him/her to say something you  (Click HERE to read more)

I’m Black!!!

 

I find it funny how you look at me when I walk in the room…  How you judge me before I even utter a word…  Even without knowing me; giving me a chance, you size me up…  You profile; categorize; and stereotype me…  Is it because I’m black?  Because I grew up on a different side of the track than you?   Is it because of the size of my lips, darkness of my eyes, or the  swag in my walk?  What is it I’m doing that makes you think you’re better than me?

I’m black, not by choice, but destiny…  There’s nothing I can do to change that, nor is there anything I would do to change that…  I’m proud of who I am, where I’ve come from and I’m more excited about where I’m headed…  I’m black, because my parents and their parents are black…  Again, I’m black not by choice, but destiny…So what is it about me being black that threatens you?  Is it you believe I’m going to surpass you?  That I’m going to know more, gain more, and do more???  Is it because you believe I’m going to take what you’ve achieved and destroy it???  What is it about me being black that scares you???

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I laugh when you discriminate against me…  When you whisper lies to people who don’t even know me…  I smile when I hear of how you try to sabotage me, because (Click HERE to read more)

Becky Can’t Comb Mix Hair…

So last night I had dinner with 5 amazing, beautiful, educated, talented and creative women…  2 of which are married and the others, you guessed it “Waiting for “Mr. Right for Me””…  I love meeting up with these women because they always bring a viewpoint that is interesting, unique, and sometimes borderline ludicrous…   But it’s conversations like the ones we have that holds the power to change the world if they go beyond the moment…

So last night the whole “interracial dating” topic came up…  This is where the title came from, a fellow CANCER gave it to me (SUCH CREATIVE PEOPLE)…  Am I opposed to interracial dating???  Of course not…  Would I marry outside of my race???  Of course not…  You see marriage isn’t for me, so interracial marriages or marrying within my race is not an option… However, I believe people should have the right to choose freely without being judge…   What was interesting about our conversation is these women believe SOME African American men are chasing the dream…  You know “Chasing White”…  They’ve experienced African American men who have made it known and clear dating WITHIN HIS RACE IS NOT AN OPTION…  Are they aiming to date Caucasian women???  Not sure, BUT they’re for sure not targeting African American Women….

Now these ladies seem to believe it’s because of various reasons…  Let’s go ahead and pull the sheet off the Elephant standing in the middle of the room, they believe it’s because Caucasian women are more submissive whereas African American women aren’t putting up with; taking, nor accepting (Click HERE to read more)

“Breakup” To “Make Up”…

 

“Is it cheating if you break up??? Fall for someone else???”  and later “Make Up”???  Now the quote in red are lyrics written by my cousin Jarrett Michael from his latest release “What A Year” (Check him out – Amazing Rapper)…  So this morning on my way into the gym, I found myself grooving and bumping to his latest project and these words seemed to have resonated with me…  You see some of you have broken up with your man/woman, had an encounter with someone else, and now you find yourselves back with the one you wanted nothing to do with before… 

So let’s talk about these lyrics…  “Is it cheating if you break up???”…  Let me ask you this, how long should someone wait before getting involved with someone else???  Is there a grace period???  Should they wait months or years before moving on???  And lastly, if he/she chooses to get (Click HERE to read more)