Have You Asked???

 

“I can never please you” is how some of you left your home feeling this today… It seems like nothing you do is satisfactory to the one you love…You cook, clean, take care of the children, but that’s not enough…  You take out the trash, clean up behind yourself, take care of the bills, but that’s not enough…  NOTHING YOU DO IS ENOUGH!!!

It’s amazing how so many of you are in relationships and you don’t even know what it takes to please the one you’re with…  You’re giving and doing things in which they’ve never asked for…  You’ve allowed your perception of what a “Perfect Mate”  overshadow what the “Perfect Mate for Him/Her” truly is…  Some of you have forsaken your dreams, passion and purpose because of an illusion of what you think it takes to please the opposite sex…  You’re daily portraying someone you’re not and all your efforts seems to be in vain because NOTHING YOU DO IS ENOUGH!!!

So let me ask you this…  When was the last time you and your mate had a “heart-to-heart”?  You know that conversation that breaks down the walls of perceptions (Click HERE to read more)

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You Are WORTH More Than You Think…

 

Life has screwed some of you up pretty bad…  Right now at this very moment, you’re feeling worthless; like your life has fallen apart and left you there to die… You’re walking around masked with a smile outwardly, yet you’re screaming as loud as you can inwardly…  Not sure why or how you’ve reached this place, but whatever has happened, it has left you feeling like crap… 

Words hurt, don’t they???  Words have crushed some of you… Not sure who spoke them, but whomever it was they were important enough to wound the core of who you truly are… Their words had so much meaning in your life until now you question your worth… You’re questioning if you’re good; thin; smart; pretty/handsome enough…   You’re questioning everything about yourself all from the words spoken by a hurt person aiming to hurt you…

Divorces hurt, don’t they???  Divorce has crushed some of you… Not sure what happened, but the residue of your marriage/spouse leaving has left you feeling as though your heart was ripped out; no one else will ever want to marry you; or that you’re washed up goods and should hide in a corner…  You’re now questioning if someone will love someone like you; want someone like you; find someone like you attractive…  You gave him/her the best of you, now you’re left feeling as though you’re left with the “worst of you”…

Getting Fired hurt, don’t it???  Getting fired has crushed some of you…  Not sure exactly why you were let go, but being fired has tarnished your ego…  You’re (Click HERE to read more)

Why Your Spouse Is Jealous Of Your Friends!!!

 
 
So what grants permission for friendships when you’re married?  Is it the “Marital Status” of the outsider? The “Security” within the marriage?  Is it whether or not the person is a “true” family member?  The “Gender” of the outsider???  What does it take for “spouses” to have friends and everything is okay?  I believe we’ve all heard “Singles shouldn’t be friends with people who are married” or how about “Men and women can’t just be friends without some type of benefits”??? To be honest, I believe both of these are a bunch of ish used to mask the insecurities of the mate who feels as though they’re the outsider…  You see it doesn’t matter what the relationship status or the gender of the outsider is, the spouse looking from the outside is either insecure within themselves or insecure with their spouse because of his/her past actions…  Let me put this out, there are some friends who are trifflin, i get this…  BUT IF YOUR MATE CHOOSES TO CONTINUE THEIR FRIENDSHIP, YOUR PROBLEM IS WITH YOUR MATE AND NOT THE LOW DOWN, DIRTY, TRIFFLIN FRIEND….
 
So why is your spouse jealous of your friends???  Well it’s because he/she wants what the two of you have…  If those who are insecure with their mates having friends were completely honest with themselves, they would come to this exact truth…  You see your friends gets the best of you…  They have the opportunities of experiencing the “you” who  (Click HERE to read more)

Shouldn’t “Love” Evolve As You Evolve???

 

It’s amazing how so many people have love “F’d” up… I mean they’ve sabotaged their lives all because they believe love asked them to do it…  So what do I mean???  Well some of you aren’t living your dreams because you believe love asked you to give them up…  There are those of you who are miserable in your own skin all because you believe love requires you to do it…  Then there are those of you who feel trapped in your “wedding day”…  You’ve evolved, but their love has remained the same…

So where am I going with this?  Well thanks for asking… Love should grow as you grow…  It should evolve as you evolve…  It should change as you change… Love is too big to fit into a box created by small minds and (Click HERE to read more)

“I’m Damaged”

 

Self-Honesty at times is hard… It’s hard to admit it’s not everyone else, but you’re the problem…  It’s hard to admit you’ve been hurt or still dealing with the pain caused by someone you loved… It’s hard to admit maybe even after years apart, you’re still covered with open wounds from the cuts of your past…  It’s hard to admit even though it was his/her choice to step outside of the relationship/marriage, that maybe your nagging, lack of sexual desire, unwillingness to make him/her feel special played a part in their decision making…  It’s hard to admit you’re not perfect, not self-righteous, not everyone’s cup of tea…  It’s hard to admit just maybe you made a mistake, took a wrong turn on your life journey…  Sometimes it’s just hard to admit you’re damaged goods…

Trust me, I get it’s hard to admit “I’m Damaged”…  But did you know as long as you walk around in (Click HERE to read more)

“Love” & “Hurt” Are A Packaged Deal…

 

Many of you are struggling with finding love, and I’m not only talking about those of you who are single… Sadly to say, some of you are currently either in a relationship or married, but “love” is nowhere to be found…  You like the one you’re with, fond of them in every way, but “love” you don’t…  So let’s take a look at the situation…  Is it because there are no eligible people out there?  NOPE…  Is it because your mate has lied in the past?  NOPE…  Is it because you’re unlovable?   NOPE…  Many of you can’t find love because you fear being hurt…

Trust me when I say, I understand the pain of hurt…  In the past, I’ve been hurt tremendously, but I survived…  I can remember when I made attempts to guard my heart, but in all honesty I was only blocking it…   I thought (Click HERE to read more)

You Didn’t Know…

 

It’s amazing how some of you are married, but now unhappy with the one you chose to marry…  Out of nowhere, YOU’RE BRAND NEW!!!   It’s like you’re sleeping with a stranger every night…   You didn’t know she didn’t cook, clean, bathe, take care of herself…  You didn’t know he was cheap, disrespectful, and unable to commit to one…  You didn’t know he/she was addicted to sex, drugs, and alcohol…  You didn’t know their credit was bad, their spending habits were awful, nor did you know they were living above their earthly means…  You didn’t know he/she was controlling, manipulative, abusive, insecure, and borderline psycho… Let you tell it, you didn’t know any of this…

You didn’t know their siblings were so involved in their lives, their mother was too protective, and their father had such power over her view of what a real man truly is…  You didn’t know your single friends were going to be a problem, your church involvement was going to be too much, (Click HERE to read more)