WAYMENT, You Forgot Something…

 

One thing I know from experience is when you’re done with someone, you don’t want them to leave anything behind… I mean no toothbrush, books, pens, pictures; clothes and if you could rid yourself of their memories, you would ask them to take those with them as well…   Custody of the pet wouldn’t be an issue because if the cost of completely getting rid of them is the dog/cat, “Bye Bye, he/she will take good care of you” would be your final words as Scruffy walks down the walkway…  As I get older, games tend to sicken me more and more each day…  I don’t like all the going back and forth; “on today, off tomorrow” kind of stuff…  I’m like “Are you in it? Okay, let’s win it…  If not, deuces”…

I can remember when I used to get all bent out of shape when I was broken up with…  I mean I couldn’t function…  I would stop eating; constantly call, email (this was before text), do drive by’s and all that other foolishness you do when you’re on an emotional roller coaster…  I would beg and plead with someone who had made up their minds the relationship was something they no longer wanted…  I would buy gifts, apologize for things I wasn’t guilty of and go out of my way to win “One More Chance”… When I tell you I was weak, you better believe I was weak, but this was before I realized exactly who I am and what I bring to the table…  Nowadays, I’m not the guy to stick around…  I don’t do drama, pettiness, nor do I do stress…  I honestly try to live my life stress free and the first drop of “toxic” I see, I remove myself from the situation…  Be it a intimate, platonic or sadly say, a family relationship, YOU’Z GOT TO GO if you’re not about moving forward in peace, a healthy state of mind, and passion for better…

Many of you are playing “Russian Roulette” with your sanity…  You’re spinning the cylinder waiting for the bullet which is someone who has told you not only  (Click HERE to read more)

The Steps Of Life…

 

I’m learning more and more each day, we’re either in one of two phases in our life…  We’re either “letting go” or “stepping into”…  It’s like you can’t do both, you either have to let go of where you’ve been to step into where you’re going…   Or you’re going to hold onto where you’ve been and find yourselves years later still in it…

“Letting go” has proven to be quite challenging for some of us…  Whether it’s a memory of what was, a hurtful experience, a size we believe we were our best or it could be several other things, but many of us are trapped in “what was”…  We hold on because in many cases we wish we could have done better or not done at all…  We hold on because of regrets, feelings of failure, fear of moving on, and the fear of what can be… “Letting go” can be hard, but being left behind proves later in life to be even harder to comprehend…

There are those of you who are “stepping into”…  You’re stepping into whom you’re destined to be and sadly for some of you, you’re about to step into a lesson that’s going to hurt, break, but mold you…  You’re about to (Click HERE to read more)

How To Turn Your “Worst Relationship” Into The “Best Relationship” Of Your Life!!!

 

So raise your hands if you’ve ever been in or currently in a “Bad Relationship”?   Now for those of you who’ve raised your hands and we can’t even see you, I LOVE YOU!!!  You see raising your hand is a true testament to where you’ve been and where you are today…  Like you, I’ve had my share of “bad relationships” as well…  I’ve been hurt, broken, and left feeling as though I’d lost everything…  I can remember feeling as though my world was over; the pain was too much to bear, and that I couldn’t live without my heart which was being held by someone who didn’t want me anymore…  Some of my worst relationships have now become my best…  The relationships I thought really broke me in all honesty are those in which have “made me”…  Those relationships taught me just how strong I am, weak I can be and have taught me to show forgiveness and compassion to those who are where I used to be…

Some of you are feeling as though you’ve wasted your time on someone who didn’t deserve it… You stuck around when their actions begged you to walk away…  You forgave when their actions begged you to walk away…  You took ish you didn’t deserve overlooking their actions begging and pleading you to walk away…  Today you find yourself regretting ever loving the one who hurt you because you’re older; maybe thicker, not as pretty/good looking as you used to be, and wondering whether or not someone will love the scraps they’ve left behind…  You’re ashamed because you were a fool, got played, used and abused, and because you ignored the signs right in your face….  Secretly you’re hurt because you did everything in your power to make them love, respect, and cherish you…  You’re hurt because you gave your body, body, body, body, body, body, body, and more of your body…  Don’t act brand new, you know how we use “make up sex” to fix “break up” type of situations…  Regardless to your tactics, today you haven’t found the help in the hurt…

You’re better because of that bad relationship.  Whether you’ve realized it or not, your “ex” or your “current” has helped your future…  They’ve taught you lessons a good relationship never could…  Lessons a good man/woman never could…  They’ve taught you your limits, shown (Click HERE to read more)

You Don’t Have To Take That!!!

 

Why are you allowing him/her treat you like you’re trash?  Call you “fat”, “ugly”, “lazy”, “bitch”, “hoe”, “useless”, and “worthless”?  Why are you allowing him/her to slap, punch, or push you?  Tell you that “you’re nothing and won’t ever be more than nothing”?  Why are you allowing him/her to continue lying, cheating, stealing, and using you?  Allowing him/her to repeatedly break up with you so they’re free to go and sleep with whomever they choose?  Why are you allowing someone to treat you in ways you don’t deserve?

Is it because you believe you have to be the bigger person in the situation?  Because you believe in order to truly forgive someone, you must keep them in your life?  Is it because they’re a “Man/Woman of God” and you’ve bamboozled yourself into believing “God is working on him/her, they’re not perfect, so I have to be patient”?  Is it because you believe this is your “weeping” moment and joy is going to come sooner or later?  Is it because you watched your mother stand by a man who was “no good”?  Because you watched your father love a woman who  (Click HERE to read more)

The 3 Types Of People Surrounding You…

 

Many of you are filled with world changing ideas, but they’re stuck in your head… You’re either procrastinating, afraid, or being held back and don’t even know it… I’m learning more and more each day, we’re surrounded by 3 types of people…  We’re surrounded by those who will push us forward, pull us backward, and those who are putting no effort into helping us be our best selves…  Today, I want to talk about these three people, so here we go…

  • Sees the potential in you, but does nothing about it… Some of you really need to examine your circles…  In your circle of closest friends are people who lack ambition, drive, and passion…  They have no dreams, aspirations or goals, they’re just happy living from pay check to pay check and making it through the day…  Because they’re what I like to call “coasters”, they’re not encouraging you to pursue greater…  You’ve shared your dreams, but they never ask you how your pursuit is going, nor do they ever encourage you to get started on your pursuit…  These people aren’t bad for the “you” you are today, but they’re detrimental to the “you” you’re supposed to be…  Right now, they’re not hurting, but they sho in hell ain’t helping…

  • Sees potential in you, but doesn’t want you to reach it…  In your circle or people who are secretly threatened by the person you are…  They smile in your face, but cut you behind your back…  Maybe you haven’t heard (Click HERE to read more)

The Importance Of Honesty With Yourself…

 

Do you know the longer you lie to yourself, the longer it’s going to take to heal, remove, and accept yourself??? Well it’s true…  Many times we lie because we believe the truth is more painful than continuing the lie…  We’re afraid of feeling uncomfortable and alone; stripping ourselves down to the core and seeing the “f’d up” truth about ourselves…  We’re afraid if we stop lying people will no longer desire or like us…  We’re afraid who we truly are won’t be accepted or approved of…  We’re afraid God will no longer love someone as bruised, broken and battered as we are… There are so many reasons we lie, but there’s only one reason you should tell the truth…

For 38 years I lied to myself… I lied because of fear of letting others down… I lied because I wanted to be accepted into groups I should have never been apart of…  I lied because I wanted to feel loved by people who didn’t even love themselves…  I was lying to avoid dealing with the true issues which was ME…  At the core of who I was at the time, I didn’t feel good enough…  I didn’t feel like I deserved better, so I accepted whatever was given to me…  Because of these feelings I found (Click HERE to read more)