I Feel Ya Pain…

 

In less than 3 months,  I’ll celebrate my 45th birthday…  Seems like just yesterday I turned 30 and questioned what had I done with the previous 29 years…  As crazy as it may sound, I was super excited about turning 40…  I was on a serious mission of living my truth and embracing life for what it was at the time, but as I approach 45, I sometimes struggle with it.  Honestly, my life is great…  I have a great job, I’m living my dreams, I have an amazing family, my friends are wonderful, and God constantly takes the hinges off doors I never imagined I would walk through…  Honestly, I’m blessed and I believe this is what makes me somewhat sad…  As great as my life may be, I have no one to share it with…

Getting a relationship isn’t the problem…  If I must say so myself, I’m a great catch…  I’m super smart, creative; talented and to be quite honest, I’m a pretty good-looking dude…  In no way am I conceited, but I’m completely convinced I’m one of God’s greatest gifts to the world…  But aren’t we all????  So where am I going with this???  Glad you ask… Well for you ladies who have reached an age in which you thought your lives would be completely different, I understand how you feel…  I understand knowing you’re an amazing person, yet you’re single… I understand knowing you’re great looking, yet you’re single…  I understand getting older and feeling one day no one will find you attractive, I get all of this… Some of you are so afraid you’re going to die alone, never walk the aisle of matrimony, never have the beautiful babies you’ve dreamed of your entire life…  I completely understand how it feels getting older, wanting love, but no one to give it to…

Fellas, I understand your struggles as well… You know you will be a great provider, yet you’re single…  You know you will be an amazing father, yet you’re single…  You want that woman who looks at you and (Click HERE to read more)

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Now I See Why…

 

Have you ever met someone in which you believed their life was much different than what you thought it was???  You know like meeting someone who is physically gorgeous, yet they’re constantly struggling with keeping a relationship???  Or how about someone who on the surface appears to have their life together, yet they’re a complete and uttered mess??? Well here recently I met this lady who is simply beautiful…  I mean you can’t take your eyes off her, but she’s struggling with finding a man…

Looking at her you would think men are fighting to gain her attention, but she’s single and not by choice, but by action…  So what do you mean “by action” John???  Well thanks for asking… On the surface this woman is perfect for any man…  She’s beautiful, smart, physically fit, has a pretty good job, educated, and she has her own “change” in the bank… She’s independent, an amazing business woman and to top it off, she can throw down in the kitchen…  So with all of this going on, why is she single, right??? Well after talking with her for about an hour, the mask slowly began to peel off…  Listening to her, I understand exactly why she struggles…  SHE’S CRAZY AF…  Sometimes it doesn’t take a Rocket Scientist to understand when a person is crazy, all you have to do is listen and you’ll find out everything you need to know…

Some of you reading are this exact way…  Maybe you’re not crazy, but you’re thirsty; desperate; controlling; manipulative; or just plain out insecure af… You wonder (Click HERE to read more)

Roses Really Smells Like Boo Boo…

 

Would you agree to an open relationship?  A relationship where your mate can freely date and sleep with someone other than yourself?  Yeah I already know your answer, HELL NAW, right???  If he/she can’t only be with you, then you want nothing to do with them, right???  But this is what you say before the emotional connection, good sex, cohabitation, and the wedding vows…  This is what many of you say before the lifestyle you’ve grown accustomed to; before the fear of starting over kicked in…  It’s funny how the very thing we say we would never do, many of us find ourselves doing it…

Some of you today are in an “open relationship”…  You haven’t officially acknowledged this, but you’re with someone who you’re aware is entertaining, sleeping with, and emotionally connected to someone else…  No judgment here, just keeping it 100….  You’re currently in a situation you know damn well isn’t going anywhere.  You don’t trust them and they know it, but they also know you’re not going anywhere.  You’ve weighed out your options and you’ve convinced yourself into believing “Being with someone is better than being alone”, “Everyone has faults, no one is perfect”, “I can’t make it on my own”…  Or how about “He’s just being a man”????  You know that ish you tell (Click HERE to read more)

Just Maybe You’re Not Marriage Material…

 

 

So I have a few questions for you “marriage seekers” and those of you who are tired of being married or refuse to act as though you’re married….  So here we go…

Singles:

Why get married if you can’t keep a relationship as a “single”?  So many of you reading want to be married so badly, however you’re unable to keep a relationship for any period longer than 6 months, and that’s a long term relationship for you…  You’re either insecure, moody, controlling or manipulative, at least this is how your Ex’s describe you…  And if you’re not this person then you must be the cheater, liar, or the clingy mate…   You’re the one they’ve described as being untrustworthy, disrespectful to the relationship, and immature…   If you can’t survive or maintain a relationship as a single (non-married individual), how in the hell do you think you’re going to survive marriage?  But I get it, you want to be married because you’re approaching or have exceeded 30, right?  You want to be married because all your friends are married and you’re tired of being the 3rd wheel, right?  You want to be married because God told you (at least this is what you believe He told you the last time you spoke with Him as a child) that you are destined and created to be married, right?  Oh okay….

Tired Of Being Married:

Why did you go through all of the wedding planning to sleep in separate bedrooms, never have sex, to maintain separate accounts, never have date nights, and just the thought of your spouse makes you nausea?  Why did you get married to a man you knew was a cheater, dog, and abusive?  Why did you get married to a woman who was insecure, trifling, and a gold digger?  You invested thousands of dollars into someone you now think isn’t worth a dime…  Oh yeah, I get it…  This was before you knew who they really are, right?   You didn’t’ know he/she didn’t clean up behind themselves, overspends constantly, aren’t good with paying bills, high maintenance and only (Click HERE to read more)

There Are Bigger Fish, Why Fry Sardines???

 

So I watch lots of TV…  I mean from “My 600lb Life” all the way to “Tom & Jerry”, there’s nothing I won’t watch at least once… But one of my favorite networks is the Food Network, because I love to cook, I love getting different recipes and concepts from the many gifted Chefs featured on the channel…  One show I absolutely love is “Chopped”…  It’s amazing how these people think so quickly on their feet using outrageous ingredients to come up with some amazing meals…  Out of all the shows I’ve watched, there is one ingredient most Chefs struggle with, Sardines… Because of their size, delicacy and saltiness, many of these Chefs fail at their attempt… I’ve seen them sliced up and served raw, baked, but one way in which most fail is frying…

Because Sardines are pretty small in size, most Chefs either overcook them or the Sardines completely fall apart when the choice is made to fry them…  So where am I going with this?  Well many of you are trying to fry sardines in your lives…  You’re blinded by the small fish (things) when so many other people and sometimes even you have much bigger fish (problems) in your pantries to fry…  Now in no way am I trying to negate your problems, because those are your problems and I respect that…  But some of you are bent out of shape over things in the grand scheme of things aren’t really important…  You know like your relationship status, a few (Click HERE to read more)

Don’t Let The Door Hit You On The Way Out…

 

I think we all have that one friend who is miserable …  Constantly they gripe about the one they’re with; their job; their life; their church; their weight, and any other thing you can imagine…  They’re the friend in which you have to control the conversation because if you don’t, the entire time the two of you are together, the conversation is going to be able them and their toxic life…   I mean at times they’re emotionally draining because you’re pulled into their chaos…  He/she constantly says they’re going to leave/quit, yet they stay…  He/she constantly says they’re going to change, yet they remain the same…

So maybe you remember my bud I wrote about in “Pieces Of The “Perfect One””…  Yeah the one with the wife and GIRLFRIEND….  YUP GIRLFRIEND…  The one who said “No one can be your everything, so why make them your only”, well we chatted today and he’s having problems with the GIRLFRIEND… Now because I’ve never been in simultaneous relationships, maybe this is why I’m unable to completely understand his position…  Now she’s just the girlfriend, not the one who’s going to get half (Click HERE to read more)

She’s An “Alpha Dog”…

 

So yesterday I couldn’t help overhearing a conversation two women were having at the table next to where I was sitting…  From what I could tell, one of the women (single) were having some relationship issues, so the other woman (married) was giving her opinion on the situation… To be honest, I really think the married woman wanted me to join in on the conversation by the volume in which she chose to give her response, but I digressed and kept it moving…

As I sat there, I couldn’t help but hearing “Girl, you have to be an Alpha Dog, but know when to be obedient”..,  WTF???, and the “F” ain’t for “Fudge”…  Now if a man told a woman to be “obedient”, not only would all hell break loose, but her weave would met from the heat of hell breaking loose …  Now I get the whole “Alpha Dog” thing, but no one, whether you are male or female should ever take on the mindset of being “obedient”…  YOU ARE NOT A CHILD OR A DOG!!!!

Now one thing that gets me fired up about women and especially married women is they think they know what a man wants and has the best advice on how to get a man…  The single woman in this situation I know personally…  She’s beautiful, super smart, a fashionista and at her core  (Click HERE to read more)