The “Double Standards” Of Women…

 

Fellas, do you sometimes feel women have double standards?  They’re able to get away with a lot more because they’re women?  Do you ever feel women have greater expectations and have set higher standards for men to follow than themselves?  Well this post is for you…

Here are 6 areas in which SOME or MOST women have DOUBLE STANDARDS

Lies:

When a man tells a lie, according to a woman he’s trying to protect himself and cover up his dirt…  When a woman tells a lie, according to her, she’s trying to protect his ego, avoid shattering his pride, and keeping from him feeling as though he’s not a man….

Cheating:

When a man cheats, according to a woman it’s because he’s unable to keep his Johnson in his pants…  He’s a whore, dog, and lack the gene to commit to one woman…  When a woman cheats, according to her, it’s because he is emotionally unavailable; the other man made her feel beautiful, needed, and desired…  She’s not a whore or a slut, she’s a woman with emotional needs her man was unwilling to provide…

Jobless:

When a man is unemployed for an extended period of time, according to a woman it’s because he’s not looking hard enough.  He’s lazy, immature, a user, (Click HERE to read more)

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People Can Change…

 

So it’s 2:33 a.m. this morning and my phone rings…  Without looking I answered and man was I surprised…  The voice was familiar, but one I haven’t heard in years… After a long moment of silence I sit up, look at my phone to confirm who I thought it was, and respond “Yeah I’m here”…  Let’s fast forward to about twenty minutes into the conversation…

John, I’m truly sorry for anything I’ve done to cause you any hurt or pain.  You were nothing but good to me and didn’t deserve how I treated you.  A lot has changed since we were together including me.  I wanted to know if your heart was big enough to forgive me and give us a second chance…

As I listened, I smiled…  I smiled not because time has revealed what was loss, but because time has revealed what was gained…  In the six years I’ve been single, I’ve gained so much… I’ve gained a peace that many people can’t understand…  I’ve gained the power of forgiveness, self-love, and the power of knowing exactly who I am and what I deserve…  I’ve gained the comfort of knowing being single isn’t the end of the world and gained the truth a relationship can’t complete me, but should complement me…  I’ve gained so much from moving forward, so much that I’m unwilling to lose it going backwards…

People can change…  People can realize the errors of their ways and become someone new…  Some (Click HERE to read more)

You Make Marriage Look Bad…

 

Honestly, some people make marriage look so undesirable…  They don’t wear it well, nor do they even attempt to… I mean when did “breaks” become a part of being married???  Yeah breaks???  You know like “I need a break from you, so I’m moving out”; “I need a break to see if this is what I truly want”; “I need a break to work on me”???  WTH?????  BREAK???  It wouldn’t be no “breaks” here, but let me digress because this blog has nothing to do with me…

 Some of you would be surprised if you knew the real deal of the marriages you want… You know that marriage that seems so perfect on the surface, but truly drowning… Drowning in lies, financial problems, drama, lack of sex OR the desire for too much sex, lack of trust and drowning in the facades they’ve perfected to make you envy their lives… If only you knew how many of them were taking “breaks”, well actually some of you do know because they’re “breaking” with you… Yep, I said it… Some of you reading today are involved with a (Click HERE to read more)

It’s Just A Text…

 

So I have this buddy who today finds himself in a very difficult situation…  Long story short…  A few years ago there were a few text messages sent to another woman; wifey found out about it and still to this day, he’s paying for it…  Now to him, it was just a text message…  He didn’t sleep with her, so what’s the big deal he asks…  Per our conversation there were no inappropriate pictures or “I love you” found in the text messages, however the tone could be interpreted as inappropriate….  Now he swears nothing sexual ever transpired; there were no dates or secret meetings, but his wife still finds it hard to move on from…  He’s struggling with why she’s making it such a big deal when in his eyes, he did nothing wrong…

Now before you go off on my bud, wifey isn’t innocent herself…  In the past she’s done her share of dirt, made a few mistakes and she’s even put doubt in his mind regarding where he stands within her life…  You know how you women do…  “I can go find me another man”, “I’ve had better”, (Click HERE to read more)

When A Man Gets Hurt…

 

It’s true, most men deal with hurt completely different than most women…  Some chalk it up as a lesson, others sweep it under the rug as though it never happened…  There are those who act unbothered, unconcerned and untouched, and then there are those who actually face it head on….  Whatever their process is, men find some type of way to deal with it…

No offense ladies, but when it comes to hurt, I believe men have more of a struggle with it than you…  Throughout the early stages of life for the average man, he’s told “boys don’t cry”…  Men are taught vulnerability and emotional expression are signs of weakness and what person do you know whether they’re male or female, wants to appear weak???  So I believe and speaking from personal experience, when a man gets hurt he struggles with what to do with the hurt…  He struggles with whether or not he should show he was hurt and appear weak, or carrying on with the façade of strength.     

There are innumerable “damaged men” in the world…  Men who have been hurt by a hurt woman…  Men who have been lied to by an inconsiderate woman…  Men (Click HERE to read more)

Don’t Be Fooled By The “Lipstick”…

What would happen if you listened opposed to talking on a date?  You know like if you just allowed the other person to talk more than you did?  In all honesty, you would probably save yourself a lot of disappointment… So many times we go on dates and leave without knowing anything about the other person…  Of course we know the generic things (Hopefully!!!) and the things they’ve scripted to tell us, but many times we leave and we’re clueless to who they are, not because we’re just getting to know them, but because we either didn’t listen or allow them to drop lil nuggets of truth about themselves… 

Many of you are frustrated with dating because you don’t listen… You’re constantly dating the same people with different faces and names all because you don’t listen…  You’re so busy selling the dream of who you are that you completely miss the reality of who they are…  If you would only allow them to talk, you would see the signs…  You know signs they’re married, in a relationship, recently out of one and shouldn’t be dating…  Signs they’re unemployed, living with multiple people, financially struggling or living above their means… Signs they’re controlling, (Click HERE to read more)

Never Been Kissed…

Here lately I’ve been asked “John, what do you want?  What are you looking for?” and to be honest, I don’t know…  I can’t articulate exactly what it is I’m looking for, but I do know without a shadow of doubt what I don’t want…  Over the past six years I’ve worked extremely hard on being open to love…  Open to the adventures the unknown can bring my way, therefore I avoid limiting myself with the criteria of what the person I am today believes he wants…  I’ve experienced the pleasures of love as well as the pains of it…  I’ve gone through the highs as well as the lows…  I’ve benefited from the gifts as well as sacrificed because of it…  Because I know what it feels like to have your heart kissed, I’m unwilling to have it fondled…

Some of you have never been kissed, therefore your heart is repeatedly violated by those who should have never touched it…  You enter relationships with a list of things you either want to see, have, or benefit from and because of this, your heart has been raped and molested…  Because your heart (Click HERE to read more)