Final Post: One Year Later…

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This exact day one year ago, many of you were thinking of all the things you wanted different in the upcoming year…  For some of you, you wanted to lose weight, gain financially stability, get promoted, become more active in your community, church, and social organizations…  Some of you were in relationships, so you vowed to become a better spouse/partner, be more attentive, to listen with your heart and not your ears…  Those of you who were single, you set out on a mission to change your relationship status by this day…  Depending on who and where you were in your life determined the things you wanted to see different in 2016… So we’re here at December 31, 2016 and for some of you, your life feels no different than December 31, 2015; 2014; 2013; 2012; and so on…

One year later you’re still over weight, financially broke, still working the same dead end job, and the only time you were active in anything was the first month of the year…  Those who vowed to become a better spouse/partner, your marriage/relationship is at a breaking point…You’re unhappy, they’re unhappy and for some of you, you’re finding happiness outside of your relationship…  Those of you who hoped for love this year…  you’ve dated, slept around, settled, but this very day you have nothing to show for it…  December 31, 2015 you wanted December 31, 2016 to be different, but unfortunately you’re right back in the same place you were in exactly one year ago…

So where am I going with this?  You ask…  Well if you want to see things change in your life, you don’t have to wait for a New Year or January 1st to pursue change…  Each morning you wake up is opportunity for your life to be different, better, greater, or changed…  But did you know, in order for anything to change in your life, YOUR MIND MUST CHANGE FIRST….  You must change how you see your past, present, and your future…  You have to change how you see what appear to be weaknesses in your life…  You have to change how you see what appear to be limitations in your life…  Your whole year can change right now at this very moment if you would focus on everything you’ve gained, opposed to what it appears you didn’t achieve or what you loss…  What I know for sure is…  The reason you feel you’re in the exact place you were in one year ago is because your thinking hasn’t changed from the place it was in  one year ago…

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Relationship Status: STILL SINGLE…

 

It’s always during this time of year I reflect on just how blessed I am…  I can honestly remember when I regretted the holidays…  Even though my life was great, I was far from happy…  The reason for my “unhappiness” wasn’t because I felt I had my needs and not my wants…  It wasn’t because I wanted to be in a relationship, but it was because I found myself trapped in a relationship that was toxic, unhealthy, and emotionally draining…  Like many people, I covered my unhappiness to the point in which I was drowning…   I disguised just how miserable I was with buying gifts, hosting dinners, and attending every Christmas party I was invited to…  I can remember before getting into that relationship, how I wanted so badly to be in one…  How I would have given anything to NOT have to sit in front of the fire place NOT cuddled up, and watching movies alone…  Before I thought I was missing out on life and love, but boy was I wrong….

I was wrong because I thought a relationship would make me happy…  That falling asleep on Christmas Eve and waking up on Christmas morning lying next to someone was going to make me happy…  I thought NOT attending Christmas parties alone was going to make me happy…  I thought going Christmas shopping and feeling the excitement and energy of the holiday with someone was going to make me happy, but again I was wrong…  I had to learn happiness is my responsibility and it should never (Click HERE to read more)

When “Love” Gets Ugly…

 

Love, something created to be beautiful can be sooooo ugly at times…  It has been known to hurt, blind and even cause some to feel, cursed…  Love holds the power to win, but it also causes us to lose at times… When mixed with hurt, broken trust and pain, love can easily turn into hate…  Many times we are left with scars that remind us of the battlegrounds we’ve been on after going to war with love… Scars that causes us to question our worth, doubt ourselves, and blurs us to our actual beauty…  Scars that makes us feel undeserving and unworthy of love; undesirable, and unattractive…

Today, love has “F..ked” some of you up… Yeah, “f..ked” you up…  “Love” has you down, thinking you’re unattractive, and it has caused you to feel no one else will want you…  The one you “loved” is a thing of the past, but the memories of the loss is not only impacting your present, but dimming your future…  “Love” got you good…  So good that now you can’t see your life (Click HERE to read more)

When Trust Is Broken…

“Sticking around to make someone pay for the hurt and pain they’ve caused you only chains you to the hurt and pain… If you can’t trust the one you’re with, love yourself enough to let them go…” John Patrick Adams

Check out my latest video… “When Trust Is Broken…”

I Want Your Body…

 

I think we’ve all done it once or twice…  You know look at someone and think, “Dang, I want that…”…   It could be a car, house, job, money, the attention he or she receives from others, their life and for some of us, it’s their body we want…  You know the abs, thighs, glutes, chest, and arms…  The body that grips clothes in the right places; fit and accentuate the great places and the body that makes others want to touch us in those secret places…   If only we had their body, our lives would be different…  If only we had their body, our mates would desire us more…  If only we had their body, our confidence level would be greater…  If only we had their body, our view of ourselves would be different…

For many of you reading, you’ve lost your confidence because your body doesn’t look like someone else’s… Whether you realize this or not, the reason many of you are unhappy with your body is because subconsciously you’ve compared yourself to either a person, an image you’ve seen in a magazine, billboard, or someone you’ve seen on television.  You thought they were gorgeous; phine, but every time you look at yourself all you can see is someone far from what you’ve seen…  Sadly to say, some of you have an amazing spouse/partner/mate…  They love the curves, extra pounds, pooch, and even love has blinded them to the stretch marks…  There are those of you men whose women love that belly, the handles, and the size you’ve put on…  But whether you are male or female, you feel undesirable therefore you question the validity of what they are saying…

Secretly you’re struggling… You’re struggling with the way in which you look, whether or not you’re attractive, desirable…  Struggling with if you’re lovable…  You’ve never (Click HERE to read more)