6 Epic Fails Of Women…

I love women…  Believe they are extraordinary gifts to the world, able to do anything, and their beauty and strength can’t be compared…  Women are smart, creative and passionate, but when it comes to men, many have been known to fail somewhat miserably… So today I’m going to give you “6 Epic Fails Of A Woman” when it comes to a man…

  • Women judge men based on her past…  So many women are walking around missing out on some great men, but they’re unable to see it…  They’re carrying years of baggage from past relationships, their childhood, or weighed down by insecurities they’ve picked up over the years…  Because time hasn’t been allotted to heal, every man they encounter are measured, critiqued, and criticized based on what has happen before even meeting them…  Many women fail to get to the core of the problem, find out why they constantly attract the same men with different names, and fail to work on being “complete” before entering a relationship.  The only way you can move into a brighter future is by letting go of the dark past…

  • Women judge men based on her father…  It’s funny how you can have one man who has a relationship with two women, yet the two women have two different encounters, beliefs about, and experiences with the man…  So many women want to marry a man like their father, however they only know him as Father not Husband…  Possibly their mother could have a difference of opinion when it comes to the one they call “Dad”…  Mom could possibly hate his guts, believes he sucks in bed, a poor provider, and a boy dressed in man’s clothes…  Women shouldn’t measure any man by what their father has done, however they can hope whatever man they choose will be as great of a dad to their children as theirs was to them…  Many women fail to realize every man is different, should be judge differently, and their relationship with their father is just that, their relationship with their father…  No man should be required to live up to memories or actions of another man…

  • Women judge men based on her “Ex”…  Many of you reading today have a list of things you want in your “Next”…  Sadly to say, this list was subconsciously (Click HERE to read more)

The Power Of A Secret…

 

Some of you are prisoners to a secret…  You’ve allowed the darkness of your actions to enclose you in a room built with walls of fear…  At one point in your life something you did could possibly change the view and perceptions others have of you, so today you’re chained to and have given your power to a secret….  A secret you shouldn’t have told… A secret you’ve buried in the deepest parts of your mind…  A secret of something you shouldn’t have done…  A secret you enjoy privately, but publicly ashamed of…  You’re living in fear of the world finding out and as a result of this, you’re holding yourself back because you fear if your light shine too bright someone will dim it by exposing your secret…

Maybe it’s a secret you’re keeping from your spouse/mate…  A secret in which happened way before the two of you ever met, but you fear if he/she finds out, the relationship is over…  Your secret could be multiple sexual partners individually or multiple all together…  It could be in your past relationship you were an abuser…  You have a child you’ve never claimed, acknowledged, or even taken the time to visit…  It could be the reason you lack a sexual appetite Is because during sex you’re reminded of when you were molested as a young boy or girl…  Whatever your secret is, it has power over you and impacting your relationship…

 

Maybe your secret is one you don’t want the church to know…  A secret in which happened way before or even still today…  Your secret could be you’re struggling with (Click HERE to read more)

Timing Is Everything…

 

Here recently I’ve been approached with the offer of starting my own Radio Show…  As awesome as this would be, I had to turn it down…   Sure I’m a natural talker, love intriguing conversation, have a strong opinion, know some pretty freaking amazing people who would be awesome guest, but right now isn’t the time for me…  Even though I have hopes of evolving into radio, it’s not time to become the person I know God has destined me to be in the future…

You see I’ve learned timing is everything and if you jump into things before it’s the proper time, things don’t always flow as easily…  It seems like the headaches are greater, the struggle is greater and nothing seems to go right…  I’ve also learned with God’s plan for my life, it includes other people and if I jump in too soon and God hasn’t finished His work in their life for the plan for mine, I could potentially miss meeting the person because they aren’t ready to meet me…  It’s like one of those moments when you meet someone and you think “Wow, where were you when I needed you?”; “Where were you six months ago when I was going through…..?”…  Just as God has to prepare me to receive, He has to prepare the divine connection to give…

Some of you want greater and today you’re frustrated because you haven’t received it…  Maybe it’s a promotion on your job; marriage; planting a church; starting a business…  Maybe it’s something others could consider a small thing like a financial breakthrough; past due bills being paid; being (Click HERE to read more)

“I Don’t Date Black…”

 

No need for all the fluff today…  Yesterday I had lunch with a “Millennial”, conversation involved various topics from Politics to Religion, Same Gender to Traditional Marriages, Police Brutality and so many other topics…  Out of all we talked about, one thing stood out the most… “Interracial Dating”… Surprisingly, he was completely against it…  His beliefs are you should pretty much stay within your race and even though we didn’t view this the same, one thing we did… If you choose to date outside of your race, don’t put your race down as the reason why…

So what do I mean, huh?  Well thanks for asking…  Black Men, if you choose to date Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic or any other race, it’s cool…  You owe no one an explanation, but if you choose to take this route, don’t use what you perceive as a negative against ALL Black women…  You know like saying things like “I don’t date black women because their hair is nappy; they’re sexually closed; they’re all problematic and opinionated; they carry a body odor (Click HERE to read more)

A Man Likes What He Likes…

 

One thing I love about being a man is most of us don’t take things quite as personal as women…   You know like most of us don’t get all bent out of shape about our hair, a pimple, or our weight… It is what it is, but unfortunately this isn’t the case for a lot of women…

I’m always blown away when women get upset because a man doesn’t like her or doesn’t like another woman because of their weight… I mean some women get pissed off, call the man shallow and immature…  Some even has the audacity to say he’s cruel and tries to convince him he could be missing out on something great, but is he wrong for what he likes???  Is a man wrong for not liking plus size women???  Is he wrong for liking women with tight buns and not a loose jiggly booty???  All jelly ain’t sweet….

Then maybe you all remember a few weeks ago when I wrote the#NoMakeUp blog…  I mean there were so many women who were ticked off because the topic of wearing makeup was up for discussion…  Sadly to say, there are women who believe men are wrong and even criticize them for wanting a “Natural” woman…  You know a woman with no weave, no lashes, no makeup and no perm…  A woman who is comfortable in her skin to bare her natural beauty and not depend on MAC, Revlon, or Maybeline for the enhancement… In these cases men are considered old fashion, boring, wants a “Plan Jane”, or a woman he can control and manipulate because evidently she’s not into her appearance if her face doesn’t look like a powder donut; her eyes doesn’t look like spiders are crawling out of them, and her hair doesn’t get caught in the car door every now and then from all the extensive extensions…  Is a man wrong for what he likes????  Is a man wrong for not liking “Cake Face” women??? Is he wrong for liking women with bare skin and not covered skin????

Lastly is an older guy wrong for liking younger women????  You know women who has less baggage???  Women who are open to trying new things???  Women who ignite fire in him??? I’m always blown at this one too…  Older women and (Click HERE to read more)

“Dreams Cost”…

So last night I checked out the “Surviving Compton” Movie and to my surprise, the movie was better than I’d expected…  I’m not a huge NWA or Michel’le fan, however to go behind the scenes of what many of you knew as the truth, was pretty fascinating…  As I watched, there were two words that stood out over the thousands in the movie… “Dreams cost”…  Throughout the movie there several reenactments of Dr. Dre not only physically abusing her, but verbally as well…  Times in which she should have walked away, but for the sake of bringing her dreams to life; keeping the lifestyle she had become accustomed to, she stayed only to become addicted to pain and sleeping pills, broken bones, bruises, and mental scars she continues to live with today…

Many of you reading today probably could relate to the movie because you’re currently paying the cost for your dreams…  Dreams of being married, so you’re with someone who physically and verbally abuse you…  Someone who cheats, lies, and steals from you…  Someone who lacks respect and possibly even love for you….  But to be married, you’re willing to continue living with the dream of matrimony, but dealing with the reality of a nightmare….

There are those of you who have dreams of success, so you’re giving up and denying time with your (Click HERE to read more)

Happiness Is My Crack…

 

“Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.”

I came across the above quote and I must say it speaks volumes and paints a descriptive picture of who I used to be…  I can remember times I should have walked away, but because of my hope of things getting better, I stayed…  During these times I believe I was the most unhappiest I’ve ever been in my life, but what is happiness???  What is this thing everyone wants, some find, but many are seeking???  Is “happiness” something you achieve and reside in?  Or is it just a temporary feeling driven by what’s happening at the moment???

I’m a Cancer and it has been proven we are some of the most loyal people you will ever meet…  We stick around through difficult times and no matter how much pressure you place on us, many times we continue to carry it until we’re broken in half…  Like many of you I was in relationships in which I felt no happiness, but I continued to look for it…  The lack of trust, lies, words and actions filled my mind, occupied my heart, and replaced the joy of living…  I was miserable, but I continued to look for something in which there wasn’t even an ounce to trace…  I hoped for different, but my actions were the same as before…  I looked for different, but their actions were the same as before…  I prayed for different, but God’s answers were the same as before…  I was on a scavenger hunt looking for something that didn’t exist…

Through these experiences I learned “happiness” is just like Cocaine…  It’s a temporary high we spend the rest our lives trying to feel again…  So exactly what does that mean, right???  Well some of you could be happy at this very moment…  You (Click HERE to read more)