Should #Bae Have Your Passwords???

 

Whether or not you believe this, “PASSWORDS” has been the cause of why numerous relationships have ended…  Yeah, I know…  It ain’t that serious, right????    Yesterday, I came across an article titled “Should You Share Your Password With Your Partner?”…  A well written article in which the writer’s point of view is precise and straight to the point…  I loved how she gets to the core of “trust” and how later in the blog she explains how not only does this impact the couples lives, but could possibly impact others who use email, Social Media, etc.  to communicate with their friends.    Because this is a subject dear to my heart, I thought this would be a great topic to share with you…

So do I believe you should share your passwords with #Bae????  And that would be a HELL TO THE NO…  Now I know some of you are thinking, “Well if you have nothing to hide, what’s the problem???”  Well the problem is, YOU WANT IT…  Trust me when I say in relationships I believe there should be no secrets….  And in regards to passwords, there isn’t a secret…  You know I have one and you also know YOU’RE NOT GETTING IT, so everything is out in the open… I’ve learned many times people (Click HERE to read more)

His Fault, Her Responsibility…

It never fails, men are always blamed for how a woman feels when it comes to relationships…  It’s his fault she’s unable to trust men; question’s the sincerity of every man she comes in contact with; believes men are incapable of committing to one woman; guarded; bitter; broken,  and it’s entirely his fault she’s filled with insecurities…  At some point her heart and trust were broken by a man who either lied, cheated or abused her mentally, physically, or spiritually…   Because of these things she now doubts her worth, value and unable to see just how beautiful she is all because of a man…

“If a woman has insecurities, it’s because a man gave her reason to have them” is something I’ve heard on numerous occasions from women while pleading their cases…  In their minds a man’s indiscretion is the reason women suffer from no self-worth; unable to see their own potential and beauty, and it’s the reason many of them question whether life is worth living…  Their belief is a woman suffers from insecurities because of the actions of a man she’s encountered, therefore this qualifies her rights to constantly ask him of his whereabouts; check his voicemail, email, text messages, Facebook, etc…  It empowers her to question every woman he comes in contact with and equips her with the authority to demand he cuts off anyone or anything that appears to be a threat to their relationship….  Because he lied to, cheated on and mistreated her, he now must deal with the consequences…

No man can give you insecurities, he can only give you reasons to walk away…  Insecurities aren’t given, they are created…  Created through staying with men you know you will never trust again…  Created through comparing yourselves to others…  Created through convincing (Click HERE to read more)

Can Men & Women Just Be Friends???

So yesterday I found myself in somewhat of a heated discussion about married men with single female friends… For some odd reason, many women believe men whether they are single or married are incapable of having a platonic relationship with a woman…  They believe “Just Friends” is a cover up for “Friends With Benefits” and just “if” a man hasn’t had sex with the woman, these women believe he’s either thought, dreamed, or possibly climaxed at the illusion of it…   So you know my mind got to working and thinking about how I would share this with you all today, so here we go…

It’s funny how these women who believe men aren’t capable of a platonic relationship in their responses limited it only to the gorgeous, beautiful, and phine as hell women…  Sorry Thick, Plus Size and Heavy Set Women, you’re not a threat, so kindly walk on over to the “Friend Zone” where your name has been filed…  (Side Note:  There are plenty of attractive Plus Size and above women who are smashing more men than skinny chics…  Don’t underestimate the power of a P.H.A.T. Girl)  They believe a man can’t have an attractive female friend and control himself…  Of course I disagreed with this and had to wonder how in hell a woman knows what a man is capable of doing???  Is she secretly a man?  Has she been with a man who has cheated on her?  Has she been hoodwinked into believing she can think like a man and remain a lady???  PUHLEEEEEEEEZE CHICA…  There are some men in the world who is capable of only being friends with a woman and never going there with her…

I said it yesterday and I stand on it today, women fear their man being friends with a single woman because of their own personal insecurities…  Because they don’t feel 100 about themselves  nor their place in his life, they feel threatened when an attractive woman comes along…  It’s funny when you get to the core of it though, it’s not always about their man having sex with the other woman; sometimes it’s the bond in which the two of them share the wife/girlfriend is jealous of…  Because he’s happier with her, always laughing with her, and she’s the one he tends (Click HERE to read more)

Check Your Spouse, NOT ME!!!

“Should married people have single friends???” has been debated for years…  Some believe because of the difference in relationship status the two shouldn’t be friends…  There are people who believe “singles” tend to influence those who are “married” to disrespect and dishonor their wedding vows, but I BELIEVE this question is as @$$ backwards as they come…

You see I have lots of married friends…  Friends in which I may not be close to their spouse, however I never disrespect their marriage or their spouse…  I understand because I’m on the outside there are extra precautions I must take in order to make this a happy situation for all…   But in some cases, no matter what the single does to make everyone secure, it never fails the drama and problems of the married couple tends to fall into the lap of the single…  So I believe the question is not whether married people should be friends with singles, but it’s more like “Should SINGLE people have MARRIED friends???”

I’ve stated a thousand times here on the site “people are fickle” and depending on how they are feeling at the moment determines how they will feel about you…  In the above scenario, depending on how happy the married couple is at the moment determines how the outside spouse feels about the single…  if they’re happy as a couple, they’re happy with the single (Click HERE to read more)

The Mistakes Women Make When Ending A Relationship…

 

So I was trying to figure out what to write about today and came up with NOTHING…  So I polled a few friends of mine to see what was on their minds and a female friend asked me to write about “The Mistakes Women Make When Ending  A Relationship”, so straight off the cuff, here we go…

  • Speech:  Ladies, if you’ve decided you no longer want the relationship, leave quietly…  There’s no need to plead your case, state your claim, or seek to convince him they’re making a mistake by letting you get away…  You’ve found the “Good” in “Goodbye”, so say it and allow the two of you to get to the “Good” Life ahead… Making a speech is like being Melania Trump, WE’VE HEARD IT BEFORE!!!

  • Blame Game:  Ladies, when you’ve decided you no longer want the relationship, leave without pointing fingers…  There’s no need in trying to convince him (Click HERE to read more)

You Can Do Better Than That…

 

Call me “Old”, “Old Fashion” or “Ancient”, whichever I really don’t care…  BUTTTTTT, I never seen so many codependent men in my life…  Because I’m a hustler to some degree staying at home with my parents after a certain age was out of the question…  Having a roommate was out of the question…  Riding the bus was out of the question…  Not sure if it’s my upbringing or what, but depending on someone else has never been an option for me…

No offense brothers, but some of you are lazy as hell…  You’re either living at home with your parents, have three or four roommates, currently unemployed, needing assistance taking care of a baby you created, or you’re living in the southern states without a car (All the northern states it’s common to use the rail system, etc.) and allowing your woman to pick you up and drive you around…  WT???  But this is what blows my mind every time…  YOU’RE PULLING MORE WOMEN than the educated, gainfully employed, and level headed brothers…  Now in no way am I hating because it takes a pretty dumb or desperate woman to settle for you…  Maybe it’s your swag, conversation, the “thug” in ya or even your approach, whatever it is you’ve hoodwinked these women into believing you’re the best they can get…

You’re the men women constantly complain about, but never leave…  You know the men who lack ambition, drive, and passion…  Now don’t get me wrong, I believe there is good in everyone…  I also believe in everyone there is power to become whatever he or she chooses, however you’ve chosen to be a Full Time  “Playa”, “Thug”, “Womanizer”,“O.G” with the benefits (Click HERE to read more)