Why “Good Men” Are No Longer Settling…

“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.”  Proverbs 18:22

“A good man is hard to find” is something I hear quite often from “self-proclaimed” good women.   Women who have assessed all they bring to the table, yet they feel “good men” are few among many. These women are gorgeous, educated, employed, financially and somewhat mentally stable, poised, but SINGLE.  Their experiences have brought them to the conclusion the men who comes remotely close to being a “Good Man” are either batting for the other team, married, or not ready to settle down just yet…   Frustrated with the whole dating scene, tired of all the games that comes with meeting new men, these women have decided to just wait until their “husband” finds them…  YEAH RIGHT!!!!

Ladies, would you believe me if I told you there are numerous “GOOD MEN” in the world looking for a “WIFE”???  I know you’re thinking, “Well John, where are they?”  And to be honest, they’re everywhere.  Normally I would say you can’t see them because these men aren’t checking off everything on your list, but you see and you want these men, but sadly to say, you’re not checking off everything on their list.  “Good Men” are no longer settling for a “Good Woman”…  “Good Men” are on the treasure hunt for a “WIFE”, and they’re not settling until they find her…

So let me break it down…  Many of you reading are “good women”, but you’re not “Wifey” material.  You (Click HERE to read more)

Why He’s Not The Man For You…

Ladies, have you ever met a man who treated you differently because you’re educated, ambitious, assertive, and confident?  A man in which you felt you had to dim your light in order for his to shine brighter?  A man who says things like “You’re out of my league”: “I don’t know why you’re with me, you could be with so much better”? A man who says he appreciates the woman you are, but tries to make you the woman he wants you to be?  Or how about a man who complains about the love you have for the One man who loves you the most?    If you’ve ever met any of these men, I’m about to break down “Why He’s Not The Man For You”…

Before I go any further, let me make it known ladies…  ALL MEN aren’t intimidated nor threaten by you, but sadly to say, there are some who are…  Many of you reading this post are suppressing who you truly are seeking to please the man you’re with or the man you want…   You’re better than what you’re giving…  Want more that what you’re getting…  And inside of you is more than he’s able to handle…  BUT because you want a man so deeply, you’ve suppressed who you are attempting to be submissive…  The reason so many of you have a problem with submitting to a man is because you believe you have to give up who you are to be who he needs, and this is so far from the truth…

A “man” (in the true form of its meaning) desires a woman who is strong, ambitious, driven, passionate, and independent…  He loves a woman who has a mind of her own, can make decisions, and a woman who is willing to fight for what she wants…  A man is not threatened nor intimidated by what you offer because he knows it only enhances his world…  But the problem many of you are facing is that you don’t have nor want a “man”, but a “f.ckboy”…

Many of you are with your man because he pleases you on the surface mentally, satisfies you at the deepest parts of your ocean, and because he “knows of” the Man you love spiritually. You’re with a man who can’t handle the genius within; your creativity, passion, potential and a man who is draining you of your power…  He’s (Click HERE to read more)

Borderline Stalking…

We live in a world where “The Chase” is stimulating to some, confirmation of interest to most, and pretty damn annoying to many…  Some people want you to chase them, go the extra mile to prove just how interested you are, but there are those who don’t find “the chase” so appealing because they’re pretty clear on their position…  I believe there is a huge difference between “Just not into you” and “Playing hard to get”…   Sadly to say, many of you can’t see the difference and as a result, you’re pretty close to stalking the person you’re interested in.

I’m often accused of being naive or blind to the signs of interest.  It’s like everyone around me can see the signs, but my friend’s say I’m clueless to the “Love Darts” being thrown my way.  As a result of this, many times I’m perceived as “Playing hard to get”, and this is far from the truth.  I’m the kind of a guy who knows and goes after what he wants…  I’m a natural hunter, can be aggressive when need be, and the guy who’s not afraid to hear “I’m not into you like that”…  But there’s a flip side to this as well, I’m that guy who doesn’t entertain in the least bit what’s he’s not interested in.  Sometimes I believe my “kindness” is mistaken as “interest” which is completely out of my control.  I’m a very complimentary guy and want everyone to see themselves as God sees them.  In doing this, many times it causes me to have the hard conversation with grown folks who take it a bit too far.

Many of you are taking great measures to show your interest to someone who’s just not into you…  You’re doing things that are “borderline stalker”, but because you’re so consumed in YOU and YOUR feelings, you can’t see that you’re taking things a little bit too far.  So here are a few things you probably should ponder before your next move regarding this person…

  • If you’ve made (Click HERE to read more)

Status Update: Still SINGLE!!!

 

Singles, do ever get tired of people asking you about your love life???  When you’re getting married???  It’s like dayum, I’M STILL SINGLE… Over the weekend I watched the movie “How To Be Single” and surprisingly it was much better than I anticipated… A movie filled with countless truths which depicts the lives of so many singles in the world today.  In the movie you’ll see yourself, whether you’re recently exiting a relationship, fearing getting into another relationship, or embracing your singleness as a gift and not a curse…   I have to admit, I used to struggle with being single.  I used to be one of those guys who had to be in a relationship, couldn’t be alone, and the guy who was searching to fill what felt like emptiness in my life.  Man if there only was a “How to Win the Dating Game” or a “How To Be Single” back then, maybe I wouldn’t have all the notches on my belt, nor would I have the scaring from the wounds of love on my heart.

Many of you reading today are struggling with being single.  You’ve embraced the truth you’re a relationship type of gal/guy; not willing to do the whole “No Strings Attached” type of situation, so what do you do?  If you can’t find a man/woman who compliments the person you are, what do you do?  Honestly, I would normally tell you to “embrace your singleness” and enjoy the “freedom” of it, but not today…  What you are feeling at this very moment is normal.  Buried deeply inside of you are desires, needs, and wants to be loved.  You are human and an emotional being, so no need in telling you to just accept your reality and move forward, but I will share with you a few truths I’ve learned…

  • It’s okay to want a relationship… Don’t be afraid or ashamed to admit your desires, there’s nothing wrong with it.   No need in lying to the world and yourself.  It’s okay to want a relationship, but don’t let wanting a relationship keep you from living your life.  You’re single, not dead…

  • Your feelings are valid…  Don’t allow anyone to discredit, nor make you feel bad about the way you’re feeling.  Your feelings are your feelings, which makes them important to you.  Just because others can’t understand, doesn’t mean they’re unimportant.  Your feelings are valid, but don’t let your feelings keep you from living your life.  You’re single, not dead…

  • Don’t settle for “anyone” to have “someone”…  Rebounds, one night stands, and jumping into a relationship with the first person who shows interest is not the answer nor will it fill what you believe is missing…  Never (Click HERE to read more)

Why Men Do The Things They Do…

Ladies, have you ever wondered why men do some of the things they do?  You know like why some men open the door while others choose not to?  Why some men love the ground their women walk on while others choose not to?  Have you ever wondered why some men hit, curse, repeatedly cheat on, and disrespect their women while others choose not to?  And lastly, have you ever wondered why the men you meet attempt to treat you like all the other women they’ve met opposed to treating you like the woman you are???  Well if you haven’t ever wondered any of these things, many of your bestie’s have…  And the truth is,  many of them have realized it’s because these men have had some experiences with WOMEN…

Some of these men have experienced women who are NOT thirsty, butDEHYDRATED FOR LOVE…  Women who would do and give anything to say “I have a man”… Women who will buy gifts they can’t afford, pay his bills while forsaking her own, and women who would sell her best friend out for a man who’s not worth a dime.  They’ve dealt with women who accept verbal abuse, put downs (Click HERE to read more)

Why Women Are The Way They Are…

Men have you ever wondered why some women are the way they are???  Why at times it seems as though they’re bitter; have a nasty attitude; difficult, and filled with drama???  Have you ever wondered why it feels like at times you’re competing with her to be in charge???  Why she questions everything you do???  And lastly, have you ever thought about why some women profile all men as being dogs???  If you haven’t, I have… And I’ve come to the realization it’s because they’ve had some experiences with MEN…

They’ve dealt with the knuckle heads who weren’t smart enough to cover their tracks; brave enough to admit they made a mistake, and man enough to just tell the truth…  You know the truth “I’m not ready for a relationship, I just want (Click HERE to read more)

It Ain’t That Serious…

Some of you at this very moment your world seems like it’s upside down…  What you’re going through has gotten the best of you and no matter what you do, you can’t seem to shake the feelings of hurt, worry, and stress….  You’ve prayed about it, but God doesn’t seem to be answering your prayers…  You can’t sleep because of it, and Ambien doesn’t seem to be fulfilling its purpose…  You’ve cried, spoken to all your friends and family about it, but talking doesn’t seem to be making things any better…  You’re left at a crossroad…  Do you get over it or dwell in it???

Yesterday I found out a guy I see at least once a week left work on Monday to the news his wife had been murdered…  Completely caught off guard, first I whispered a prayer for him and his family and immediately afterwards, I realized just how blessed I am.  It’s funny how many times we are questioning (Click HERE to read more)