You Gotta Keep It Tight…

 

28 years later…

Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world where the physical didn’t matter???  A world where at first sight others saw the beauty you possess inside???  Your personality, confidence, and character was seen at first glance???  I mean it would be so awesome if the world was filled with people who could see just how driven you are; how passionate you are about your dreams and life, and a world where others were aroused by your intellect without you saying a word…  Unfortunately my friends, we don’t live in this world…  People see your size, skin, smile, height, weight, hair, and the way in which you carry yourself and because of this, YOU GOTTA KEEP IT TIGHT…

Now this is always a touchy subject for me to write about as well as for some of you to read…  Anytime I write about weight or appearance, it seems as though some of the readers get all pissed off, send me messages saying “You don’t understand”, and making excuses as to why they look the way in which they do…  Sadly to say, numerous people over the age of 30 have let themselves go….  They’ve either picked up weight, excessively drank or smoked themselves to a point of looking a minimum of 20 years older, or they’ve become complacent with looking the way in which they do…  Often they wonder as to why they’re constantly overlooked or come in second to someone much younger than they are, but the pickings are kinda slim my friend…

I’m always baffled when I see a woman driving an expensive car, but wearing a cheap bra…  Now I’ve never purchased a bra, so I’m clueless as to how much one might cost…. HOWEVER, (Click HERE to read more)

What Happened To You???

“Age is just a number”, but if the world was to guess how old some of you are by your actions, you would be considered an “Ancient Artifact”.  So keep it 100 with me…  What happened to the person you once were?  You know the person who believed they were capable of doing anything they wanted?  The person who was adventurous, unstoppable, determined and driven?  The person who cared about their appearance, weight, and health???  What happened to the person who believed in dreaming, laughed and smiled, told jokes, and didn’t take everything so seriously???  Oh yeah, I forgot…  YOU GREW UP AND GOT OLD…

Throughout your life you’ve been told “Work first, fun later”, so you’ve worked so hard until now you’re no longer fun to be around.  You’re either uptight, too serious, or you just act too old…  The energy and passion you once felt has been replaced by bills, commitments, and obligations…  So having fun is the last thing on your mind and sadly to say, this is the reason you’re single and wondering why you can’t find someone in your own age group…  When meeting someone who is lite hearted, maybe a lil corky and someone who lives their life free of the expectations and standards of the world, you find them immature…  Is it that they’re too immature?  Or is it, you’re mentally old?

Being an adult (Click HERE to read more)

Bags Are For Shopping & Traveling, Not Dating…

Do you remember when the movies, dinner at Chili’s/Bennigans, and sitting on the parking lot talking about your dreams for hours was the BEST DATE EVER???  When the only thing that mattered was the person you were out with?  Of course this was before the numerous times you were lied to, cheated on and for some of you, punched…  It was before you were left for another woman/man, divorced after giving yourself away for years, and way before your heart was broken.  These were the times you didn’t have a reason not to trust people, times when there was no wall standing between you and love, and these were the times when you honestly believed in “true love”…

These were the times before your last mate treated you a certain way and before you had something to compare all future potential prospects to.   It was way before all your friends started getting married; you were in countless weddings, LONG BEFORE YOU WANTED TO GET MARRIED, and way before Beyoncé chanted “if you like it, then you should put a ring on it”….  This was before some women were aware of who Ruth was, so they were clueless as to who Boaz was.  When some men didn’t feel the need to show their strength by the number of women they could lay. And lastly, these were the times before some women heard the ticks of their clocks….  For many of you reading, these were the times when you were much younger than you are today…

So the question was asked, “Why is it men over 35 tend to date women who are much younger than they are?”  Well it’s because they don’t want to deal with the above…  Numerous (Click HERE to read more)

Why “Older” Date “Younger”…

I received a question here on the site asking “Why is it men over 35 tend to date women who are much younger than they are?”  Now I thought this was a pretty interesting question and one I believe many of you readers over the age of 30 can benefit from…  So before I get started, let put a disclaimer out there…  Dating younger isn’t only limited to men, there are plenty of “Stella’s” out there finding their groove, so I’m going to answer this question generally…  So to be fair, I asked a few of my friends who are over the age of 35 who refuses to date someone their age or older…

So why is it older men and WOMEN tend to date younger???  Well because…

  • Baggage…  Sadly to say, the longer you live, the more baggage you carry…  Those who have exceeded the age of 30 are either desperately dating, hazardously toxic, divorced, separated, widowed, or just plain out unhappy…  Dating younger is much easier…  Even though the conversation may not be as stimulating as it would be with someone much older, the easiness of dealing with someone who just want to live life is less draining than dealing with someone who hates their life…

  • Youthfulness…  When men and women date younger, most times they are accused of going through “Mid Life Crisis”, and this not always the case…  “Age is nothing but a number” which shouldn’t dictate your mindset, passion, and drive in life.  Dating younger stimulates, sometimes validate, and ignites energy most older people remember and feel as though they have lost.  Dating younger is an injection of “I Can”….  Even though the mentality may not be as mature as it would be with someone much older, the “I can do whatever I want, the sky is the limit” attitude is so much better than “I can’t, I’m too old for all of that” mentality…

  • The Journey….  Sadly to say, there are a lot of people over the age of 30 who are lost in their lives.   They’re unaware of who they are, what they’re worth, and what they have to offer.  They’ve (Click HERE to read more)

You Make “Broke” Look Good…

 

Ladies, have you ever gone out with a good looking, nicley dressed, great smelling, well-spoken guy who drives a beautiful car, but when the waiter leaves the check, he calls her back and says “Could you please split this?”  Yeah I know, ain’t that some….   Fellas, have you ever gone out with a beautiful, dressed for the gods, sweet smelling, poised and articulate woman who carries a Hermes Birkin purse who’s wearing Christian Louboutin shoes, but she never invites you over to her place because it’s on a less desirable part of town (Ghetto)???  Yeah I know, ain’t that some…. Now this one is for both men and women…  Have you ever met someone who presented themselves as “The One”?  You know “the one” you’ve dreamed of your entire lift??  But after getting to know them; possibly dating them a few years and for some you, MARRYING THEM…  You realized they were truly a nightmare and “the one” you should have run from???

 It’s amazing how some people package themselves in beautiful wrappings (clothes, cars, homes, words, facades, etc), but when you open the gift (get to know them), you realize what’s inside isn’t something you want….  Inside you see a person who has issues, borderline bi-polar, insecure, and drama filled… Inside that perfectly wrapped person are tons of baggage from either previous relationships; their childhood, or just their everyday life experiences…  You realize this person you thought was good for you, really is broken….  They made “broke” look good and sadly to say, you were so busy checking off the things on your list that either you missed, ignored, or didn’t want to hear the crackling sounds ringing loud in the air (signs slapping you in the face)…

Each day I’m realizing there are so many broken people in the world…  Deep down inside some of them truly (Click HERE to read more)

Lost In The Pursuit Of Life…

 

By now you’re supposed to be married with kids, have multiple degrees, traveling the world, and living your life like it’s golden…  But it seems like life has thrown a curve ball and you’re now suffering from a failed married/never been married, have kids by someone you’re no longer with/childless, still in pursuit of graduating, can’t travel because of finances, and your life has been tarnished by your past…  Your dreams seem impossible and your reality is you’re not the person you thought you would be…  What happened to you?  How did you get here?

How did you become the person you are today?  It’s so far from who you thought you would be…  When you look in the mirror you see no resemblance of that young, vibrant, go-getter person you once were.  What happened to you?  Was it the marriage you poured every fiber of your existence into?  Was it forsaking what you wanted in the pursuit of giving everyone else what they wanted?  Was it the multiple credit cards, student loans, car payments, and living a life you couldn’t afford?  What happened to you?  And how in the hell did you get where you are today?

Many of you feel lost today…  You feel like you’ve wasted your entire life and now you have nothing to show for it…  Older, should be wiser, but it seems like you’re not…  Older, should be more financially stable, but it seems like you’re not…  Older, should be much happier, but it seems like you’re not…  Older, should be more confident, but it seems like you’re not… Older, should know who you are and what you want, but it seems like you don’t….  Unaware of exactly (Click HERE to read more)