Nawww, It’s YOU, Not HIM…

So this past Saturday I had lunch with a group of my friends…  Beautiful weather, great food, amazing people and stimulating conversation is always a spectacular recipe for an amazing time… So as we were dining, “It’s Not You, It’s Men” came up…  Now I’ve never watched the show, so I can’t really give too much feedback on it, BUTTTTT I’m tired of men taking the wrap for the foolishness of women…  As the evening progressed,  I was asked how the “Men –vs- Women: Break Up” Panel Discussion went and what were some of the topics discussed…  So as I shared the different topics, one in particular seem to have struck a nerve with one of my good friends, “When to Have the Conversation”…  As stated in my “What Separates a Date from Dating?” Video, I explain the conversation should be had when you feel the moment is right…

So my friend, of course female, states she believes the man should initiate the conversation.  She believes it is his responsibility to shift the relationship from “casually” to “exclusively” dating…  Now if you know me, you know I love a good debate…  So as I sat there listening to her point of view, I realize she was only proving my point as to why so many men are labeled as dogs…  She stated the normal line I’m sick and tired of hearing “Women are nurturers, so we tend to show our feelings through our actions”….  So ladies, is it that you’re a natural nurturer or a natural fool???  Yeah I asked it, because so many men have been accused of things in which YOU ARE GUILTY…  Because of your foolish ways, innocent men are catching heat…

So Ladies, if you’re not going to initiate the conversation, here are 3 things you shouldn’t do…

Don’t use  (Click HERE to read more)

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Stop Fooling Yourself, They Don’t Want You…

Okay, now this may be another thing that reveals my age, but oh well…   Now when it comes to dating and even relationships, I hate texting and emailing…  Don’t get me wrong, I understand we all have jobs and lives, so the occasional text throughout the day is cool…  But after hours, if you can’t make time or lack the interest/desire to hear my voice or see this handsome face, Houston we have some major problems…   Since Saturday I’ve had a conversation with both male and female regarding things going on in their love lives…  After listening to them rant, I BELIEVE the actions of those they are involved with are screaming “I DON’T WANT YOU”, but for some odd reason (damn you “heart”), they’re unable to hear this…

The female shared her friend has verbally told her at this time he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…  But of course he’s trifflin, still having sex with her, and doing other things people would normally do in a relationship…  Now in no way do i believe she’s innocent here, if the man has told her he doesn’t want a relationship, SHE SHOULD STOP GIVING UP SEX..  I get this…  But I do believe both parties are at fault…  If he knows a relationship is not what he wants, he should care enough not to lead her on, but I digress..   So I asked, “Is  it he doesn’t want to be in a relationship? Or is it he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with YOU???”  She responded, “Relationship with me”…  No lie, my heart sunk…

Now my buddy who’s currently celibate has fallen for this chic who hasn’t returned his calls and has verbally told him “You’re moving too fast, I just want to be friends”, but for some odd reason (damn you “heart”), he’s unable to hear (Click HERE to read more”

Who Told You That???

Q:  Who told you that if you’re not married by the time you’re 30, something is wrong with you and you’re going to die an “Old Maid”? 

A:  Some idiot who has based their entire life on being in a relationship, clueless to who they are as an individual; afraid of being alone; someone who is portraying a “Fairy Tale” marriage; unhappily married or secretly on the verge of being divorce, and SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that if you don’t have any children, never been married, currently single, male and over the age of 30, you’re gay?

A:  Some messy and ratchet chic who secretly wants to be with you, but knows in her heart she’s not your type; someone who doesn’t have anything going for themselves; possibly an old man who’s yet married to a woman he hates and one Viagra pill away from a heart attack, andSOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that if you’re overweight it’s because you choose to live unhealthy, don’t want to exercise, and that you are so desperate you’ll do anything to find love?

A:  Some A-hole who’s never had to struggle with weight; who doesn’t know that just because you’re packing on an extra few pounds doesn’t mean you’re eating hamburgers for breakfast, lunch and dinner; and in regards to “desperate for love”, who ever told you that is truly ignorant to the fact, weight has nothing to do with love…  There are plenty of skinny people who are single, constantly sleeping with the wrong people, thirstier than a camel in an Arabian desert, and desperate…. Whoever told you this, is truly SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that you’ll never be anything?

A:  Some cursed individual who is unhappy with themselves and seeking to continue the “Generational Curse” passed on to them…  Someone who is negative, lack vision and lacks faith in you…  Someone who knows or doesn’t know the power of their words; someone who wants to get into your head, see you fail andSOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that you can’t be single and be happy?

A:  Someone who is married or unhappily married only to please the world; church members who are in your business more than they are in the word of God; someone who doesn’t realize being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely, someone who doesn’t realize SINGLE is a gift many married people want and SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that you’re unlovable?

A:  Someone who wants to hurt you; someone who doesn’t know God; someone who lacks the love of others and for themselves…  Someone who’s trying to get into your head and SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that God won’t forgive you?

A:  Someone who doesn’t know God; someone who probably has a one way ticket on the midnight train to Hell themselves; someone who wants you to live in shame; someone who doesn’t want you to know that each morning you wake up, NEW MERCIES AWAITS YOU andSOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q: Who told you that you can’t be married, have a family, and still have dreams?

A:  Some lost individual who has pawned their “Purpose” for a “Perception”…  A people pleaser who goes throughout their day trying to please their husband/wife and children, but never seeking to please themselves…  And SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

Q:  Who told you that beauty is in the way you look?

A:  Some egotistical, shallow and empty individual who struggles with their own identity, appearance, worth, and image…   Someone whose beauty stops with their skin, and SOMEONE YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE HELL ALONE…

What I know for sure is…  A lot of the morals and standards (BOTTOM LINE – LIES) many of you are basing your life on comes from people who didn’t make you, so they shouldn’t have the power to shape you….  People try and place their fears and hang-ups on you, DON’T LET THEM… Live “Commando”, free to be YOU…  No restrictions, no hang ups, and no desires to please anyone other than God…  Be careful of what trash (People thoughts, fears, and words) you allow in your can (Mind/Head)…

Let’s Go “Commando”…

Okay call me “green” if you want, but I didn’t know what the heck “commando” meant until here recently…  I was home watching a toilet paper commercial in which the lady asked “Do you feel clean enough to go commando?”  I’ve heard the term in passing, but never really took the time to inquire as to what it means…  So with the help of Google, I’ve been brought into the light…  For those of you who may be just as “green” as I am, “Commando” is a term in which describes men who chose’s to go without wearing underwear…  So to sum it up, they’re letting it all hang…  No restrictions, protection, warmth, and for some NO DECENCY…   Click “HERE” to read more)

You Are So Beautiful To Me…

Each morning even before you open your eyes, your beauty is what I see… The bare you with no makeup, no perfect hair, no body shapers, no designer clothes/shoes or anything else, I just see you and how beautiful you are…   You’re the right color, size and shape…    You’re just plain out perfect…  Sure you’ve changed over the years, but the older you get, the more beautiful you become…

As I look into your eyes sometimes I see the doubt…  You doubt yourself because of your weight, looks, and age…  Because of your past mistakes; the abuse you’ve experienced, and because of all the times you were told “You can’t”…  You fear rejection, abandonment and not being good enough, but if you could only see yourself through my eyes, you would see just how much you underestimate yourself…  You’ve allowed the Media to confuse you, and why I don’t know…  They didn’t make you, so they shouldn’t be able to break you…  You are one of the most powerful women on the planet…  You’re irreplaceable, undeniably valuable, and you’re a force to be reckoned with…   Don’t appraise yourself by the loss of relationships, jobs, and the lack of materialistic things…

I know you’ve dated a few knuckleheads in the past, but they didn’t depreciate you, only added value to who you are…  Through those relationships you’ve become so much stronger, but you have to feel it…  You’ve become so much smarter, but you have to believe it…   You’ve become so much wiser, but you have to apply it…  You are an amazing woman and that is why you’re so beautiful to me…  Your scars, stretch marks, wrinkles, weight shouldn’t stop you from seeing your beauty, it hasn’t stopped ME…  Your relationship status shouldn’t stop you from seeing it, it hasn’t stopped ME…  Your past shouldn’t stop you, it hasn’t stopped ME…  So as you go throughout this day, know YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL TO ME and hopefully this will make not only your face smile, but your heart as well.

God