With just one day away from beginning a new year I have to ask, what did 2015 teach you? What lessons did you learn? Are you a better person because of 2015? Or are you still the same person you were this same time last year? No matter who you are, here are three lessons of 2015 I believe you may have learned..
You’re A Survivor: No matter who you are, life is sure to navigate trouble your way…. Maybe you didn’t lose a loved one; job or home this year… Maybe you didn’t file bankruptcy, file for a divorce, or file away memories of what could have been, but you went through something in which today you now see you survived. When life introduced you to what appeared at the time to be devastating, you questioned whether or not you were strong enough to handle it, but you’re still here and you survived where many others would have thrown in the towel. What I know for sure is… You’re here today, December 30, 2015 because you’re a survivor…. Don’t underestimate yourself or the power within you, take this lesson into 2016 and allow it to push you into greater…
Trouble Don’t Last Always: Maybe your situation didn’t end the way you would have liked it, but it ended… Today you find yourself dealing with the residue of the situation, but in order to dig through the rubble left after the storm, YOU HAVE TO COME OUT OF IT… When life introduced you to what appeared to be devastating, you couldn’t see the bright light at the end of the tunnel because you were fearfully walking in the dark. You heard the scripture (Click “HERE” to read)
If women were just as thirsty about their dreams as they are a man, maybe then there would be more “whole”, “truly independent”, and “complete” women in the world… If men were just as thirsty about their future as they are hitting the “G Spot” of numerous women, just maybe there would be more “secure”, “strong”, and men who are truly bringing their “A Game” and not playing “Childish Games”…. It amazes me how people are “thirsty”, but for the wrong things… Their “Thirst” is real, but the ish they’re thirsty for isn’t helping them, nor is it helping you by being their friend… Did you know people can recognize who you are by the company you keep? The people in your circle hold the power to “make” or “break” you? Well it’s true, you’re “known for” and “only as good as” those you surround yourself with…
Some of you are living a mediocre life all because of the people you’re hanging with… They lack ambition, drive, passion and they’re satisfied with living from paycheck to paycheck. You want more out of life, but you can’t understand why you’re not getting it… Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe it’s because of the environment you’ve chosen? Your friends lack drive, so they’re not pushing you further into your future? Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not your friend’s fault if you don’t reach your goals… Whether or not you choose to reach your destination is completely (Click “HERE” to read more)
Regardless to whether or not you watch the news; active on Social Media or know someone who lives in the North Texas area, more than likely you’ve heard the devastating news… Today there are families without homes, families mourning the loss of love ones, and so many people realizing just how blessed they are to have had God’s hand of protection covering their lives… I live in the heart of Rowlett, Texas right at the edge of Garland, Texas… So I was dead center of everything going on, but God yet again showed His unmerited favor and mercy which allowed me to go unharmed…
Earlier that day I crossed paths with someone who has given me every possible reason to hate them… If I had the time, energy and felt like mentioning why I believe I have this right, it would take me days to finish this post… I can’t lie when we caught the eye of each other, anger began to arise, but I quickly coached myself out of it and continued to proceed with what I was doing. I wasn’t reminded of what was done, nor was I upset because of the past… Anger began to arise, because honestly I just want to be done with them… You see, I have every reason to hate this person, but they’re not worth it… They’re not worth the energy it takes to hate someone… They’re not worth the energy it takes to be angry with someone… They’re not worth the energy it’s taking to write this post, but I had to write it because one of you needs to read what I’m about to say…
You’re harboring hate and anger against someone who isn’t worth it… They hurt you horribly in the past and because of this you’re unable to move forward into your future… If you were to share your story with the world, the hate would be “justified” and “understandable”, but it’s not worth it… You see hating them is holding onto them… You can’t see it because you believe (Click “HERE” to read more)
Over the weekend I attended a well written, strategically thought out, and amazing production… The cast was awesome, props and set were great and the overall ambience of the night was spectacular, BUTTTTT somewhere we took a wrong turn… Now I’ve attended many productions throughout the course of my life and I’ve even graced the stage with my gifts a few times, but I’ve never attended a production in which there was a “Q & A”. Now let me put this disclaimer out there… Saturday I started using a new workout drink and it was said I was a little on the edge due to it, but now that the high is gone I want to give you all a fair assessment.
During the “Q&A” period, “When a single woman enters the church, why do married women clutch tightly onto their husband?” was asked by the moderator… I’m still somewhat baffled as to how this ties into the play, but I digress… Now what I don’t get is the play was amazing, but it turned into what I feel is the typical “Woman –vs- Woman” Saga… As I impatiently sat through the dialogue waiting to give my girl her props on the amazing job she did, I heard both sides of the stories… The single women voiced their opinion and a married lady from the audience voiced hers. Just as I was raising my hands, I guess they realized the question wasn’t going anywhere, so they shut it down… So briefly I’m going to share my thoughts..
First, I believe both parties have insecurities… The single woman as well as the married, but neither has anything to do with the other… I believe the married woman has insecurities for three reasons… First, her insecurities are driven not because she believes the single woman is “greater” than her or that she can take her man, but because she feels “less” than a woman in general… Her insecurities could have been created as a child by a parent; through her comparing herself to other women or for many others reasons, but the “single woman” isn’t one of them… Secondly, the married woman knows her husband… She knows what he is capable of (Click “HERE” to read more)
Okay, so maybe you have this friend… You know the one who constantly talks about their ex who has moved on with their life and not thinking about them??? It’s like they can’t hold a conversation without bringing up how they were hurt; repeatedly painting the picture of all the things their ex did wrong, or sharing how that experience molded them into becoming the person they are today… It’s like, “Chile puhleeze let him/her go cause who’s sick and tired of hearing about them is, ME…”
So many times in our efforts to prove just how strong we are, we reveal our weaknesses… Let’s take this friend here for example… In their attempts to prove how they’ve triumphed, they’re constantly rehashing and reliving a moment in which they have no power over… They say they’re over their ex, but secretly they just can’t seem to let them go… Inwardly they still feel victimized by this person, done wrong; used up and left to die… They’re somewhat bitter, carrying unhealed wounds, and those markings you believe are emotional tattoos of victory are really scars… They can’t let them go mentally because they haven’t let them go emotionally… So you’re wondering what is the difference, right??? Well I’m glad you finally (Click “HERE” to read more)
For most singles this is one of the most difficult times of the year… With songs, movies, and everywhere you look placing emphasis on relationships and love, most people who are single struggle with smiling inwardly during this time… Check out this the transparent video by John Patrick Adams..