Who Do Your Friends Say You Are Behind Your Back?

It’s been said “You learn who your true friends are when you’re going through something”, and boy ain’t that the truth…  Of course you have those friends who immediately come to help, those who never call to see how things are going, and those who are quick to say “I told you so”…  Regardless to which category they fall in, one thing you can guarantee is they’re talking about you behind you back…  You see its human nature for people to talk, possibly gossip, and for some people to even kick you when you’re at your lowest…  People are just being people, whether that’s good or bad, I don’t know…  But what I do know is…  They’re only talking about what you’ve given them to talk about…

Many of you are a walking problem…  You’ve allowed your problems to define you, so this is what your friends talk about behind your back…  Your constant financial, man/woman, health and mental problems have all become how people describe you when someone says, “I don’t know who they are, help me know them”…  So you’re the woman who sleeps with men who later leaves you…  You’re the man who couldn’t keep a job if you worked (Click “HERE” to read more)

The Answer Women Really Want…

This past weekend as you know I facilitated a Male Panel Discussion hosted by Fat By Design…  There were preset questions; however the audience was polled for questions as well…   As I scanned through those submitted by the audience, I must admit I’m glad we didn’t get to one of them…  It’s the most common question asked when women come together to chat with men, you know the dreaded “Why do men cheat?”  I was happy we didn’t get to this question for four reasons…  First, I think this question has been beat to death…  Secondly, I didn’t want to hear the ish these dudes were going to spit out… Third, the panelist weren’t qualified to answer why these ladies man cheated on them…  Lastly, this wasn’t the real damn question these women wanted to ask…  You see women really don’t want to know why men cheated, what they really want to know is “What’s wrong with me that caused him to cheat?”, “What is it she has that I don’t?”, and “Is there something I could have done better?”

So if you want to know why men cheat, here you go…  Men cheat because they CHOOSE to cheat…  It doesn’t have a damn thing to do with you…  You’re not less (Click “HERE” to read more)

Can You Walk Away???

So your man’s/woman’s not giving you what you need???  Emotionally unavailable??? Not willing to commit???  Not sure if he/she wants to marry you???  You want children in the future, but they don’t??? Why are you with someone who’s not only giving you what you want, but most importantly what you need???  Are you afraid of being alone???  Afraid of seeing them with someone else???  Are you waiting for them to change their mind???  Are you waiting for them to realize you’re this amazing woman/man they shouldn’t live without???

Many times we find ourselves connected with people we aren’t supposed to be connected to.  People who aren’t headed in the same direction as we are, people who don’t want the same things as we do, but we stick around…  We stick around (Click “HERE” to read more)

Do You Like What You See???

I’m blown away when I see people out in public looking a hot @$$ mess… Women with unkept braids (new growth is an afro), nappy weaves, flip flops with ashy heels; dingy, wrinkled, torn and just plain out ugly clothes…  Brothers, don’t think you’re getting off that easy, some of you come out the house looking pretty jacked up too… Grown @$$ men with sagging pants, unkept dreads that looks like you haven’t washed them in months,; just like the ladies you step out in dingy, wrinkled, torn and just plain out ugly clothes…  But many of you wonder why you’re single…  So let me ask you this, DO YOU LIKE WHAT YOU SEE???  If you noticed I never mentioned weight or size, because at the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter how big or small you are…  It doesn’t matter if you’re a size 0 or size 30….  It doesn’t matter if you have a six pack or a gut…  There is someone for everyone, but how you present the package determines if someone will accept or deny the gift…

Whether or not we want to admit it, but we are visual being who gravitates to what is appealing…  What I find funny is many of you reading this post right now have concluded no one is giving you a chance to prove how great of a person you are because of your size, weight, and color…  But how are you presenting yourself???  Just because you’re a plus size woman doesn’t mean you have to be sloppy…  Just because you’re a big man doesn’t mean you have to be slouchy…  YOU CHOOSE TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE LOOKING A MESS, THEREFORE THIS IS PROBABLY 60 PERCENT OF THE REASON YOU ARE SINGLE…  Now don’t get me wrong, we all have those Walmart moments…  You know those times when you think “I’m just going to run in here and get out”…  Trust me I get it, I’ve done it myself…  But do you go to Walmart every  (Click “HERE” to read more)

3 Men Women Should Run From…

Okay it’s Friday, so let’s keep it lite and get right to it…  Here are 3 types of men I believe all women should run from…

Married Men:  Now call me crazy, but if a man hasn’t filed for divorce, he’s married, right??  At first I was going to say “has a ring on his finger”, but that can be removed…  I don’t give a damn if his wife is on her death bed, living in a different state or house or she’s the craziest woman on the planet, if he is recognized by the government as being married, LADIES YOU SHOULD RUN…  “Separated” is married…  “In the process of getting a divorce” is married… “She’s dying and wants me to find a wife before she passes” is married…  Love is an “All or Nothing” type of thing….  If he can’t give you ALL of him, don’t you give him NOTHING…  It’s just that plain and simple.,,  Ladies, as stated in yesterday’s blog…  You’re the third smartest creature on the planet (Men being first, dolphins being second), don’t make us put you further down on the list…  He’s not going to leave his wife for you, so don’t waste your time on his lying @$$….  Get with a man who can give you what you deserve and stop wasting your time on a man who’s using you…

Fruitful Men:  Now call me crazy, but if a man has 5 kids with 3 different baby mommas, what in the hell can he do for you???  His check is split between homes, his time (Click “HERE” to read more)

The Women Men Run From…

This upcoming Saturday I will be facilitating F.A.T. by Design’s first “Play No Game” Male Panel…  So of course in me preparing myself, I began to think about all the different types of ladies who will be in attendance…  Of course there will be the “Educated Woman”, “Independent Woman”, “Plus Size Woman”, “Immature Woman”, “”B…h You Wanna Be Me” Woman”, “Ghetto Chic”, “T.H.O.T”, “Thirsty Woman”, and so many others I don’t have the energy to type right now….  But regardless to the background of the woman, they will all have one thing in common…  They will want to know “The Thoughts of a Man”…

It’s funny how women are the third smartest creature on earth (Men being first, Dolphins being second…), yet they can sometimes come off as the dumbest…  They are clueless as to why they are single, don’t’ understand why men treat them the way they do, and act as though they don’t know why men won’t stick around…  So today I’m going to help you ladies out, because more than likely, you are one of these women below…

So here we go…

“Clingy Woman”:  Now trust me, I’m in love with the ideal of “Old Fashion Love”…  You know when your mate was the first and last call of the day…  When you fell asleep on the phone…  When it was a “no brainer” the two of you were hanging out on the weekend…  The type of love that makes you want to be around your mate all the time…  Now that’s the type of love I want, but even “Old Fashion Love” gets to be too much…  Just because you’re drowning in love doesn’t mean your man doesn’t want to catch a breath of fresh air without you…  Everyone needs a break from each other..  Everyone needs to hangout with their friends…  Everyone needs time to miss each other…  No man wants a chic that smells his fart before he does because she’s all up under him…  Eeeeeesh, give your man a break before he breaks up with you…

“Aggressive Woman”:  “Confidence” has been lied on more than President Obama…  It’s used as the reason many of you are chasing men like a hyena in the dessert; the reason you’re inboxing men on Facebook you don’t even know saying “Can I ask you a personal question???”…  HELL NAW, I don’t know you personally, so why do you need to know anything personal about me??? Sorry, FLASH BACK… You’re saying you’re “Confident” enough to approach a man, but it’s not confidence, IT’S AGGRESSION…   Aggression is certainly a good thing, but in its right place…   I get you know what you want, but men are hunters and like the game (Click “HERE” to read more)