Final Post: How You Know They Just Wanna…

 

So yesterday’s post had some of you all up in your feelings…. DISCLAIMER:  Well if you thought I hit that spot yesterday, we’re about to go for round two…  Okay, I thought what better way to go out than with a bang (No Pun intended)…  Just a reminder, this will be my final post until 9.1.2015, enjoy your summer folks as I plan on doing the same…  Make sure to check out my weekly Vlogs, I have some pretty freaking hott topics for you all…  Happy Summer #ReplenishingTime

So how do you know they just wanna “Bump-N-Grind”, “Get All Up In Yo Guts”, “Knock Yo Boots”(Y’all remember that song), “Float In Your Ocean”, or for you ratchet folks, the “F Word”…  Yesterday’s blog talked about 6 Questions You Shouldn’t Answer On A First Date, so today I’m going to talk about “5 Ways You Can Tell If They Just Wanna….”.  Now to the defense of some folks, when they first went out on the date or met you, “sex” wasn’t the goal…  But after talking to you and realizing MENTALLY you weren’t attractive; you’re thirsty or too damn aggressive, they decided at least he/she should be compensated for dealing with you…

So here we go…

“What’s Your Favorite Position?”:  Now to some of you this may sound ludicrous, but many of you reading this post have been asked this and sadly to say, silly enough to answer it…  You thought it was kinda rude and inappropriate, but because they were so freaking cute and had everything you wanted in a mate, you went along with it…  Note:  If a man or woman asks you this in the early stages of getting to know you, you’re just another notch on their belt… This is not just men, but women as well…  We live in the era of the “Strong Woman” who has no problem sinking her teeth into a well primed piece of beef, so men don’t think you have the upper hand here, she’s not easy (Possibly a lil whorish), but you’re just have something she wants at the moment… #DontFlatterYourself

“What are you wearing?”:  Now it’s late at night, you just shared you’re lying in bed, so what else would you have on other than your pajamas???  To some women, they find this cute… “Awe, he wants to know what type of pajama’s I’m wearing”… NAWWWWW…  The only interest he has regarding your pajamas is them being taken off, it’s called “Phone Bone”…  Because you find them to be so freaking cute and they possess everything you want in a mate… Sadly to say, some of you play along, go through the motions and once he gets his, you’re mad because you didn’t get yours, he’s wrapping up the conversation, and you’re too aroused to go to sleep…  Note:  If a man or woman asks you this in the early stages of getting to know you, they have no interest in finding out what’s inside you, only in getting out what’s inside them… (You’ll get it on your way home…)

“Do you wanna come over and watch a movie?”:  Now unless he or she has a 72 inch 4k Samsung Curve Television, Bose Surround Sound, and a Samsung 3D Blue Ray (Click “HERE” to read more)

6 Questions You Shouldn’t Ask On The First Date…

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I came across a blog titled “10 Things a Woman Should Ask a Man on the First Date”, and to be honest, if I was asked all these questions on the first date, she would be paying for her own meal and back at home an hour earlier than she anticipated….  Trust me, I get the dating scene is hard, there are plenty of untrusting people, but if you’re asking all these questions on the first date, it now makes sense why you’re single and reading this post…

Dating is supposed to be fun, exciting, and a time when you explore the newness of getting to know someone…  It should NOT be used to interrogate, invade someone’s space, and pry into their past.  Many of you are wondering why you’re considered “thirsty”, well if you’re asking these questions, I can now see why…

So here are the questions the writer suggested…

  • Are you married/ have a girlfriend??? I believe this should be asked BEFORE going on the date…  Asking this question before saves YOU time and energy.  We’ve become a world driven by text messages and emails until everything is short and sweet, HELL NAW…  Before going on a date, you should at least have ONE conversation via PHONE and this is one of the questions you should ask…
  • Do you have children?This one is cool on the first date…  But make sure your motives are pure…  Women are game players, so don’t ask a man if he has children so you can pry into his business about the babies mother.. We know you for your works..
  • What do you do for a living?This one is cool…  But make sure your motives are pure…
  • Are you close to your mother?This one is cool, but can wait… Allow time to answer this one…

Do you ever want to get married and have children?  Not a first date question if the mood isn’t set and the conversation (Click “HERE” to read more)

 

 

Am I Enough???

 

Last night you went to bed wondering, tossed and turned the entire night thinking, and woke up this morning asking, “Am I Enough?”  Am I enough to keep their attention???  Am I enough to keep them happy???  Am I enough to keep them smiling???  Am I enough to keep them from leaving???

At some point you took ownership of something that doesn’t belong to you…  They lied, you owned it…  They cheated, you owned it…  They hit, you owned it…  They spoke words, you owned them…  You’re taking the blame for their actions and words, but they have nothing to do with you…  Many times we blame ourselves for the actions and words of others.  We personalize, make it our truth, live the lies and as a result of this, we question whether or not we’re enough.

One thing I’ve learned through experience is people are going to be who they are; it has nothing to do with you.  If they’re a liar, they’re going to lie…  If they’re a cheater, they’re going to cheat…  If they’re an abuser, they’re going to abuse…  Their actions aren’t a reflection of you, but a reflection of the person they truly are…  Another lesson I’ve learned through experience is people who tear you down with their words, suffer from their own insecurities…  (Click “Here” to read more)

You’re No Different Than The Others…

 

Yesterday I received a message from a loyal reader here at http://www.JohnPatrickAdams.com, see blow…

“How do I take the microscope off of the man that is trying to date me? I see one spot wrong and I want out, I think it’s going to be some bull sh.. to follow. I’m too old to play games.”

I thought this was a pretty interesting question and very applicable to many of you reading this post, so here we go…

When I first read the question, one word in particular stood out… “Microscope”…  You see with a microscope you have the ability to zoom in, focus on a particular area, and see things unnoticeable to the natural eye.  A microscope is normally used by those who are trying to find something, and one thing I’ve learned in life is if you go looking for something (flaws, imperfections, errors, etc. in a person), you’re sure to find it…  In no way am I saying the submitter of this question is bitter, broken and battered, but why is she examining every man to such an extreme degree?  Well here are my thoughts, it’s “Baggage”, but many of you call it “Experience”.  So let me take a quick minute to breakdown the two, for more detailed description make sure you grab a copy of “How to Win the Dating Game” when it’s released…

“Baggage” is the residue of hurt…  It causes us to dig, pry, and seek things which in many cases don’t exist.  At the slightest resemblance of our past, baggage flashes signals of danger, turn on the red lights of caution, and it erupts emotions we thought no longer existed.  Baggage is the judge and jury, without a trial (time and communication), “GUILY” is tattooed on the forehead of the other person.  Baggage is the driving force behind “All Men Are Dogs”, “All Men Play Games”,  “I Don’t Need A Man”, and it profiles every man as being the same.  Many people confuse “baggage” with “experience”, but there is a huge difference, “baggage” is carried, “experience” is applied…

“Experience” is the lessons learned from the hurt…  It causes us to effectively express our concerns, kills the need for digging into someone’s past, and it GROWS (Click “HERE” to read more)

If You Have To Asked, You Already Know…

If you’ve read any of my posts on dating, you may have noticed I’m a HUGE ADVOCATE for “having the conversation”…   In my experiences with dating, I’ve realized that simple yet complex conversation squashes so much unnecessary ish and drama in your life…  Many of you reading this post today are wondering where you stand in someone’s life…  You’re unsure of your status, afraid to ask because of the fear of losing them, and you’ve made some pretty STUPID choices in this situation…

Today, I’m going to talk about a few of the stupid things you’re doing or have done without clarification…

Using your body when you should use your mouth, to SPEAK that is…  Ladies, I’ve said it a thousand times, your cookies are no different than any other chic, yeah I said it…    To a dude they all feel the same just navigates his ship a little bit different.  Men, you may go deeper, make her moan a little louder, but to a woman who’s not into you, you’re just satisfying her temporary  (Click “HERE” to read more)

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