Struggling To Keep It Together…

The world says vulnerability is a weakness…  Seeking help is a flaw… Unable to handle the pressures of the world is failure…  And because of this, so many people including many of you reading this post are cracking…  Cracks as a result of an overwhelming amount of debt, relationship/marriage challenges, self-esteem issues, feeling unloved, depression, work, desperation and just from the struggles life presents each and every day…    You’re struggling to keep it together, to smile in the midst of how you’re feeling, but you’re screaming for your life inwardly…   If one more thing happens, you know you’re not going to be able to handle it….

Where is God, huh?  Where is the one who said He would never leave you, nor forsake you, huh?  Where’s the one whose promises are true, but seems like a lie right about now in your life, huh?  Well He’s right there …  You see the world has taught us “breaking” is a bad thing,, that we should be able to deal with everything that comes our way, and this is a big lie…  Trust me, I understand completely what you’re going through..  I know exactly how you’re feeling, because I’ve been there…

I know how it feels to be behind on bills…  I know how it feels to have problems at work…  I know how it feels to be in a crowded room and yet you feel alone…  I know how it feels to go through relationship issues…  I know how it feels to struggle with your identity, weight, self-esteem, and how it feels to be at a breaking point and no one recognizes something is wrong… I know (Click “HERE” to read more)

I’ll Have Milk In My Coffee, Please!!!

Yesterday I had lunch with a friend I hadn’t seen in years…  Educated, beautiful, entrepreneur, strong, single mother who just so happens to be WHITE…  Yep she’s Caucasian, a “Snow Bunny”, cream, and has been “milk” in a few African American brothers coffee.  I already know my African American Sisters are foaming by the mouth, but GET OVER IT…   As long as I’ve known her, I’ve always known her to date African American men…   Funny thing is I met her at an African American church where she was the only Caucasian in a ministry of over 300 people I gave leadership to…

I’ve been asked if I would date outside my race and to answer this question, I’ve never done it, but don’t have a problem with “milk” in my coffee…  I’ve had long conversations with my African American Sisters who tend to have a problem with African American men dating Caucasian women…  Now as ludicrous as this may sound, they tend to believe black men date white women because they’re able to dominate, control, and persuade them to do whatever they want…  It has also been said black men date white women because of sexual favors, financial gain, and because some black men can’t handle a strong black woman…  To all you women who believe this, here’s something for you to ponder…

 Black men don’t have to date outside their race to dominate, control or persuade women…  We don’t have (Click “HERE” to read more)

Be Unapologetic…

For years I apologized for how I felt…  I found myself constantly saying sorry for feeling hurt, upset, and disappointed.   It seems like, if these are my feelings, why is it I’m wrong for feeling them, huh???   Like many of you, I was made to believe my feelings were the result of me over-reacting, being dramatic, and wearing my feelings on my shoulders.  From childhood we’re taught not to express ourselves and how we should feel.  We’re taught it can be disrespectful to express how what was done bothered us, and still today many of you are continuing to live this way.

What I know for sure is…  You should never apologize for how you feel.  Your feelings are a part of your emotional (Click “HERE” to read more)

Thirsty For Love…

 

I came across a quote I thought was so true…  “Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely”

Many times where we go wrong with love is we’re not ready, but thirsty for it…  All our friends are either married or boo’d up, we’re lonely, and some of you are even desperate for it.  Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re ready….  Just because you’re educated, doesn’t mean you’re ready…  Just because you’re beautiful/handsome, phine, saved, sanctified and filled (Click “HERE” to read more)

You Are Your Words…

I’ve written numerous blogs on the power of our words, yet there are some of you who just don’t get it…  Repeatedly you curse yourselves with your words; you limit God with your words, yet you question why you’re in the predicament you’re in.  Are you one of these people I’m speaking about?  Are you speaking words in which are working against you?  Is what you’re seeing, what you’re speaking?  Well today, I want to talk about why your world is in alignment with your words….

Each morning I wake up I speak to God, myself, and the universe.  “I’m expecting amazing things today”…  To some this may sound as if I’m commanding God to produce an amazing day, and this is so far from the truth…  I know what God is capable of and how He never ceases to amaze me with what He does, so through me speaking this, I’m expecting Him to do nothing less than what He’s already done…  I speak it to myself because I have to believe it and position myself to receive and GIVE nothing less than amazing things….  And lastly I speak it to the universe, because I realize you get what you ask for…

Many of your worlds are upside down because you spoke it…  You speak words that not only limit yourself, but God…  You ask God to give you what YOU want, so this  (Click “HERE” to read more)

Why There’s No Reason To Cheat…

 

Why There’s No Reason To Cheat…

Monday, March 23, 2015

John Patrick Adams

Yesterday I was approached with the question “Why do men cheat?”  To be honest, I really had no answer.  In order to answer this question I would have to profile all men as cheaters, and this is untrue…  All men aren’t cheaters; there are some men who are, just like there are some women cheaters. After a bit more investigating into her situation, I realize she was a victim of cheating.  She was dealing with a 40+ year old boy who felt the need to step out of their relationship…  To be completly honest, I didn’t have an answer for her situation either.  In order to answer effectively and honestly,  I would need to know the history of their relationship, his past, and the state of mind he’s currently in…

People cheat for various reasons, but none of their reasons have anything to do with you…  Sure you’re a nagger, withholding sex, smell when you come to bed, kinda let yourself go, or maybe you’re just too available and nice…  There could be many reasons you give the other person to THINK outside the relationship, but none of these are reasons to GO outside the relationship…  I’ve cheated and I’ve been cheated on, so I know the pain of both sides….  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realize three things I want to share in regards to why there’s no reason to cheat…

1. You can choose NOT to cheat:  Cheating is a choice a person makes not a lifestyle, addiction, or incurable disease.  It’s a decision to go outside the relationship for a temporary fix (Click “HERE” to read more)