Throughout the process of writing “How to Win the Dating Game”, I’ve learned so much. While conducting interviews, polls and researching the web for information, there’s one thing in particular that stand out amongst the rest, “Attraction”. Several women I’ve interviewed all asked the same question, “Where are the good men?”; “Why do I constantly attract men who are losers?” After listening to their stories of how they’ve opened up only to be crushed, it was evident walls stand tall blocking them from finding love.
So today I want to talk about “How to Attract the Perfect Person for You…”
Did you know who we attract is a manifestation in the physical form of who we are? The people we attract mirror our inner being? Well it’s true… You attract who you are… I know some of you are thinking “I’m not a loser”, and maybe you’re not, but your job, financial status, nor physique determines who you attract. We are spiritual beings housed in a physical form living in a materialistic world… Your success has nothing to do with how successful you will be in finding a mate…
So you want to know, how do you attract the perfect person for you? Well to answer this question, YOU’VE ALREADY FOUND THEM… Depending on where you are in life today, determines who you will attract… Sadly to say, (Click “HERE” to read more..)
Life is filled with “Make or Break You” moments… Moments when you have to choose if you’re the victim or the victor… It could be at work, church, home, or even at the gym… No matter how hard you try to avoid them, they always find their way to you… I’m blown away when I see the smallest things tear down the strongest people… Their feelings are hurt, composure lost, and if you didn’t know any better, you would think the world is coming to an end by their actions… It’s like “Really??? You’re letting that get to you???”
People wear their feelings like the shoulder pads Linda Evans, Joan Collins and Dinah Carroll wore in “Dynasty”… Do you guys remember that show??? LOL… But it’s true, (Click “HERE” to read more)
Love, something we all crave… Whether it’s the love of God, a parent, spouse, partner or friend, we all desire it and go to great measures to get it… Love holds such power and in my opinion, it’s one of the greatest forces known to man… Love in its greatest act showed the world it’s power when a Man died for millions of people… Some who believes He exists and even those who don’t. Love can heal and restore, but it has been known to hurt and rip hearts…
Today your heart hurts from the rips and tears of your situation. You opened yourself up, showed yourself vulnerable, and you were hurt in return… After years of being married, he/she left you… After you did everything you could, they stole from you… You sacrificed and cared for them, yet they cursed you out… There’s no way in hell this can be love, BECAUSE IT HURTS SO BAD… All you can think is, Love has moved out… Hurt, anger, and hate have moved in…
Love can hurt like hell sometimes… It can cause you to do and think things you didn’t even know you were capable of… When (Click “HERE” to read more)
As I’m finishing up “How to Win the Dating Game”, I wanted to share a few nuggets of knowledge I’ve gained throughout this process. So many of you daters are becoming somewhat discouraged when it comes to finding love. You’ve repeatedly gone out on dates, yet no one seems to measure up. So the question of the day is, “Should I lower my standards for love?” And the answer to this question would be HECK NO… Never lower your standards to fit the offerings of someone else. Your standards SHOULD BE driven by your morals and beliefs, so these are non-negotiable… But for many daters, it is driven by their wants… Which brings me to my next question, ARE YOUR WANTS REALISTIC?
I’ve written a few blogs on “The List”… You know the list that holds all your wants, sketches your requirements, and paints a picture of what I like to call the “Perfect Mate”. You’ve created someone who only exists in your mind, yet you hold everyone to WHAT YOU CALL standards jotted down on your list… You should never compromise on your standards when they are realistic, however if your standards (Click “HERE” to read more)
We’ve all heard “Truth Hurts” and boy is this an understatement. I can remember when I used to give it straight up to people… I gave the uncut, unedited, and raw truth… Whether or not they asked for it, I gave them my truth… I can remember times when their response would be “John, you’re right”, but they were crushed and left feeling worse than before asking for my thoughts. At the time, I didn’t realize I was hurting in my attempts of helping.
As I’ve matured I realize people already know the truth… They know they’re overweight, making bad decisions, and living their lives recklessly. She know her husband/boyfriend is cheating; it’s wrong for him to call her out of her name, and that she’s crazy for staying in a situation that adds no value to her life. He knows his wife/girlfriend is manipulative, using him for money, and that he’s crazy for sleeping with her without a condom… People already know the truth, so why do we need to confirm what he/she already knows?
The truth does hurt, but it can heal if used properly… God showed me I was tearing people down with the truth… I was (Click “HERE” to read more)