“You Can Change The Year, BUT…”

Many of you are gearing up for 2014… You’ve written down the things you want to see change and sadly to say, your mind and thinking aren’t on the list… You want to drop some weight, improve your marriage, climb the corporate ladder, get married, increase the membership of your ministry and church, and the list continues to grow… What about your mind? Your thoughts? Your outlook on life? What about the mental diet you’re currently eating? The truth many of you fail to see is you can change the day, month, and year, BUT IF YOU DON’T CHANGE YOUR MIND, YOU’RE NOT CHANGING ANYTHING….

It’s December 31, 2013 and many of you are exactly where you were December 31, 2012. Nothing has changed this year and you’re wondering why… You put in the time, hit the gym, attended church, prayed and fast, but you’re no further than you were this same time last year… Could it be you’re mentally FAT? Weighed down by negative thoughts? Holding on to mistakes of your past? Making the lies of others your truth? Could it be you’re carrying around failures, hurt, self doubt, and pain? If you’re not ready to change your mind, 2014 is not going to be any different than 2011, 2012, 2013, or all the other years you’ve aimed to change…

The time has come for you to grow up and to become the man/woman you were created to be… It’s time out for impressing others, motives, facades, and misleading perceptions…. If you want to be better, THINK BETTER… If you want to be happy, THINK BETTER… If you want to see growth in your life, THINK BETTER… Every change starts with your mind… Your mind controls your success, weight loss, membership increase, and any other goal you’ve set….

You can lose weight, but if you don’t change your mind, you’re going to gain it back…

You can switch jobs, but if you don’t change your mind, you’re going to find yourself back working a dead end position…

You can plan events, conferences and revivals, but if you don’t change your mind, you’re going to find those who attended less interested than before they came…

You can clean your house, but if you don’t change your mind, you’re going to find yourself back in the midst of clutter…

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“Is It My Turn Yet?”

Another year has gone by and for many if not all of us we start reflecting. We think about what we have accomplished and what we haven’t. We think about why we haven’t accomplished what we thought we could in 12 months. Wondering how another year slipped by without taking the necessary steps to making our dreams come true. We vow just like last year not to let that happen again. We vow that this is the year that you will do you. This New Year will be all about you and no one else.

That idea may work until someone ask you to help them with something. You immediately say yes because you don’t want to disappoint them. You don’t want to feel guilty for saying no. Your back to were you were the year before. You’re (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Get It Together”

It’s 5 a.m. and I can’t sleep… Not sure if it’s the “On The Border” I ate late last night or if I’m just that excited about getting the day started… Whichever it is, as I laid there in bed I thought about a conversation I had on yesterday and felt this was something I needed to share with you.

I received a call from a friend I’ve known my entire life and before I could get “Hello” out; she says “I need to talk to you as my brother”. Instantly, I knew this was about to be a heavy conversation. She proceeds to tell me she’s breaking up with her boyfriend of many years. She’s reached a point in their relationship in which she wants to be married and sees no growth and feels the two of them aren’t headed in that direction. Being the great listener I am, I allowed her to empty her heart (Sometimes people just need someone to listen). After about ten minutes of listening, she was empty. She had completely expressed her concerns and I could feel she wanted my thoughts. Now everyone knows my motto, “Do you want the truth? Or something beautiful?” As a friend, I’m going to give you “MY” truth because beauty isn’t going to help the ugliness of your hurt. Plus, I believe she knew I was going to have the “Get it together” conversation as well.

I asked, “Are you ready for marriage?” she replies “Yes”, I replied “No”…. I’ve known her for years and I knew some of her past struggles. For years she’s blamed herself for things that are out of her control. Food became (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Stay On Your Grind”

So you’re quitting, huh?  You’re tired, frustrated, discouraged and to be frank, you’re pissed….  You’ve done everything you could to bring your vision to life, but no one is getting it?  You look on YouTube and see videos about foolishness with millions of viewers, yet your life changing video only has sixty hits (30 in which are yours).  You post an inspirational quote and receive four likes (1 in which is yours), but the post about your friends lunch has over a hundred.  You’ve hosted event after event and only your family showed up, but someone host a party and there’s standing room only… 

What is wrong with this picture????  You’ve labored; spent countless hours creating, planning, praying and fasting, invested money, but it all seems to be in vain.  Is this God’s way of showing He has a sense of humor?  Why would He plant and impregnate you with a vision if He’s not going to help give birth to it?   So you’re asking, “What should I do?”

Wellllllllllllllllllllllll, YOU STICK WITH IT…. Right now you can’t see the need to continue because you’re not receiving the support, response you would like, and it appears to be much easier to quit.  But honestly, YOU’RE DISTRACTED…..  You’re distracted by the number of likes, hits, comments and accolades others are receiving…   You’re distracted by the lie’s of family and friends who said they would support you and they’re not…  You’re distracted by the empty seats, low investment return and by YOUR OWN (Click here to read more… http://TheTruthBowl.com )

“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

Thoughts of suicide run through my mind, hurt fills my heart and pain is now my best friend. I’ve been hurting for so long until now I’m numb to everything. Drowning in pain I find myself trapped in a world of misery, I hold the key to the cell, but the hurt keeps me sitting in a corner like a helpless child. I’ve prayed for help, a breakthrough and deliverance, but nothing seems to be happening. The world I’ve worked so hard to build is crumbling right before my eyes, but no one seems to see I’m crumbling right along with it.

Right now I’m hanging on by a thread and the only thing getting me through the day is my faith in the fact God is going to turn this around for my good. I’m on an emotional roller coaster, broken, hurting and I’m ready to give up. Every morning I dread going through the day. Life has become so draining and I’m tired of having to live my life as though nothing is going wrong.

I’m tired of doing the right thing; tired of treating those who purposely and maliciously set out to harm me(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Help Wanted”

I remember being in kindergarten sitting on my bed trying to tie my shoes. My mom walked by and saw me struggling and stopped what she was doing to help me get my shoes tied just right. I didn’t even have to ask. When I was a little older maybe 7th grade struggling with math I went to my teacher and asked for help. She sat me down after school and tutored me. I probably would have failed that class if I hadn’t asked for the help.

When we were little kids we counted on people for help. Not just our parents but people period. As a child you expected someone provide a helping hand with or without you asking. As I child you had no problem asking for help. You knew you needed the help so you opened your mouth and asked for it.

As we get older we have shied away from taking help from anybody. We won’t ask even if we do need it. Maybe it’s pride or just plan stubbornness. We would rather suffer then ask some one for a helping hand. Why would you rather suffer when there is someone that can help you? What’s the saying: “closed mouths don’t get fed”.

The Truth Is… There is nothing wrong with asking(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Be Happy As Long As…”

Many of you are living your life miserable because you’re pleasing everyone else but yourself. You’re screaming on the inside because you feel trapped in a world created by those around you. They say “I want you to be happy” and this is true, but only if it doesn’t inconvenience them in anyway.

Your entire life you’ve aimed to make your parents happy by being the perfect child, getting married, having children and doing all the things that make them smile, but what about you? Did they ever ask what makes you happy? What puts a smile on your face? What direction in life you want to travel? No, because in many cases their definition of happiness doesn’t even include you….. Your happiness is second to theirs…. As long as you’re following in their footsteps, doing what they believe is best, living their failed dreams and not bringing shame to the family name, you’re (they’re) happy.

Now you’re all grown up and still find yourself making everyone else happy while you’re miserable on the inside. You’re working a job because that’s what someone thought was best for you… You married a man because that’s what someone thought was best for you… You are the Pastor of a church because(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )