“Preacher’s Shouldn’t Get Paid”

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Ok, tonight is the season finale of “Preachers Of L.A.” and there will be more saints glued to their television than a Thursday night of “Scandal”. From gold chains to tattoos these five men have proven just because you’re a preacher doesn’t mean you can’t have swag. It’s “Did They Just Say That?” Wednesday and you already know we’re going there….

I must admit, I’ve watched every episode of this show and honestly not because it’s a good show. But because I’m captivated by the fact they’ve chosen to expose their mess for all to see. Now of course, is there really such a thing called reality TV? Or is everything scripted? In the case of “Preachers Of L.A.”, I would have to go with more SCRIPTED…. If you pay close attention, you’ll notice they have the 6 typical characters needed to make a successful show.

You have the “Holy Roller”, Bishop Clarence McClendon… The “Radical”, Dietrich Haddon… The “Explorer”, Jay Haizlip… The “Hood Rat”, Bishop Ron Gibson… The “Why Were You Cast”, Bishop Wayne Chaney… And lastly, the “Play Boy”, Bishop Noel Jones…. Now if you didn’t know this was scripted, the last should have triggered something in your head…. Come on now, Noel Jones a PLAYBOY????? Now I know women love men in leadership, but for all the foolishness he demonstrates on this show, either his cabinet is filled with Viagra or Needles, or this is a bad brother…. Did they just say the “V” word? And that would be a hard yes…….

But the most talked about, discussed, and criticized for all these men is their lifestyle, money, cars, and homes…. Now this is where the reality comes in to play… It’s amazing (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Closet Stories”

Truth: Clothes can tell a story….

Here’s the truth….

Earlier this week I went through my closet and decided I needed a few new things. My closet mirrored the past few years of my life. I saw reflections of the bad relationships causing me to gain weight, leaving me with dresses much too big. There were also reflections of my fabulous day when my clothes fit perfectly. The low cut blouses that made every man look, the dresses that gripped me in all the right places, and the pants that dropped me 2 sizes. My history hung right in my face, telling a story only I could understand.

As I stood there I saw the tears, smiles, failures and accomplishment, but what I didn’t see was ME. I saw the “Fat Woman” who binged behind(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“Thankful??? For What???”

Truth: Everyday is a day of Thanksgiving……

Here’s the truth…..

Thanksgiving Day 2009 (November 26, 2009) is a day I will never forget. It’s 3 a.m. and I’m sound asleep when I feel a tingling on the left side of my face. Before I could open my eyes, the tingling becomes pain and I feel pressure around my neck. Instantly my eyes open, my hands gravitate towards my neck, and I hear a deep voice shouting “B#%^&, I told you not to……”. Gasping for air and fighting to remove his hands, I began to drift away. I can remember clearly the anger in his eyes, the rage in his voice, and feel the pressure of his hands as they clamped my neck.

Not knowing what was going to happen to me, I began to cry out, “God, please help me”. When I said this it would seem like my Ex would have taken his hands off my neck, but he didn’t. I guess he wanted to shut me up, so he applied more pressure. It’s now(Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“I Hate Construction”

I live in the Dallas – Fort Worth (DFW) area and the DFW area is under a major construction project. Every highway you drive on has some type of construction on it now. Travel times to one point to the next point are longer now because you have to consider traffic and construction. At the end of your commute you’re more exhausted because you were detoured because your original route had construction.

The other day as I was driving home I passed a bridge they are constructing to handle our public transportation train. I saw the bridge in a different way. I saw the completed project as the architect and the visionaries has seen it. I saw the bridge commuting thousands of people across the metroplex.

As I was thinking about the construction it brought me to how we are under construction. We are growing, expanding, or changing all in one. Just how construction (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“The Things I Hate About Myself”

Close your eyes for minute and imagine the most beautiful, flawless person… Can you do it? More importantly have you ever seen that person walking around your neighborhood? My guess is you probably haven’t.

I was looking at this show called What Not to Wear. This show is not just about makeovers for the not so fashionable, but it’s also about building self esteem. A lot of these people on the show have serious issues with their bodies and it has caused them to cut themselves off from the world. Let’s face it we all have things we don’t like about ourselves. However when these things start to effect how we live our lives then it’s a problem.

I can’t stand my nose, it’s too wide. My face is too fat. I would never look good in that outfit I am too fat. My hair is too course, lips too big, butt to flat, feet too big wide, belly to flabby… Men and women are constantly inflicting verbal abuse on themselves. Saying words that cause their self esteem to get so low they don’t know how to get back up. Beating ourselves up until we want to hide or take extreme measures to change who we are or what makes us unique.

It’s sad to think about how we have more unkind words to say about ourselves then we have kind words. We are also more likely to believe the negative things people say then the positive. It’s hard to hear how accepting people are of you when you’re not accepting of yourself.

The Truth Is… No one on this earth is perfect everyone has a flaw or flaws (for lack of a better word). These flaws are not designed to make you a freak or ugly. They are there to make you unique. It’s something that you have that no one else does. Yet we think of them as hindrances things make us imperfect not only to ourselves but to the rest of the world as well. Things that make us lose confidence in ourselves. Things make us hide away from the world and not take our rightful place in it. I can’t imagine not taking a chance on living my dreams because I have a scare on my face. Not applying for my dream job because I carry around a couple of extra pounds. It’s all superficial. We all want to look good on the outside and trust me you can. But no extreme makeover in the world is going to help you until you start embracing who you are. God made each of us in his image which makes us beautiful. Flaws and all. So be accepting of yourself and you won’t have to rely on someone else to tell special, kind or how beautiful you are. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself you are beautiful. Do it as many times as you have to until you believe it. The words that you say to yourself have a far greater effect on you then anything anyone else can say. I love this quote “There are only two people that can love you without disappointment, you and God” by Bernajoy Vaal.

“Make The Call”

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I consider myself to be a very strategic person. Before making any decisions, I examine the overall impact it will have and plan accordingly. Recently, I had to make a decision on the spot and there was no time to plan. For some this would have been a hard decision, but because of God’s track record, I didn’t think twice about it.

God has proven numerous times to be faithful; no matter what, He has my back; His plans are divine and strategic as well, and He uses every situation in life for future purposes. Now to be honest with you, I’ve found myself to be cocky or too confident in this fact… So confident I failed to ask Him for help… The decision I made has changed things for me, adjusted my finances, and taken me from one of the things I truly love to do. Because of the strength, independence, and assurance in His power that I possess, I found myself waiting for Him to come through as He always has.

This morning I woke up and examined things since making the decision. In the past by now God would have turned things around, shown me His plan and given me complete peace in what was happening, but this time was different. I still don’t know what’s next, where I’m going and when I’ll get there. So as I laid there in bed puzzled, wondering what was going to happen and why I hadn’t heard from God, He spoke and said “Because you haven’t asked for my help. You’ve been doing everything on your own, calling all the shots, and writing (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )

“You Wear It Well”

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Yesterday I was talking with a friend and throughout the conversation she repeatedly mentioned a name I didn’t recognize. Assuming I knew who she was talking about, she continued on with the conversation. Finally I stopped her and asked “Who are you talking about?”, she responds “You know the one who’s….” Instantly I knew who she was talking about by the description in which she gave.

Just like the lady above, many people are known by their circumstances, issues, problems, and heartaches. Because they’ve dressed themselves in their worries, people know them by the clothes (problems) they wear. Versace, Michael Kors, nor Tommy Hilfiger could tailor the clothes they wear so perfectly… Others use their clothes (problems) to describe them: “Girl, she’s the one whose husband left her and 3 kids all by themselves”; “Jim, the man whose borrowed money from the church and didn’t pay it back”; “Lisa, the one who went to prison for…. “Their issue has inadvertently become their names and not because it happened to them, but because they surrendered to them. They lost the battle to their problems and oppose to conquering them, they became the victim.

This morning at the gym I was speaking with a guy I see daily. He’s always smiling, positive, upbeat, and one who never misses the opportunity to give others a “smile”. As we stood there and talked he shared he was just diagnosed with Cancer last week. As I watched (Click here to read more…. http://www.TheTruthBowl.com )