Embrace This Moment…

 

One thing I love is the first encounter you have when walking into a bakery…  It’s like you’re greeted with the fresh sweet aroma of cakes, cookies and breads…  For a brief moment, it’s heaven on earth and before you know it, the moment has left you…   In what feels like a split second the scent is interrupted by body scents, conversations, music and interactions…  Because mentally you’ve been transported into other places, you’re no longer living in the sweetness floating in the air…

Just like the above scenario, many of you are mentally distracted…  You’ve allowed various things to transport you out of the moment and unfortunately, you’re missing out on the sweetness of your life…  We’ve been trained to work for the “next” and not to enjoy the “now”…  Some of you have done some extraordinary things in your life, but you never took a moment (Click HERE to read more)

 

 

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5 After Break-Up Tips…

 

I hate messy break-ups…  Break-ups filled with confusion, drama, and toxic behavior…Most times breaking up becomes hard because of our own doing…  Whether it’s trying to hold on to someone who has asked to be let go of or because people have a problem with taking control not of the situation, but themselves and walking away with a sense of dignity…  Today I want to share with you 5 things that helped my most recent break-up feel like a dream…

So here we go…

CUT TIES:  Where many of us go wrong is we never cut the rope keeping us attached to the one we’re leaving…  In a perfect world, it would be wonderful if we could continue talking, texting, emailing and even dating the one we’ve broken up with, but we don’t live in a perfect world…  Whether your relationship ended happily or horribly, ties must be cut initially.  If after a few months the two of you agree to build a relationship, cool.  Initially you need time to process and accept the breakup without the interference of the one you just left.  Cutting ties is it a gift you give to you, not a punishment placed on them…

FORGIVE YOU:  Forgiving has proven to be one of the most difficult task for many people…  Many find it much easier to forgive those who have committed horrific acts rather than the one who allowed those acts to be committed.  Throughout our lives we’ve always been taught the power of forgiving others, but never the power of forgiving ourselves.  Forgiving (Click HERE to read more)

HERstory…

 

In the history of every woman, there is a man…  Obviously there’s a father…  Possibly a brother, cousin, friend, boyfriend, husband or ex-husband…  Whichever role these men played in her life, each of them contributed to what she believes a man should be in her future….  Mentally she’s taken attributes and qualities of these men and created one… For some women the man they’ve created possesses all the great qualities of these men and when she encounters one who doesn’t, she quickly scratches him off the list and continues her pursuit of finding the man who doesn’t exist…  On the other hand, there is the woman who creates the one man who possess all the negative qualities of the men in her past…  Mentally and emotional she creates a man out of fear and every man she meets is either eliminated or turned off by her…

The history of a woman is something most men never seek to know…  Because of this, they’re clueless to her story…  You know the story of why she is the way she is???  Why her expectations are as high or low as they are… (Click HERE to read)

Here’s What You’re Missing Out On…

If only God blessed us with the ability to see what’s ahead of us…  You know like if we could see the outcome before even going through the process???  If only He gave us the ability to know the dangers waiting on the other side…  Would we listen?  Would we take heed to the warnings?  Would we view the forecast of the storm and take shelter???  Probably not…  You see so many of us fear missing out…  We fear if we don’t take the risk we could possibly lose out on the best times of our lives…  So instead of taking heed, we jump into the car labeled “Death”, shift into gear, and drive the road in which was blocked off for our protection…

So many times (Click HERE to read more)

When Your Past Becomes A Problem In Your Present & Future…

 

So on Facebook I follow “Kings Charles’ Questions of The Day”…  A pretty cool group in which opens the floor for members to post questions regarding situations they’re currently facing…  So yesterday a young lady posted a question I found to be pretty interesting…  Check it out…

“Hey Group, I have met this wonderful man!  He is 44 years old with no children.  He makes around $150K a year, and owns his own business.  Has a (4) bedroom home (Mortgage Paid Off) and the best sex I have ever had in my life!  He cleans and cooks like a 5 Star Chef.  Oh yea, he gives me the best massages and loves all of my curves and imperfections and all!  Every weekend he wines and dines me and randomly surprises me with flowers.  He is a great son and uncle, and he mentors the youth.

One issue…  he’s bisexual and has had sex with 1 man before.  He wants to be exclusive with me and plans to marry me…  What am I gonna do!”

So here we go…

Either this is a lie she’s made up or she’s just seeking some attention… If you notice she starts out listing everything he brings to the table…  You can tell this chic either has nothing herself or she’s driven and impressed by those who do…  Trust me I get she wants to paint a clear picture of the wonderful man he is, but what does these things have to do with her…  Also if you noticed, she never expresses whether or not she likes or loves him…  Whether  (Click HERE to read more)

I Trust You…

 

Isn’t it amazing how life has a way of making us prove not to the world, but to ourselves who we are?  How the lessons of our past surfaces in our present?  Here recently I’ve found myself at war…  A war between my heart and mind…  My heart says “Hell naw, don’t do it.   You were hurt before, don’t you remember???”, but my mind says “You can do it, you’re equipped to handle anything comes your way”.  So which do I go with?  Do I go with the heart who felt the hurt and pain?  Or do I follow my mind who remembers how I overcame the hurt and the pain felt before???

The reason I began blogging was because of hurt…  Hurt felt over the years that fortunately I was able to overcome, but I can remember the days in which I didn’t think I would…  I can remember the dark moments; moments of feeling betrayed, and the times in which I felt abandoned by God.  I can remember saying “How did I allow this time to happen?” as well as “I will never be here again.”, but today I find myself standing before a door that looks so similar to the one in which hurt was waiting for me on the other side…  So again I ask, which do I go with???  Do I go with the heart who felt the hurt and pain???  Or do I follow my mind who remembers how I overcame the hurt and the pain felt before???

Honestly, I’m afraid but I’ve decided to follow my mind and I’ve convinced my heart to as well…  Currently (Click HERE to read more)

I “Like” Me More…

 

I had to learn I have to love myself more than I want my family, friends, and the world to love me…  No matter the state i might find myself in, I have to love myself no matter what…  Each morning I wake up, I say “John, I love you and you’re sexy, smart, gorgeous, and an amazing gift to the world”…   There are days I don’t feel it, but I’ve realized we don’t always feel our greatness, but it’s there…  Social Media can really mess you up if you let it… It’s amazing how in order to get thousands of likes you have to show some skin,  suppress your greatness and stoop to levels you never imagined…

Many of you reading today have found your place of feeling loved through Social Media.  You post, the world likes  and instantly you’re validated… You feel beautiful/handsome, desirable, smart and you feel as though someone cares you even exist…  For you a “Like”  represents the words spoken to you as a child aren’t true…  It represents someone sees you…  It represents (Click HERE to read more)